please, forget ADD, this is what 'they' call these kids.
that's a very dangerous approach
especially Ritalin: this is pure destruction.
we call these gifted dear ones: INDIGO CHILDREN.
google these two words, you will find a lot of useful info, including how to teach them and how to be around them.
One good magazine is this:
and this issue also:
there are articles, you click on links.
I home schooled my children until their 4th grade.
The elder son knew all the letters at 2;
at three, he invented his own way of writing with letters,
placing ONLY TWO letters on one line, then moving on to the nexy line. His sentence of "Mama eats rice" looked like this, for instance (3 years old!) :
it was more like Chinese, and he wrote stories!!!
I never told him that this is a wrong way of writing, Instead, I said: "Oh, this is ONE INTERESTING WAY, and see, here is ANOTHER WAY of writing, and showed him more children's books.
At 4, he wrote like 'normal', and read with awesome speed. First, I bought him books, but then I realized our income won't catch up with his speed. We started frequenting the library.
My second son is 2 years younger. Once we starter "playing school' with his older brother, he was very soon ready to join, and he requested that he is always doing the same exercise that his elder brother does. I was not sure he will understand all, but I followed his request.
As a result, when they were 5 and 3, I had two happy students sitting at the desk happily and with enthusiasm doing arithmetics, or completing language exercises. A lot, I mean A LOT of drawing, handcraft, building with blocks (Lego and whatever you can find creative, requiring imagination and some skills to improve), puzzles, playing on improving memory (one is out of the room, another moves some little thing from one place to another, then the first one comes in and tries to find out what was moved from the spot = this was our eternal game, we ended up not even announcing it: Me or one of them just moved things around, and as soon as somebody noticed, here came a happy exclamation: "The vase was on the shelf, now it's on the floor near TV !!!"> This is a good way to educate:
1. make it interesting, like a game, always.
2. incorporate it into life situations, so that exercises on grammar and math are INCLUDED into life, not something boring that requires sitting at the desk perspiring with boredom :(.
Say, when you drive someplace, think miles and time and even gas mileage! "We go to granny's, it's about 60 miles away. If we drive there with the speed of 60 miles/hour, what time will we be there?" This is the simplest one, right, then make it harder: "Suppose we got a race car, and we drive 120 m/h!!! How long will it take to get there?" If he figures out that it will take but 30 minutes, then remind him the real situation: "YES< IN CASE there won't be any policemen on the road, and our car does not break down, then yes," because kids need to be taught morals, ethics, common sense, and the ways of living in the society also, right?! :)
One more hint:
a) I NEVER told my boys that they do something WRONG,
b) and I NEVER told them that this law/rule/regulation is THE ONLY way of how things should be understood.
I ALWAYS added the OPTION, not the restriction:
for a) oh, this is an interesting way of looking at the idea; I do not know if it will work, though, but there is one that I know will work for this situation... and give a hint or a correct response, depending on the situation.
for b) Nicolas Copernicus said, that the Earth revolves around the Sun; before that, scientists of the olden times thought that the Sun revolves around the Earth, (they LOVE Astronomy! at this age). Later: the law of gravity is thought to be one of the most important laws of physics for all the things in our world. (Notice "is thought to be")...
Why did I do that? R., we never know: maybe, you are raising another Nicolas Tesla, or a great writer, or a coming outstanding neuroscientist: how do they come to be? We need to leave them open space for thinking: everything is possible, they need to know the rules that scientists operate now, AND they are the future of our world, they will go one step further: with the contemporary access to all the information, with media, available internet, imagine how fast they gain the info: now, what are they to do with it? This might become the basis, the foundation for further creativity in any field, to be applied to whatever his soul will feel the most interesting area, right?!
Ritalin and such is a n easy way of getting rid of the need to WORK with the challenging kids. I am a teacher, R., and I used to work in many places in our beautiful globe. The ONLY place where Ritalin is used massively,and where kids are diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, and bi-polar problems, is USA. This is one of the saddest things that I know... If you only can, home school for the starter, and then see later if you wish to send them to school. Of course, you will need to learn also, to keep up with the speed of your kids. I know a dad, he raised 5 girls, home schooling, now he is 60 something = he attends classes in the University, as he is afraid he does not know enough, to teach his younger girls. His elder daughter is already married, and has a family and a little pie-baking business, his second daughter graduated from the university with the degree of a photographer, and she works in a little photo-store on the Main street... home schooled, bachelor's degree from the university, having a job she loves, happy, and most caring young lady!!! quite possible, as you see :). Dad and mom have a home business, a little daycare on Tracy street in Bozeman = if you are interested, contact me, phone # ###-###-####. I will introduce you: maybe your son wants to meet this wonderful family?! :)
My sons are 25 and 23.
The elder son is a web designer, starting from the age 13, he already did assignments for companies in California. He works for one company now, and when it changed the owner, of 10 designers, 5 were fired, but my son was invited to be the boss for the rest of the 4 who were kept. Why, I asked him. "Well, he answered, 'they think I have an original way of thinking". He really always comes up with very unusual ideas, and he's really good at the techniques that require their accomplishment.
My second son takes classes in Berkeley, still did not decide what his major should be, as he excelled in all the subjects, and is interested in everything equally. I always thought he is more of a scientist, but lately he called me and said, "Mom, I take three classes this semester." "What classes?" "Spanish, French, and Japanese." Hmm, I though, this is INTERESTING! ... :) three, and all at once! He already speaks fluently 3 languages (English, Estonian, Russian). Now, it turns out, he decided to do a COMPARATIVE STUDY of different languages. There is no such class as to cover the ideas that he has in his mind, so he combines the classes, to come to some conclusions of his own.
What will come out of them eventually I do not know, as they are grown up young men, very kind, caring, witty, funny, focused, and dedicated to whatever they undertake... They are not great inventors or starts, but they are definitely very happy people, and we are lifetime REAL friends.
I believe, one thing that we managed well is this: they were never bored while being kids: always laughing and happy, I mean always. They did not fight, quarrel, whine, never. And, all the studies for them were always fun thing to do. They started regular school from the 4th grade. they both went through it on all "A"s, without me pushing, they just liked studies, and it came easy. As they did very well, I allowed them to stay home from school, when they asked "Mom, I don't feel like school today, may I stay home?" and it lasted from 1 to 4 days, never longer, they needed some break, and I knew it is like with breathing: inhaling only will not be good, you need to exhale also at times, right?! :) I just said: "If all your homework and classwork will not suffer, you find out from friends what they did in class, and accomplish the tasks, then you can take a little break", and once they were rested, the studies continued with the same happy feeling, because they did NOT do it for school, or a teacher, or a grade, but for their own pure joy: the teacher gives only a window, indicates the path to follow, they can never cover the whole topic, they're out of time. Once tis window is seen by the student, now it's a good way to start the4 RESEARCH, and see what you can find in this field: this solves the problem for Ingigo kids, of being bored in school: it is too easy for them, this is true, but if they do the homework, AND immediately go deeper into the indicated field (INTERNET, my goodness, limitless options now!) with their own personal investigation, then it will be fun for them. Returning to class with the assignment, AND the additional pile of information, they get their "A"s 'by the way', impress the teacher, but this is not SO important. Important is, that they learn to STUDY on their own, for THEMSELVES, and they learn to analyze whatever info they find.
Well, R., I outlined you a little on the current time-frame, and gave you some hints for the future so that you can see the big road. I would assume your little daughter will follow her brother's steps very soon, as she grows in this happy educational environment.
I wish you very happy study-time, and great creative days!!!
Never give up, educate yourself, and enJOY to see-hear what your dear little ones will be coming up with!
You are one happy Mom, I say :) ! Hugs! M.