Please do not think that all public school children are rude and disruptive. I have two very nice girls who
are thriving in the public school system ~ a 9yr. old
and a 13yr. old ~ and I can honestly say that the majority of their classmates have been, and are, good kids.
Ther first thing to note is that ALL of the children are trying to adjust to the first few weeks week of school. Be it their first time in a school setting, transfering to a new school, or just getting back into the swing of things, there will always be a period of adjustment.
Give it a few weeks and if your daughter is still having problems with this child ~ ask the principal to transfer your daughter to a different class.
I would highly reccommend that you keep the lines of communication open with your child's teacher. (I like to use e-mail as it helps document what is being discussed, times, etc...) I would also include a note on one of your first e-mails stating that in the future, if needed, you may be sharing the information in your e-mail communications with the principal.
FYI ~ Principal's are reluctant to move the "bully" but will usually accomodate your request to move your child if you can show that this child has been repeativly bothering your daughter and that you and your child's teacher have been in constant communication about this particular problem & have been unable to correct it.
My advice is:
(1) listen to your daughter
(2) keep her teacher posted on what your & your
daughter's concerns are
(3) reassure your daughter that you and the teacher
are on top of this.
Also, please keep in mind that in a large school setting, there will be some children who have diciplinary problems. Public schools can't "kick these kids out" (as they can in private schools) just because they are being difficult; so they have to have people on staff who are trained to work with them ie. councelors, principals, asst. princ., etc...
Many of these children are having problems at home, trouble learning & keeping up with their school work, anger management issues, or may just be going thru a rough period in their lives. This little boy may have never been in a school setting before and may be having trouble adjusting to all of the children, teacher, new rules, etc...
Just imagine how hard this is (or will be) on his parents ~ constantly getting phone calls about Johnnie's poor behavior choices in school today... If he's lucky he has caring parents/ guardians who are willing to work with him (in a positive way) on curbing his behavior. If not, he's in for a rough life.
Don't get me wrong ~ just because this kid is
around 5 or 6 yrs. old ~ it doesn't give him the right to single out your child (or a group of kids) and make her/their day miserable. I'm sure that his teacher is already keeping an eye on him and will do what she/he can to keep your daughter and others out of harms way while he learns to adapt.
Give them all a chance to get use to new their new surroundings, classmates and rules and hopefully everything will calm down. If not, that's when you contact the school principal to request a meeting about changing your daughter's class.
Bring a copy of the e-mail correspondance that you have had with your daughter's teacher to this meeting.
Most schools have a No Bulling policy which means that they are commited to providing a safe environment for all children to learn. This is not only to keep everyone safe, but to help those children with behavioral problem learn to deal with their issues.
Hang in there. Hope that helps. A