I'm a first grade teacher, and the mother of a one year old, and I have heard your story many times over. Here's what I suggest to the parents in my classroom. I start a behavior modification chart in the classroom that usually has just one rule on it-for your daughter: "I will raise my hand and wait to be called on before sharing" or " I will finish my work" (if this is the underlying problem) or "I will listen to my teacher's directions the first time they are said"...you can word it so it works for you. Then, I list the subjects of the day down the side of the chart. Eg, morning meeting, reading, math... For every subject, I check in with the student regarding their rule. If they did a good job, they get a star/sticker/happy face on their chart. If they make their goal by the end of the day, then their parents reward them at home! The classroom teacher sets the goal. For example, if there are 8 subjects, maybe 4 or 5 is a reasonable goal to start. The point is that you want her to reach the goal and be positively rewarded for her behavior, rather then punished when she gets home. The reward you give should be meaningful-more reading time with mommy, extra computer time with dad, a special trip somewhere as a family.... Or, some of my parents add a marble to a jar for every day a goal is made, then when the jar is full the student chooses a BIG reward. Either way, again, its positive for your child and she will feel successful instead of always receiving the same responses from you. Anyway, this is what I use and it is very successful in my classroom. Hope this helps!