6 Yr Old Won't Stop Crying When I Drop Her off at School! Don't Know What to Do!

If you know that she is really doing fine at school and it is only due to the initial separation, then I would recommend a book called "The Kissing Hand." I read this to my daughter when she was in early elementary (recommended by one of her former/favorite teachers). I would also kiss her hand and leave a lipstick mark before she went to school. The lipstick would wear off so I went a step further and gave her a little sticky note with my "kiss" on it (put on lipstick and kissed the paper). I told her whenever she was missing me to look at the paper and know that I was giving her a kiss.

For us, it turned out that the year she was having so much trouble separating from me was due to problems with the teacher she had and it sent her into an actual depression. She's in college now, but still talks about what an awful year that was and how it affected her for years to come (and I'm not talking about abuse either).

M.

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My son did this last year in kindergarten. I have a younger son who was 3 at the time and I was pregnant. I work part-time but I really didn't notice a difference on the days I worked. I felt like some of it was what I missing out on at home. I did have to do an incentive chart - if you walk to class without crying (his problem was clinging to me and the teacher had to take him from me) for X number of days Mommy will come and eat lunch with you or something that just the 2 of you could spend some special time together. Eventually, my son did get better and by the spring I was able to drop him off in the car line and he walked in by himself (of course there were teachers supervising). I know how stressful this can be.

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I'm so sorry you are both having such a stressfull time this year! My daughter is also 6 and started this year as well. Several things that I can think of to check.
1. Is she getting enough rest?
2. Is she eating breakfast.
3. Does she have enough time to get ready. Are mornings rushed or pressure filled? Maybe choosing clothes at night, even breakfast. so on and so forth.
4. Find out the morning routine in her classroom. Maybe there is something that just isn't jiving for her that is making her stress. Too much structure, not enough. Once you know the problem, you can work on the solution.

Good luck,
S.

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I am dealing with the same thing and one thing that worked was going to the school when it was not in session and "practicing" walking into school from drop off to classroom door. We did it several times until my son remarked that he didn't need to practice anymore because it was so easy. I think it is harder on us then them and we have to remember they are still only 6 and won't be doing this at college. Hang in there.

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Okay here goes. I am an education major and this is what my professors have told me. You do not need to be firm with her. Since she is in kindergarten the teacher should be coming to get her from you in the morning. You being firm with her even in the slightest may be making the situation worse. Have a talk with her teacher ask if she would be willing to come out into the hall once yall arrive at the classroom and have her guide your child into the classroom. This will ease your stressing and it may also help to ease her crying. If she is use to you walking in the classroom with her she might get even more upset that you are not but this will last a short period. Another thing the teacher can do is to allow her to maybe bring her favorite stuffed animal or something to class till her fears subside. I have observed this being done in many classrooms including my sons. He started kindergarten this year and there is a little boy in his classroom who is very shy and every time his mom or dad dropped him off he would begin to cry. His parents would then lean down hug him for a min and then the teacher would come guide him into the classroom. He stopped crying when mom and dad dropped him off around the third week and now just runs into the classroom when he gets there. Your daughter maybe crying also because she is sensing your fears and stress also. So you also need to stay as calm as possible when dropping her off. I really hope this helps. If you want anymore info let me know and I will see what I can find out from my teachers.

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