Advice for Temper Issues

isnt it funny how nobody ever says men have problems with their tempers ?
people have such a problem when a woman expresses herself in a physical way. take up a physical challenging sport, it lets you release the anger without putting someone in the hospital
K. h.
more later, need more coffee, baby getting restless

Kind of keep in mind how stupid you look while throwing your tantrum, and how lame it is to have to fix things after your break them. Have some pride.

Behavioural therapy, maybe? I think it's also called cognitive therapy. Find a psychologist (they don't prescribe meds). If you have behaviours that are habits, they're hard to change - they're like ruts - hard to get out of. It takes a lot of work to "pave over" the harmful ones and "dig" new behaviour paths. Good luck!

educate yourself. there are many methods you can use to learn what your triggers are and more acceptable methods of releasing your anger. meditation might be the key, or more physical activity, or journaling, or visualization.
as the delphic oracle says, know thyself.
then you can work on thyself.
khairete
S.

Dianetics. Get the book and read it! You can do the therapy at home with your family.

Professional counseling -- especially with someone who can use visualization techniques with you -- could be very helpful. Keep working on it. You CAN change even if you think you have a natural anger issue. Much of it is learned, especially if that's what you saw in your family. Anger is a secondary emotion which is probably covering up some other kind of pain or fear or shame that you have inside. A counselor can help you figure out what's really going on so you can work on healing. Good luck!

I think yoga and meditation would help you a lot. Deep breathing and relaxing would help you diffuse your anger rather than acting out on it. There are occasions where I've lost my temper and slammed things around, and I realize that this not only doesn't make me feel better, it is a bad example for my children and does damage to whatever I decided to hit (like a door or wall). I will usually go to the bathroom or something and do the deep breathing and counting to try and calm myself down, and it usually works.

I've hit pillows before, which doesn't seem to help, so I've always thought a punching bag would be nice to have in the house (if only we had the room). Hitting a punching bag would be a healthy way to get out all that anger and agression, because you are not hurting anybody and it's a form of exercise (maybe you could get into kickboxing or MMA or something?).

anger management class.

It's great that you recognize that you have an issue that needs to be addressed. Professional counseling would help, learn meditation or self-hypnosis (a form of meditation), read books on self-improvement, i.e. "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff", try the old "count to 10 method", before you "snap" try to catch yourself and ask, "Will this matter in 5 minutes, (days, weeks,....fill in the appropriate time frame)........ Take it from someone who had a stress-induced heart attack, you really want to learn to manage your emotions and learn to relax and enjoy life! Another helpful site: www.Relaxed-and-at-Ease.com. Good luck!

Count to 10 or 20 or whatever, till you calm down. Take control of yourself, its much more satisfying then allowing something to get you that mad. Dont do temper tantrum behavior like punching anything, not even pillows, try to change your reaction. For me, keeping control is more empowering than raging, and has no consequences. I dont remember what its called, but there is some therapy of thinking about a situation thats upsetting, and moving your eyes quick, left right, left right... I had a counseller do this on my legs, tap left leg then right, quickly while thinking or talking about the situation thats bothersome. Its purpose is to switch the side of the brain that reacts.. or something, but it seemed to work- I stopped doing it, but look into it. Be stronger than your anger.