February 23, 2013,
S.R. asks from Washington, DC on February 22, 2013
9.5 - 10 Year Old Girls, How Many of You See Hormonal Changes?
My dd is a very late bloomer, but lately is having lots of emotional ups and downs - what I would say appears to be "hormonal" (just based on my own experience).
She is very undeveloped...still looks like a little girl...no signs of puberty, but oh...the drama and crying at the drop of a hat sometimes!
G.L. answers from Salt Lake City on February 22, 2013
Based on what I've observed of girls this age, including mine, I'd say she's right on time. In my house, at least, the first sign of an uptick in certain hormones was an uptick in the emotional drama. I knew we were headed into the zone when one day my DD was bawling her eyes out. I asked her what was wrong, and she answered, "I DON'T KNOW!"
Her first period came about 1 year later, at 10 years 8 months. Secondary signs of puberty followed very soon after.
Many girls develop the secondary characteristics before menstruation, but not all do.
V.P. answers from Columbus on February 22, 2013
The hormones and mood shifts start long before the physical changes.
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R.K. answers from Appleton on February 22, 2013
My 2 granddaughters both had their periods by then. The oldest one at 10 and the younger one at 9.5.
J.H. answers from Billings on February 22, 2013
My daughter will be 9 in April, and has definitely been more emotional in the last 6 months or so.
D.S. answers from Norfolk on February 23, 2013
Is she bullied at school?
It is the time to have conversations with her.
Do you have a time when the family sits down
at the dinner table and talk about what has happened
during the day?
If not, it would be a necessity to do so.
Today's world is different from the days of our agriculture one.
People are not having conversations together: cell phones, ipads, laptops, xboxes, tv shows, you can name many electronic devices that prevent human to human relationships.
Put on your reporter hat and start asking questions about how she feels about things.
Labeling doesn't solve problems; compassion does.
C.C. answers from San Francisco on February 22, 2013
Oh lord. You don't have to tell me twice. My daughter is 10, and my sweet, even-tempered little girl has been replaced with a testy, cranky pre-teen. I still get glimpses of her sweet nature, but then something will set her off, and then it's tears, drama, stomping off in a huff to her room... She started developing physically about a year ago, and now she looks like she's 15. It's enough to drive a mama to drink.
C.M. answers from Chicago on February 22, 2013
I teach gymnastics and the girls are now 9-11 years old and they can bring the drama like there's no tomorrow! I've known them all since they were young and they've never been like this so I chalk it up to hormones!
M.G. answers from Seattle on February 22, 2013
My daughter is 9 and is developing and her moodiness makes me want to jump out a window some days. However, now that she is able to recognize her body's cues for emotional issues she's able to control or keep things to herself a bit more. I didn't realize that 9 was a late bloomer? Talk to your daughter about what's going on as well as allow her the chance to express herself even if it bothers you. I am always talking with my daughter about what's going on in her life as well as with her body and emotions. Definitely keep the dialogue flowing between the two of you. Being hormonal sadly is part of being female.
S.H. answers from Honolulu on February 22, 2013
Ditto Veronica P. below.
Remember, hormonal changes, occurs all the time.
Not only in Tweens or Teens.
9-12 years old, are the Tween ages.
And some 9 year olds get their periods at this age.
This is per my daughter's Teachers.
My daughter is 10.
She gets moody too.
BUT I KNOW when it is due to hormones or her just being tired or hungry.
And I also, inform my Husband. Because as you know, "men" do not know these things. They don't even understand a PMS'ing woman.
So, for me, I want to make sure, my Husband KNOWS about the changes in a girl, especially at this age, and per "moods." It is not just her being a fussy monster.
Get the "American Girl" book series. It is for this age, and the Mom. It is age appropriate and explains all the changes in girls this age.
I got it for my daughter since she was about 7.
She likes, these books.
And we talk about it.
Actually growing boobs, and having underarm smells, and having pubic hair, is not the only changes the occurs. It is also the entire, bodily system. Changing. AND the emotional development as well and cognition etc.
The National Geographic Magazine, had a great article on the Teenage brain/changes. Here is the link for the article: