T.W. asks from Long Beach, CA on July 07, 2011
A Naked Woman in My Kitchen Window...Again!
I currently live 2 blocks from the beach which is wonderful. I have my hardwood floors, granite counters the house is just beautiful. Then I looked out my kitchen window and there stood a naked woman dressing in the bathroom. I was horrified that someone would take a shower and get out of the shower stark naked and lotion herself down in front of the window. I have a DH and my DS in the home whom I dont want accidentally running into her while making breakfast. So, I ended up seeing her one day as I was parking and talked to her about the situation. She agreed that it was irresponsible and would not do it anymore. A year later she is doing it again. I am just curious mamas what would you do? I quickly wrote a note and left it on her door, more like a nasty note. My DS is home for the summer and although he volunteers at a shelter and helps the animal shelter I cant make him volunteer 12 hours a day just to keep him out of the house. I am REALLY UPSET about this because I feel adults should be a little more responsible. I live in a really nice neighborhood and have to realize that there are unconscious people in suburban areas who do not think. Please help, I am at my wits end with this situation. She opens the window when she is dressing and closes it when she's done. How backwards it that? It should be the other way around. CRAZY RIGHT??!!!!!
Edit: Everyday ladies, really you would be ok with that? So from 6:40am to 7:40 I should keep my windows and blinds closed. Even if I want to smell the fresh beach air to flow through my window?
Edit: DS is 14 going on 15 in September. I hear you ladies.
Edit: April C. OMG! you understand. A naked man and your little girls are looking, you right, a different song would be sung. I think a lot of opinions would change. But nevertheless, I understand everyone's comment.
So What Happened?™
Thank you all for your responses. I forgot to mention that when we spoke the first time that she said someone had broken into her house 2mths earlier. There was a man scoping out women who were alone and she was the first house he broke into. She doesn't seem like someone who had their house broken in by a man who was assalting women. You would think she would be sure to cover, well, anyways.
So what happened is this morning I didnt bother to open my kitchen window at all, I just kept it closed. But, I did have a peek. The window was open but the blind was pulled down. I wasnt trying to control her or make her do what I wanted in a sense. I just wanted her to use discretion for those around her.
Thank you all for your responses they helped me more than you know. The good and bad responses, I took them all into consideration.
B.G. answers from Los Angeles on July 07, 2011
She is in HER house getting dressed. Put shades up if you don't want to look into HER house anymore!
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M.K. answers from Kansas City on July 07, 2011
I guess I'm backwards. Especially in the mornings, I OPEN the windows for sunshine and a light breeze while I shower and lotion and dress (before the sun starts to bake the house) and CLOSE them when I am done so that everythings not left open (worried about theft and extreme heat) while I'm gone. I've never worried about the neighbors staring OUT of their windows and INTO mine (that's peeping- I'm in a private bathroom for goodness sakes!) and if they do, well, they see what they see (but my guess is that at almost 200 lbs, they probably DON'T look. LOL!)
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T.L. answers from Detroit on July 07, 2011
I love Rachel D.'s response...that is a great idea! It might work too. Honestly, I would be upset too. This lady is either just oblivious or an attention seeker. But, you know what? With today's technologies of computers, ipads, phones--kids see, hear and read worse stuff than a naked neighbor.
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B.C. answers from Los Angeles on July 07, 2011
I have read all the responses. Looks like there are quite a few closet nudists on mamapedia. ;~))
To me this falls under the term "So What". If you don't like the view, erect a trellis and plant ivy or if you want something for your effort, plant your favorite grape vine. If you use miracle grow or something similar, you can have your trellis covered (and the view blocked) in less than a year.
The easiest way is to put some of the frosted glass covers sold by Home Depot on your windows facing her home. You can't see out. She can't see in. You get the light for your room.
Just a thought, do you always come out in your living areas fully dressed and modest enough to take a walk on the sidewalk in what you are dressed in? If you don't, then why are you complaining about her? You aren't modest and neither is she.
Unemployment is above 9%. If you count the people that have given up looking for work and those that have had their hours cut, its probably around 20%. People are losing their homes, their cars, their health insurance, etc. If this is the biggest thing you have to be worried about you are truely fortunate.
Good luck to you and yours.
