K.M. asks from Columbus, OH on April 26, 2009
8 Year Old Wants to Shave ?
I'm interested what people have to say. My 8 year old has been asking to shave her legs for a year now.what do i do?? Her hair is blonde but very hairy, she says she doesn't want to wear shorts because people will make fun of her. At what age should a girl start shaving? I started when i was 12 but is it alright to start sooner???
L.L. answers from Indianapolis on April 27, 2009
I was 11 i think... my mom had me start with a womens electric razor. she felt safer with that. a family i was a nanny for let her daughter start a 10. it is really up to you.....can't blame her.. kids are mean these days. maybe start with an electric. I don't recommend nair, veet, etc. I had a reaction and a horrible rash. even the one for senstive skin. chemicals = no thanks!
T.R. answers from Columbus on April 27, 2009
You might think about letting her use Nair, or other cream hair removers. This way no cuts and the hair doesn't come back as prickly. At a minimum I would suggest the Nair type products on the thigh and maybe electric razor below the knee. I have two daughter's and I set the age at 12, but it seems kids are a bit more cruel these days. Good Luck.
M.S. answers from Bloomington on April 27, 2009
do her friends shave?
E.W. answers from Cleveland on April 27, 2009
My daughter had a lot of hair too but I had her wait until she was in the 6th grade which is 12. I did not start until 7/8th grade and am a brunette too. It's interesting other countries don't get hung up on this stuff. THe other question I have if we always give into bullies then are we teaching our kids to give in when things get a little tough? We need to encourage our kids to not put any value in what people say if it is not meant for building a person up. I've always told my kids when they were struggling with friends whether that friend was supportive of them or took away from them. That helped them identify people that were true friends. It worked great with my son. My daughter it was a little tougher for but I have seen her change friends because of this lately. (she is now 14)
M.Z. answers from Indianapolis on April 26, 2009
This may not be the best advice, but its from persnal experience so here goes:
I had very hairy legs when I was younger. All my friends teased me because they could shave and my parents wouldn't let me regardless of how much i beggedSo, I took a disposable (used) bic razor to my dry leg one morning. You can imagine my mothers horror when I woke her up with my bloody leg.
I think that you're better off teaching her the right way to shave. It may seem early to us, but in todays day it really might not be.
Try talking to some other mothers in her class. My parents broke down and got me an electric razor to start me off.
I know that every woman is different, but most blonde hair does not "grow in thicker". I was blonde then, and still am today and there is no difference from then til now.
Best of luck!! They grow up sooooo fast!!
N.R. answers from Indianapolis on April 27, 2009
The summer I turned 10 I started shaving. I had started asking befor that, but that summer is when I started shaving my underams so my Mom decided that if I had to shave my underarms, I might as well start on my legs as well. She helped me the first few times and then stayed in the bathroom with me while I did it completely on my own the first time. We discussed what it meant to have to shave and the knicks that happen so when I cut myself for the first time, it wasn't a huge surprise. Good luck in your decision!
L.S. answers from Dayton on April 27, 2009
Veet makes a gel that you have a plastic "shaver" to use and no blade piece to scrape away the gel and hair. Perhaps that would work because it isn't dangerous since there's no blade and your daughter gets rid of the embarassing hair. Just a thought. My only concern would be her cutting herself with a real razor. I think if she's too self-conscious about wearing shorts then it would be okay.
R.K. answers from Cleveland on April 27, 2009
unfortunately...girls shave MUCH sooner because of all the pressure to look like the girls on TV...and they don't have "fuzz" on THEIR legs!
I'd say give her an electric shaver. Will get rid of the fuzz she's worried about but won't make it "smooth" but shouldn't matter because nobody should be touching them anyway....so how will anybody but her know? Right?
Good luck mom!
J.K. answers from Cleveland on April 27, 2009
I agree to let her go ahead and shave! I was 9 when I started, and I also had very light hair but it was thick and I was also getting teased.
And it probably won't grow back that fast at first, I doubt it would be more than a once a week thing.
I know it seems so young, but I think you will just have to go for it or else she might do it herself like the other posters suggested!
S.P. answers from Indianapolis on April 27, 2009
Say she is too young, and that people who would make fun of this at her age are NOT worth the time of day!
EVERY child needs a childhood for Pete's sake!
Have people gone NUTS!!!!!
Or do they just have too much time on their hands?????
YOU are in charge of whe way you do things in your family!