M.M. asks from Chicago, IL on August 14, 2009
Advice on 3 Month Old Sleeping Habits
I am first time mom to a 3 month old. Really from day one he has been a great sleeper, only waking up once to eat and then right back to sleep. He was in the co-sleeper next to our bed for the first 2 1/2 months and than I started putting him to sleep in the crib. I was originally nursing him and letting him fall asleep and then laying him in the crib. Then I stopped doing that so he wouldn't get use to falling asleep on my breast. So now I feed him, put his pj's on and now I need your help! If I lay him in the crib, he will not fall asleep on his own, he will lay there happy for awhile and then start crying. The crying will escalate to a bright red face and then we go and pick him up and he will fall asleep in our arms and then we lay him down. Is this OK? He will sleep for anywhere from 4-7 hours so is it okay to "help" him fall asleep? Any advice on how you have gotten your babies to fall asleep without following the Ferber method would be great. I am not comfortable letting him cry it out for more than 10 minutes or so, at least at this point. Thanks!
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A.C. answers from Chicago on August 15, 2009
Maybe you should try to read a book or sing or find somthing else that would be soothing to him so that he could go to sleep....my daughter was similar... since they get use to sucking and fallening to sleep, try using a pacifer only when he goes to sleep though, there for when he gets older he wont be 3 and still haven a binky in his mouth my daughter only gets hers when she sleeps but for a couple of months now she doesnt even want and she sleeps prefectly...hope this helps you out!
N.P. answers from Chicago on August 17, 2009
try using the Baby Whisperer's EASY method for a schedule, and the Happiest Baby on the Block 5 s's method. Those two combined will make cio not be a needed thing (at that age)
EASY - when the baby wakes up it Eats. After you feed it, then it has Activity - bouncy seat, tummy time, sitting up and playing with toys, swing, exersaucer, etc. When the baby gets fussy check the B's - boredom, butt or burp. If it's none of those then off to Sleep. Don't wait for the baby to do more than get the tiniest bit fussy, then see what is causing the fusses - if it's just that they needed their diaper change do that, but if it's not the activity is boring, the butt is dirty or they have to burp, then put them down. This may happen after as short as 45 minutes, don't freak, it really means they are tired.
Now, to get them to sleep use the 5 s's. Swaddle the baby, hold the baby on their side and sway as they suck on something (paci, your knuckle or their finger/thumb) and make a shush noise. This will calm your baby. When the baby is calm, but not asleep yet, keeping them swaddled lay them in the bed. I like to pat them instead of sway after a minute or two cause you can still pat after they are put down but you can't sway, so pat the baby and continue patting gradually decreasing it as you put them in the bed. Also continue the shushing as you put them down, again gradually getting quieter.
If you do these two you will find a well rested, easily managed baby in no time.
R.A. answers from Chicago on August 17, 2009
I also have a 3mo old who was good from the start w/sleeping. Bedtime we had a ritual..lullaby CD, ocean sounds(for when the CD stopped), change diaper, PJ's, feed. Once she was done feeding I burped her while standing and rocking her. Then i would put her in the crib. If she started to cry I would use a pacifier and rub her belly(lightly) so she felt my presence while shooshing.We never got to the red in the face screaming doing this.If you still get that, it may be a burp. I have picked her up to get a loud one out and then I felt bad like duh no wonder she is crying!! Did this every night and she is great now, it did not take long for her to catch on. I also incorporated using some lavendar lotion on her chest when she gets her PJ's on, only at bed time though. You sound like your doing everthing great..honestly whatever works do it regarless of what books say. A sleeping baby is a happy parent! also I find starting at 630 or 7 helps. good luck-
J.D. answers from Chicago on August 24, 2009
Hi M. If this works why not!!!! It no harm him helping him fall asleep.
J.K. answers from Chicago on August 15, 2009
A.F. answers from Chicago on August 14, 2009
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to let your baby cry now or teach him to fall asleep on his own at 12 weeks. I nurse my 9mo old boy and sometimes he will still fall asleep on my breast and that is fine with me. However, because we established a pattern early on of bath, pjs, nursing, and if he doesn't want to nurse (he is giving up the evening one himself as he gets older -- but he takes in about 28 oz of breastmilk a day while I work and morning nursing..so no worries) we rock for 2 verses of a song I have sang to him since he was a baby and I put him down. He has a 2 yr old sister and it is pretty much the same one I sing her with a few changed words. It takes a while to establish a pattern but after a while they get used to "this is sleep time". I generally didn't let my little one cry himself to sleep (we did however sleep train and get rid of the middle of the night feedings at 7 months) because I don't want him to wake his sister who had been going to sleep 1/2 hour earlier while I nursed him. Now he knows it is bedtime by our routine and rarely lets out a peep! Good luck...it will come. You are extremely blessed that your baby is such a good sleeper at such a young age :)
J.F. answers from Chicago on August 15, 2009
I always found the routine important, but got sucked (no pun intended) into letting my youngest nurse herself to sleep and then wake up wanting to nurse until she was almost 11 months old. She was an extreemly colicy baby and I just wanted her to stop crying. This may work for some, but i was miserabe. With my oldest, we gave her a bottle before bed, but didnt pump enough to do that with #2. Anyway, I ended up having to have her cry, but never let it go for more than about 5-10 minutes if it was real crying - I would let her fuss longer. I had to be strong for a few days & nights. I also gave her a blankie and stuffed puppy since she didnt want a passifier. She now is 21 months old and goes to bed very nice, some nights needing a couple extra hugs and reassurances that it is indeed bed time for everyone. And although at first did not care about them, she now grabs the puppy or blanket and dives happily in bed. Last night she sang old McDonald until she fell asleep, which looking back at her first year, astounds me! Anyway, you know best. Follow your gut and it will all work out. Try not to stress out about it too much. Good Luck!!
J.E. answers from Chicago on August 15, 2009
I myself have a 2 1/2 months old girl and I am struggling when it comes to letting her fall asleep on her own. What works for me is after changing her and putting her in her pyjamas and burping her,I rock her to sleep and when she is almost ready to sleep , I put her in the crib and hope she falls asleep on her own. If she doesn't sleep, I give her a pacifier( some people may not like this but it works for me).At this point, the baby should not be crying because he/she is fed and changed. The first 6 months are about survivor, so take baby steps and do what works for you( pick him up, use a pacifier , sing, swaddle) basically whatever makes him sleep. It is to soon to put the baby on some kind of schedule right now. Take baby steps for now. Another thjing that you can do is to let your husband put the baby to sleep, he is more likely to handle the crying baby better than you can, at least that is what I do.Good luck and remember that what works for one baby may not work for yours! so, do what works for you and only you!
A little about me: I am married to a wonderful man ,have two girls, one is almost 3 year and the other is 2 1/2 months old baby.
D.P. answers from Chicago on August 17, 2009
I think what you are doing is right on. I've been in your shoes twice before. One of my kids got it right away and one took much longer. I did the same as you. Put them down awake and let them try on their own. I could never handle the cry it out method but knew it wouldn't do good to run back in right away so I would go back in as soon as they got hysterical or after 5 min of normal cry/whine. i had to do it my way or i wouldn't be able to sleep at night. At 3 months, you are ahead of the game. My Dr. told me not to bother trying until 3-4 months