Advice Needed: Just Found Out Our Nanny Is Pregnant!

Hi K.,
My daughter just went through a similar situation. Her nanny of three years was so wonderful that when my daughter said she was interviewing a new nanny, I was somewhat taken aback. A few months later, I met the new nanny. She is great -- younger, educated and completely devoted to my granddaughters. The girls took to her without any problems, so I would say to you, don't fear this change... it may be an opportunity for something even better.
Good luck,
N

I think it can work if both parties want it to work. You can offer for her to continue to work for you and bring her child, but lower the pay some because she is bringing her child. Also, I have been a nanny before in that situation. I paid just as much attention to the other children as I did my child. Of course, it may be a little easier if the children are old enough to play together. It can work, but then again, if it doesn't work out, at least you tried. Also, does she even want to continue after she has her baby? Good luck with everything!

what did she say to you? was she expecting to go right back to her work? have to think about some downtime when she won't be watching your kids. maternity leave

How far along is she? Sending your dtr to preschool?

you say she is a like a 2nd mom, does she live with you? or comes in for the day? Was she gonna bring baby with her? or maybe she was getting someone to watch baby?

Your daughter will get a kick out of the little one and can learn much from the baby, kinda like a baby sister

and really would sit down and talk things out, expectations and what your comfortable with, could be good thing. I had 5 kids in 8 years no help and did soccer, dance, gymanstics, etc so it can be done.

Hi K.,
I wouldn't assume anything. She could be assuming that you realize that the birth of her baby will signal the end of her service to your family! You need to talk to her about this right away.
My thoughts tend to be that once she has the newborn, and brings the baby with her, she will definitely not be able to devote the same time & attention to your two. Maybe she is planning to have someone else watch her baby so she can still nanny for you? Maybe you guys could work out a PT situation with her and another nanny? In any event, you'll need to decide IF you want her to continue IF she will be bringing the baby & go forward from there with your decision. It depends on a lot of separate factors, one of them being how much you think she really needs the nanny income. I'd talk to her right away.

Hi, I think you and your husband need to 1st decide what you are ok with then sit down and talk to her.