This is the best advice I can give. I haven't been through miscarriages, but I did deal with infertility problems and had to resort to in vitro fertilization to get my kids here. I also dealt with miscarriage scares as I spotted (and even bled) in the early stages of 2 of my 3 pregnancies. So I may not understand completely where you are, but I can relate to how stressful it can be to get a healthy child here when things are not going like clockwork. The one thing I learned from all of that is that, unfortunately, we are not in control of all aspects of our lives. We cannot always control when we are able to get pregnant & we are not able to control whether or not any given pregnancy will result in a full-term, healthy baby. For me, it was important to realize what I could and could not control. All I could control is getting proper medical advice, and then following it. As I understand things, at 10 weeks of pregnancy, the only thing you can control is making sure certain hormones are at the proper levels (like progesterone). Other than that, there is not much you can do to prevent early stage miscarriage. For me, it helped - as difficult as it was - to accept that what was going to happen was going to happen - with or without my consent - and to work on adjusting my thoughts to accept that, learn what I could from it, and concentrate on being okay no matter the outcome...knowing that I was already doing everything I possibly could, and the rest was out of my hands. Once I got to a place of acceptance, it became much easier for me to cope with what was happening. It was still difficult at times, but I wasn't stressed & sad all the time. Sometimes it helps going to the worst case scenario in your head & realizing you can handle it. What really stresses us out, I think, is being in resistance to things we can't control. Try not to worry about what you "should" be feeling. It's okay to feel the difficulty of the situation. Just try to adjust your thoughts. Do what you can, educate yourself as much as possible, and then accept that you've done everything you can. I hope this is helpful to you. I'm sorry you're going through this. And I wish there were an easier way to get through it...in my experience, this is all that helped me.