M.S. asks from Elmer, NJ on April 10, 2010
6 Yo and Girls on His Soccer Team
My son played his first soccer game today. In his league, they don't seperate the girls from the boys. It's pretty non-competitive, just lets the kids learn the game. What I want to know is how do I let my son know that it is ok to go after the ball if one of the girls have it. He's the type of kid that is very protective of girls, was taught not to hit them because of his size. He stand 4'10, 70 lbs. I just want him to know it's ok to be aggressive on the field, but to not be mean. Can anyone help??
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L.B. answers from New York on April 10, 2010
The coach will teach him. Have fun
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J.K. answers from Mansfield on April 10, 2010
does he go after the ball if a boy has it? but not a girl? Oh how cute and considerate... he will make a wonderful young man. His coach will let him know, it is OK to take the ball from girls. Explain to him that they will not get offended. They are all soccer players when out there not boys and girls. And believe me girl soccer players get quite rough as they get older.... watch a high school girls soccer game and it is far more brutal then the boys.
My daughter plays on a U7 boys team... there are 2 other girls. They work hard to keep up with those boys and DO NOT want to be treated differently.
Use terms like "attack the ball" with him... letting him know it is not about the person who has it, the game is about the ball. It doesn't matter who is on the field with him, his job out there is to get that soccer ball away from his goal and shoot it into the other teams goal.
Hug him for me- he sounds like a really great kid.
Have fun fellow soccermom!
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M.C. answers from Washington DC on April 10, 2010
Just remind him that they have shin guards on so its okay to go after anyone, boy or girl, as long as it only at the legs.
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A.S. answers from Dallas on April 10, 2010
Let him know that girls and boys play for fun and everyone needs the chance to learn from each other, and by not taking the ball away from the girls as well, he isn't giving them to opportunity to learn how to defend the ball. How nice to have such a gentleman!
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C.K. answers from Philadelphia on April 11, 2010
I think you are already on the right track! I have 2 soccer players right now and both are girls. My older daughter is 12 and plays on an all girls travel team but did play co-ed rec when she was younger and my 5 year old is on a team with boys and girls. Last season she was the only girl with 4 boys!
Just tell your son that it is ok to go after the ball - not the person. Use your feet and jump in when you can, just don't push or shove. Sometimes it is hard at that age because other kids will be pushing and shoving. If you bump into someone trying to get that ball that is ok too - just don't push with your hands. As he understands the game more and plays more it should get easier for him. At 6 it is more about learning the basics and having fun anyway.
Good luck and congratulations on raising a gentleman! :)
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K.M. answers from Orlando on April 10, 2010
My husband coaches a similar style football team, the best thing to do is to let the coach coach, and you cheer him on.
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D.S. answers from Allentown on April 11, 2010
Hi, M.:
You already have the answer.
Good job! D.
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