You are to be commended! And if no one else ever tells you, you are brave and strong. Parenting is a thankless job. And, it's one that also is full of trials and challenges that go beyond those the young people bring to the family. But, the end result is what you must keep in mind. Your heart was in the right place, and you did what no one else in your family had the guts to do. If they are improving and the children are still anchored to their biological family, that is a treasure that no money or words can ever express. You have no idea of what the future holds for those children. Yes, the present is extremely uncomfortable. It will be hard for a while to come. But, if you continue to teach each of them to carry their share so that you can continue bringing necessities into the family, you can all pull through. Teach all of your children that failure on their part will be a choice. All they have to do now is do their best and help so that you all can stay a family together. As for the biological mom, I believe you have chosen a wise course. If there is another place they can meet, fine. It holds her accountable, and still gives them access to her. If and when she recovers, they will have some connection to her. Right now, just remember she's not herself. If other families continue to spread the gossip, tell them, you know, that really makes doing this so much harder. I know she's ill right now, so we don't need to spend a whole lot of time rehashing her negative thinking. I need help, not hurtful words, right now. You see what's going on over here, so is there anything that you're willing to take on? You might choose other words, but you get the point, right? This is a family crisis, and everyone can either help, or if you're alone, take the help offered from the foster care system, but be encouraged. It has been done. It's not easy, it's not fun always, but in the end, you will understand it all. Peace and blessings to you.