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E.W. asks from Jackson, NJ on March 11, 2011

Advice Needed on Wedding/Birthday Gift

Ok, so my ex-brother in law (whom we are still VERY close with) just got married last weekend. We didn't go to the wedding because it was a small gathering in FL, and we are in NJ. So, we are going to dinner with him and his new wife tonight. We bought them a set of wine glasses with their initials engraved in them. So wedding gift is all taken care of. However, next week is both of their birthday's. So should we pay for dinner also? We went out for my birthday last month and they covered my portion as well as got me a small gift. Only thing is this dinner isn't really for their birthday, its just to see them since we haven't seen them since they got married. So our options are either to pay for dinner tonight, or take them out again in a week or so for another dinner (which we would buy) so what do you think?

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E.C. answers from New York on March 12, 2011

It depends on how much you want to see them - taking them out for dinner for their bday sounds nice to me.

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A.P. answers from Los Angeles on March 11, 2011

I say pay for dinner and get it all done in one shot, unless of course you want to see them again next week for their birthdays :)

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D.P. answers from Pittsburgh on March 11, 2011

Pick up the check tonight. Done and done.
Have fun!

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R.L. answers from Roanoke on March 11, 2011

I would make it separate occasions. Then you don't have to cram everything in one night. And, when you go out for dinner this time, you could designate the birthday dinner plan for the following week. Maybe the second one could be something fun and cheaper, like going out for pizza?

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M.B. answers from Sacramento on March 11, 2011

Pay for dinner tonight and maybe give them a nice bottle of wine for their combined birthdays.
Or a gift card to a semi-nice restaurant.
Lottery scratch off tickets are fun in a card and in expensive.

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V.M. answers from Erie on March 11, 2011

do it tonight and be done.

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T.H. answers from Kansas City on March 11, 2011

Do it all tonight! Just tell them you're picking up the bill for their birthday treat too. It seems silly to try and gather and arrange schedules in another week or two...Have fun!

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C.D. answers from New York on March 12, 2011

i would buy dinner tonight and also take along a gift card for them for another dinner out

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E.C. answers from New York on March 12, 2011

It depends on how much you want to see them - taking them out for dinner for their bday sounds nice to me.

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A.B. answers from New York on March 12, 2011

i think it's appropriate to pay for their dinner tonight as a birthday "gift". they may be busy for the next few weeks and you're together tonite. so just say, WE are paying for dinner tonight as our bday celebration with you. you can say it before or after they order. which brings up another issue entirely. budget. i like to say i'm paying the bill after dessert so people order exactly what they want because they think they are paying for it. if you say something before, at the beginning of a meal, people may not order everything they want because they know someone else will deal with the bill... enjoy. and congratulations on keeping a close connection with ex ANYONE - PuzzleArtist Alli Berman

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K.G. answers from Boca Raton on March 11, 2011

Pay for there dinner tonight~

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