M.L. asks from Oakley, CA on June 20, 2008
Advice with Potty Training
Hi. I have a 2 year 3 month old girl that I really need to start potty training. I am looking for some advice on how to start her seriously potty training. We have introduced her to the potty- she has her own seat that sits on the toilet and she will use it sometimes, but she does not always seem interested in using it. She will tell me when she has to go #2, but does not want to try going on the potty. Any suggestions on how to get her on track with potty training? It is difficult at times to give her the time and attention she needs as I have 5 month old to take care of as well. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! I obviously haven't done this before:) and would like to try to get her trained. My mother keeps asking me how it's going with her, and continues to tell me that she had me potty trained at 18 months during the day. No pressure from the family!!
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S.H. answers from San Francisco on June 27, 2008
I have a son so this could be different, but I kept a jar of marshmallows, and gummies and every time her went potty in the toilet he got one marshmellow, if it did #2 then he got a gummie. Along with picking out his own big boy underwear.
C.B. answers from San Francisco on June 21, 2008
When the time came, my daughter very much enjoyed watching the video "My Little Potty" (I think was the title---red cover, cut-out paper art kind of girl on the front)She fell in love with it, and it helped a great deal.
D.A. answers from San Francisco on June 21, 2008
I have two girls, one trained 24/7 at 24 months and the other trained 24/7 at 22 months. I have had success with all friends that try it this. Potty training has absolutely nothing to do with "when the kids are ready" it is all up to the parents and it takes a ton of patience! So--here is what you do. Go tomorrow to toys or babies r us and buy two or three sit down potties. One for the car, one for the bathroom and another if you have a really big house and can't move the potty around that easy. Do not put panties on, they are a false sense of protection. Just dresses and leggings, or pants, shorts whatever, but no panties, they think they are diapers. No pull ups either, they are diapers. Try to stay at home for a couple of days when you start. Whatever your daughter likes on t.v. will help, with a little favorite food bribe. First thing in the morning let her watch "her favorite with a little bowl of food on her lap, do this whenever possible to get her to sit on that toilet. Whatever it takes, I have read books while she sits on it, given her a bowl of honey nut cheerios, pulled a table up to the toilet and to do puzzles with her while she sits there. Sometimes she is on the toilet for a very long time. When she goes I show everyone in the house, we hoot and holler and jump up and down and dance and let her put a sticker on the lid. Try to get her to sit on it every twenty to thirty minutes. If you do have to go somewhere, you have your car potty. I used that car potty for almost a year after both kids were fully potty trained. There will be accidents, so always have a couple of back up pants, socks and shoes. The night time will be secondary to daytime. Once you are totally solid on the day that night training can begin. You have to see how long the bladder can last during the day. Nighttime training is a bit more exhausting, but we moms can handle it!
With my first we had to wake up in the middle of the night and change all the sheets on the bed if she had a mistake, we made a big "todo" about it. Just made it a little annoying for her, but we never ever ever got angry. She only had three mistakes and never wet the bed again. My second just kind of "got it" and she peepeed before bathtime, got in bed without a drink of water and went pee first thing in the morning--no accidents.
It is all up to you mom, can't be lazy about this one, just think about the nasty landfill.
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C.P. answers from San Francisco on June 20, 2008
My advice is not to push it, you can and it will work but it will take longer and be a big frustration for you. My little one has started being interested, since his older brother, mommy and daddy go in the "big boy potty". We make a big deal about this. I bought him a little potty, that we have sitting in the living room (it keeps him remembering that it's there). The first day we got it he wanted to sit on it, and then he didn't anymore, but now a few weeks later he will come up to me and ask me to take off his pamper so he can sit on his potty. He has only gone once, but it's on his terms and we make a HUGE deal about it everytime he even sits on it.
I don't have girls, I've heard they are easier than boys, but I don't think potty training is easy either way.
About your mother, my mother-in-law was the same way. "I had them potty trained by 18 monhts" " I had them potty trained in 3 days"...It was really hard when it came to my first son and now she is already asking with my second (he is 2 1/2) all I say is that we are working on it and making progress, we are letting him do it when he is ready. And since you have a little one it may be harder (my first regressed when I had my second), or if you make a HUGE deal out of it maybe she will love the extra attention and do it, but don't push her - you have so much going on already!
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C.B. answers from Sacramento on June 21, 2008
2 years 3 months is way young to be toilet training. Not only are most children (even girls) not physically ready until they are 3, but the stress and upheaval of a new baby is really hard! Even older children who are well establised toilet users often regress when a new baby comes. My mom used to say that children aren't toilet trained, mothers train themselves when to put the child on the toilet and she was too busy for that. If you wait, your daughter will decide when she is ready to use the toilet and then it is super easy because she is invested in her success. Really! Don't be in such a rush--diapers are so much easier especially when you are have such a little baby taking up so much or your attention. Tell your mother that you have decided not to try yet, you just aren't as good a mother as she was and can't live up to her example. Hopefully she will either feel guilty for making you feel bad, or will be gratified that you recognized her wonderful mothering skills and will give it a rest for a little bit!
J.P. answers from San Francisco on June 22, 2008
At 2 she is still on the young side. My oldest was potty trained at just over 3 and my youngest was pushing 4. Just keep the potty available to her and don't push. When she is ready she will use it. We always had an open door policy so the kids saw us use the potty and knew that they needed to use it too.
And as for the kids that were trained at 18 mos. It was truely the parents that were trained. If they didn't put their kid on the potty at even intervals (every 2 hours or so) they would be going potty in their pants.
Don't let anyone pressure you. They will not be in diapers forever.
S.R. answers from San Francisco on June 21, 2008
I have a 2yr old girl as well, I also had a hard time. I asked a few friends and they mention to me to buy the elmo potty time dvd. It really works, all of a sudden she would say poop poo and would go potty. Sometime she has accidents but I tell her its okay, so she stays encourage. My daughter watch the dvd for 3 day and it works. Now in the morning when I am doing dishes and picking up a little around the house. I put on so it entertains her and keeps her focus on letting me know she need to go potty.
K.M. answers from San Francisco on June 21, 2008
That might be still a little bit young for serious training. Rewards for good tries and successes and no pressure or negativity or for not making it to the potty is the key. This is one thing they have control over and will demonstrate that if pushed. Still closer to 3 is what I have found the normal age with my local mothers club members. It takes a while for them to get the hang of it.
Good Luck !!
L.K. answers from Sacramento on June 21, 2008
My name is L. and have a 12yr. boy and a 9yr. girl. I remember that age very well. As you know girls tend to potty train easier. I had my daughter trained by exactly 2ys. Because she did show an intrest but what really helped me was to buy a little potty that she can sit on her self and it was the musical kind. Everytime she would pee it made music! And of course she became very excited and we gave her such praise. With my son I used a little potty as well. Then the big potty by putting cherrio's in the big toilet so he could aim at them when he would try to pee. That became very fun for him there also some other fun thing you purchase for them to use as well. He was potty train by 26 months. Also it was around spring time, out in the back yard I would let him go naked ask him every so often if he had to go potty and he would say yes. I would let him pee on the bush, he got the biggest kick out of that. Then when we were in the house he under stood the urge. I would ask him lets go potty and he would go use his little potty and then the cherrio game came in about that time as well. Hope this helps and good luck oh, and I never used a diaper in between did not want to confuse them. Only used pull ups a night. Underwear all day!
N.C. answers from Sacramento on June 21, 2008
She is still young to be potty training. I wouldn't push it because it can cause bigger problems in the future. I know it seems hard to have two in diapers, but it's easier than cleaning up messes. Have patience and good luck.