S.F. asks from Melbourne, FL on March 19, 2007
6 Year Old Anti Social Behavior
I need a little help. I have a 6 year old daughter who would much rather play by herself all the time. She says she has no friends at school but is friends witht he girl next door. She has ADHD and I know I was told this is a symptom of it. I just don't know what to do. I tried getting her into girl scouts so maybe she could interact that way, but of course I called and emailed and noone ever gets back to me. If anyone has any suggestions I could definetly use them.
N.M. answers from Miami on March 20, 2007
D.Q. answers from Orlando on March 20, 2007
I don't know much about ADHD but if she doesn't like to really go out and play with friends, why not set up outtings. My daughter was an only child for a while and she was a loner. I had to introduce new girls to her cuz she was so shy. We did alot of things together because it was just me and her but I would bring other kids along just so she would learn to be social. She is still somewhat of a loner and is picky about her friends but it did help her.
K.K. answers from Gainesville on March 24, 2007
I know a few very productive adults who are ADHD...they do big things in small parts and are very organized. Keep things small and short term. it will be okay. a wall calander may help her feel better about the day....one with hourly time slots...
T.V. answers from Daytona Beach on March 19, 2007
Try and get her together with other kids and you tag along. With you there it might help.
As far as Girl Scouts, I am a leader, so let me find out what council you are in and I will try and get you the contact info.
M.B. answers from Fort Myers on March 20, 2007
It may be a good idea to put her into dance or gymnastics, or some sort of sport, swimming , soccer....it's a great way to socialize but there's no pressure.
Good luck, and remeber six is still very young, and the fact that she is friends with the neighbor is great. Don't worry too much, or push her too much.
A.L. answers from Melbourne on March 20, 2007
It crossed my mind after our last emails and now I am convined! We really must meet! I had the same idea of putting my 6 yr bipolar/adhd daughter in girl scouts. I even joined myself. I am an approved leader with no troop! And no support! LOL. Maybe we could pull something together to make a positive girl scouts experience for our girls. I think they would florish in a smaller group where they can develop closer friendships with less competition. If scouts is not an option we could come up with something ourselves. Maybe some kind of play date or girls day. I am a early childhood education college student and a preschool teacher so I'm pretty creative, I just need to meet moms in similar situations who would have the patience and understanding to help foster these types of friendships. Do you still have my email? If any other moms are interested in the palm bay area maybe we can set something up? Lret me know!
C.S. answers from Miami on March 19, 2007
I agree with girl scouts and I ran into the same problem as you did. Contact the county girl scouts, ie. Broward County Girl Scouts and volunteer to start your own group. There is work involved but it is better than waiting around for someone else. Maybe an activity like gymnastics might be a start. Another suggestion is your local city activities. Our City has pottery classes that the children love and open activities to non residents as well.
L.H. answers from Miami on March 19, 2007
make an appointment w/ the school guidance counselor...
that's what they're there for :-)
J.B. answers from Orlando on March 19, 2007
I understand completely My daughter will be 6 in May and we are having issues with the kids at school but she has friends outside of school. It may not be nesseciarlilly your daughter. Sometimes it is actually the other children. My daughter does not have ADHD but I a brother who has it and a friends 6 year old who does. The other children just do not undestand the difference. As I said my daughter doesn't have it but she has to be excepted at all times if one time the other child doesn't play with her for whatever reason she feels she has to keep "hounding" them to be her friend till they just become annoyed. We recently just enrolled our daughter in chearleading to see if that will help her self esteem. Basically(sorry I got off track of what I was saying) it could be self esteem. She is most likely aware she is different than some children and is self conscoius. We as parents never think at that age they can be but you'll be suprised.