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S.Y. answers from Chicago on July 07, 2011
Don't mean to be mean...but it is her house - if she wants to be naked in HER house she can be. I don't think it is irresponsible to be naked in your own house or bathroom. Just me. Anyway if you don't want to see her - buy curtains. I don't think seeing a naked person occasionally will cause severe trauma for anyone in your house - really. Now if she was having sex or taking care of other business in the window...might have more of an issue. In the mean time...leave the lady alone... and stop by the curtain store today.
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K.F. answers from Salinas on July 07, 2011
Sorry but the problem is yours not hers. Maybe she opens the window to let the moisture from the shower out, maybe she like the fresh air who knows but it's her bathroom, her house, her choice to do what she wants. Buy some curtains or a screen and get on with your life. I have to laugh at the calling the cops idea. I mean really, don't you all think the Long Beach Police have a bit more important things to attend too, like things that are actually illegal?
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J.S. answers from Jacksonville on July 07, 2011
Yeah if it bothered me that much then I would definitely close my windows for that period of time. I am sorry, but it is her house. I mean if she were a vegetarian and couldn't stand the sight of meat, yet here you are cooking it everyday in front of her, would you stop just to make her happy? I know it's not even remotely close but you understand what I am saying. I say close the blinds, and go on with your life.
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L.U. answers from Seattle on July 07, 2011
How old is your son? 4? I am assuming he is in college since you say that he is home for the summer. Do you think he has never seen a naked woman? he has. What about your husband? He has seen naked women too!
I would be totally fine with it. In fact, if I were that woman and you had talked to me....I would have been pissed. She is in her own house. Just because you CAN look in her window doesn't mean you should. You obviously don't want to see a naked lady (for how long....15 minutes MAX?).....don't look.
I think you are really making a mountain out of a mole hill.
(also, keep your windows OPEN....you breathe through your nose, not your eyes) :)
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K.I. answers from Los Angeles on July 07, 2011
I am stuck on the part where you are concerned that your 14 going on 15 y/o son is gonna see a naked woman at 6:40am!!!
I have a whole grip of teenage boys and not a one of them wakes up at 6:40-7:40a during summer!!!!!!!!!!
~If she is in her own house, (which you do not make it clear if this is the case) you are gonna have to change your routine...you can not dictate what someone else does in their own house!
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A.C. answers from Savannah on July 07, 2011
I'll be honest, I love to run around the house in the buff, and I love my large backyard with the woods behind it, noone to disturb. I close the blinds to the side and front of my house though, because it's the right thing to do. 6 windows and 2 double doors facing the back are open wide though. So yeah, you have the right to be nude in your home. You should be respectful of your neighbor's right to not get an eyeful with no warning though. If the moms that said this was perfectly fine read that this was a big hairy man prancing around with the window wide open and you had a young teen daughter, I bet they'd be singing a different song.
You've let her know twice that you would appreciate the blinds closed while she dresses. She can leave the window open, blinds even cracked the opposite direction for natural light and the breeze. After the few minutes it takes to get dressed, she could open the blinds as wide as she pleases. I would call the police because I wouldn't appreciate the show, and her intent (more than likely) would anger me more than anything else about this would. I would ALSO realize that my happiness is in my own hands and do a few things. An umbrella to block HER window (on your side) is definately a good option, as is a change in landscaping. We had neighbors on one side that were too lazy to walk to the sidewalk and were always cutting through our yard, making a little path. It wasn't pleasant---we had a large yard. So mom planted a rose garden (think thorns!) that went all the way up that border. We had NOSY neighbors on the other side that were constantly watching us, and that was annoying. Mom bought brown banana trees (4 of them) for that border. Lovely, and delicious bananas, too! My husband said when he lived with his ex, they had a pool in the backyard and a two story window behind them, so he planted hedges to block their view so he didn't feel like someone was staring down at him all the time. Hedges are good. Umbrellas may be faster and cheaper though. (ha).
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S.J. answers from St. Louis on July 07, 2011
People in suburban neighborhoods are unconcious?!?!
I would not to anything. Really, it is her house and her choice to be naked if she wants. I know it is not ideal, but yes, I would make sure my blinds are closed during that time period. The only person you can control is you.
Have you ever seen that Roseanne episode? Be glad your neighbor is not 98 like hers was. Is this lady at least hot?
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