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9 Month Old Still Not Sleeping Through the night...HELP!

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my son just turned 9 months this past week. now i know that not every baby goes by the book, but according to dr. weissbluth babies should be able to sleep through the night by 9 months. however, my son is still waking up once a night to feed. i don't know if he really needs a bottle in the middle of the night. he drinks and goes right back to sleep, but am i just allowing it to become a habit? sometimes he'll wake up twice, and i'm really starting to lose it. he's slept through the night a couple times, but never consistently for a longer period of time. should i just be patient and wait it out more? any suggestions?

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Thank u moms for all your wonderful advice! I decided to take into consideration all your words of wisdom. Before I started giving my son a bottle of water as opposed to milk in the middle of the night, I tried just letting him cry to see if he would go back to sleep. He actually did!!! I was shocked. He didn't cry for very long nor was he wailing, which put me more at ease. I did it the second night, and he barely cried for two minutes. I was really, really thankful! I guess the bottle in the middle of the night was really out of habit and not neccssity. Now he sleeps through the night and wakes up around 6 AM. I am also getting a little more sleep and can be a more functional mother during the day! Woohoo! :) Thanks so much again!!!!

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I had the same issue with my second daughter, she didn't sleep through the night until after a year! My pediatrician told me she was waking up because she was used to eating in the middle of the night, even though it was not necessary. What I had to do was get her used to not eating in the middle of the night by reducing her bottle by an ounce for a week, then another ounce the next week until there was no bottle. She did cry for about a week or so without it which is not pleasant in the middle of the night, but it did work. After that, she no longer woke to eat. It worked for me, good luck!

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It's tricky, isn't it? When my first turned 9 months old, I was convinced that she needed her bottle when she continued to wake around 2:30 or 3am. It really sounded like her hungry cry! It wasn't until a couple weeks later at her 9-month check-up when our Pediatrician looked me straight in the eye and said, "Your daughter has your number!" My Pediatrician assured me that my baby did not need the bottle and simply wanted company. I decided to use the "cold turkey" cry-it-out method, and she started sleeping through the night without waking in three days. But cry-it-out isn't for all Moms, and Dr. Weissbluth describes an alternative method, graduated extinction, in his book.

If your Pediatrician doesn't have any concerns about you son's health/weight/eating habits, I would say it's time to start weaning him from nightime feedings.

Keep up the GREAT work, Mom!!!

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that's simple he's 9 months on his last feeding give him a little cereal in his bottle he's hungry . Thicken it up . Bet he'll sleep thru the night for ya

I know what Weissbluth says, and that book has been very helpful for me, but waking up only once during the night is no big deal! My 4 year old still wakes up once during the night. I think you're expecting an aweful lot, but if you feel like you don't want to feed the baby at night, then don't go in there... see how long it takes for him to go back to sleep. At 9 months, my son was still up 4-5 times a night! I have an 11 month old who wakes once a night, and I'm thanking my lucky stars!
Also I've found that leaving the baby monitor off at night is best. That way I'm not waking up and running into her room to check on her at every little noise... Even though her room is back to back with ours, it still takes some major crying for me to wake up without the monitor on...

My daughter didn't sleep through the night until I night weaned her at 11 months.

Instead of giving him a bottle, give him a drink of water. He will protest a little, but reassure him that all he is going to get is water, as milk isn't for night night time. I think it took my daughter a few weeks of being offered only water for me to eliminate 2-3 of her nightly wakings (she woke 2-4 times a night till I did this around 9-10 months). It took me eons to wean her from eating at night this way, but there weren't any tears involved, she was reassured mommy would respond to her, and she now sleeps through the night --11 hours.

You are almost there! (of course, I am still not sleeping through the night, and my daughter has been for 4 months. I still wake at 4am!)

Just as an aside, Weissbluth does admit that some babies need night feeds till 12 months of age. Yes, it's a habit, but one they think is a need, which in my mind means it's a need.

I was not worried at 9 months that my son was not sleeping through the night, because I knew it would come in time. And sure enough, once I dropped the midafternoon nursing session, he decided he was going to sleep through the night within a week or so. Now he is a champion sleeper (10 1/2-11 hours at night) and goes to sleep easily.

At 9 months, he probably is so busy during the day that he forgets about eating. Then he has to make up for it during the night. Try to be patient--eventually, he'll lengthen those sleeping sessions at night.

I had the same issue with my second daughter, she didn't sleep through the night until after a year! My pediatrician told me she was waking up because she was used to eating in the middle of the night, even though it was not necessary. What I had to do was get her used to not eating in the middle of the night by reducing her bottle by an ounce for a week, then another ounce the next week until there was no bottle. She did cry for about a week or so without it which is not pleasant in the middle of the night, but it did work. After that, she no longer woke to eat. It worked for me, good luck!

My son didn't sleep thru the night until after 1. He would wake religiously at 3am, and I would go in his room to nurse. I noticed he really didn't suck much, more of a comfort/pacifier. Finally, after his 1 year bday, I refused to go in his room anymore. It took 2 nights of crying for less than 1/2 hour, and ever since then he sleeps thru the night. It is a beautiful thing, and if I knew earlier, I would have done it at 9 months. I will remember if I ever have a third child.

Hi A.,
My baby is also 9 months old and she still wakes up twice at night to nurse. My opinion is: If she wakes up hungry, then I feed her. My daughter always goes right back to sleep after she nurses. She doesn't nurse a whole lot during the day, so I think she needs the extra milk at night. My older two children eventually learned to sleep through the night, when their tummy's weren't rumbling! both at around 12 months. I think all babies develop differently.

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