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I am sorry to have to tell you this, but if you say you have not been with anyone then he is doing something behind your back because it does not come from anything else... please feel free to email me I have dealt with these kins of situations alot. you are going to have to find out what he has been doing because he is not going to just tell you..

I am sorry, but I think that doctors say that it can lie dormant so that it doesn't cause any problems inspired by their advice. The truth is that yes it can go without syptoms for a year or two, but during pregnancy, they test you for those things and if you had it at your first pregnancy, it would have shown up. Your husband is not being honest, and unfortunately, b/c he is denying it, the choice to leave him, seperate, etc. is only up to you.

STD's can lay dormant, but not for that long. And when tested, you would find out with or without symptoms. My guess is that he is being dishonest. I hate to say that, but been there before, so not cool, especially because it's unfair to the unborn child. What if you hadn't gotten checked or tested. That would be really bad. It's one thing to be unfaithful, but can we get a little respect by you wearing a condom. That's the least they should do. Is that too much to ask? It could have been worse and been HIV, just cause he can't keep it in his pants. I'm sorry, I got a little carried away. I have studied STD's a lot (I'm very intrigued by medicine because I used to want to be a OB/GYN).

Yeah, I'm with the rest of the ladies on this one. Confront him about it, but maybe do it in a counseling session or at the doctor's office, so the doctor can explain how someone gets chlamydia. Then he won't be able to try to convince you otherwise. Good luck.

A.,
I know this sounds weird, but ask the physician about the accuracy of the test. My girlfriend gets tested for things frequently because she is military and once they told her she had something and she freaked, same as anyone would. But then later found out test was only 50% accurate. Maybe ask to be tested again. I don't know about the dormant part. I'm guessing probably not.
Hang in there.
P.

Two years is a long dormancy time. It does seem like he's not being honest. Has he tested positive?

I agree with everyone else. I'm sorry. :(

I read an article about this subject in a parenting mag. The lady already had 3 0r 4 kids + was preg. again. She found out at a checkup that she had it. The doc. told her it could lie dormant for years before showing up, so she could have got it from an old flame or he could have passed it on from an old flame. That's not to say he didn't cheat. Go w/ your heart. Your heart usually knows wheather we want to admit it or not. Before I made a decision about my marriage I'd go back to a doc. ( maybe take your husband as the other ladies have sug.). Let him tell you both what the deal is, you both can get treated, + if he says it doesn't lie dormant then you'll have a better idea on what to do. Good luck, I wish the best for you.

I have to agree, it sounds like he's not being honest. Have you asked your doctor if there are any other possbile ways it can be transmitted (toilet seats or whatever)? I hope for you that its explainable. You may want to have a serious conversation with your husband. I'm so sorry and hope it all works out okay for you.

Many men don't have any symptoms from this, so maybe he had it before and you didn't contract it until a later date. I have conducted STD education classes in the past, and I do remember that about this particular disease. You both should have been treated with antibiotics.

i'm very sorry but i would get a second opinon because just this past weekend i had a stupid er dr tell me i had an std which i dont because he actually lied to me the way i know this is i went to the local std clinic which called the hopital for my results and come to find out it was negative so i say get an second opinion

Hi A.,

My name is L. and I'm a mother of 3. Ta'Niya-March 2005, TyJuan- April 2006, and Trinity- May 2007. I do know from research that it could take up to a couple of years to detect whether or not you have this STD that because most of the people who have it don't have any sickness with it.If you go to the doctors they will give you some medicine (it's nasty), but it works. It will clear it up in 7 days. And also it is very possible that your husband didn't cheat you caught it from someone before him. Well I hope this information helps you.

I know this isn't the answer you want, but I also agree with everyone. Chlamydia is an STD. Period. End of story. If you have been faithful, then he hasn't. I would make him go to the dr with you so the dr can explain this, maybe he will come clean when faced with irrefutable evidence. If not, or even if so, get yourself some counseling immediately.