A.J. asks from Fort Worth, TX on July 06, 2008
5 Month Old Not Sleeping Through the Night
My little girl will only sleep through the night once every blue moon. I get up to breastfeed her usually when she starts crying between 1-5am. I feed her quite a bit of food with oatmeal right before I put her to bed around 8:30 at night. So she goes to sleep with a full tummy and then when she wakes up in the middle of the night for a feeding she acts like she hasn't eaten in days. Some nights she will wake up every 2 hours and like I said sometimes she will go all night for me but rarely. Is 5 months too young to let her cry herself back to sleep? I hate to do that but this Mommy needs some SLEEP! I welcome any advice as to how you got your baby to sleep through the night. Thanks!
-the tired Mommy
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H.B. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
Hello!
You should feed her again before YOU go to bed. 8:30 pm to morning time is a long time for a 5 month old to go. If you feed her before you go to bed,then it will stretch the time a bit and she can go posiibly until morning.
Hope this helps.
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H.B. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
Hello!
You should feed her again before YOU go to bed. 8:30 pm to morning time is a long time for a 5 month old to go. If you feed her before you go to bed,then it will stretch the time a bit and she can go posiibly until morning.
Hope this helps.
P.F. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
Hi - my daughter had her 1st daughter in November so she's just a bit older than yours.....anyway, we give Addyson a pacifier to go to bed with and on occasion she has lost it in the middle of the night - we just go in give it back and pat her back a bit - no talking, no bright lights nothing else, just the pacifier.....but she's been using one since birth, it works really well for breastfed babies, they are comforted by the suckling motion. This worked well for me when my girls were infants (they're in there 20's now) and seems to work well for my grandbaby. Perhaps you should try more activity for her in the early evening and we found keeping the baby up until 9pm is better for some reason. She is still asleep no and it's 7:40 and she'll be up somewhere between now and 8:30 or so. But I think we're also very lucky!
C.H. answers from Dallas on July 06, 2008
Hi A. - my first did not sleep through the night until she was 13 months; my second did at 8 weeks. In my little experience, it really depends on the baby. Some people swear by giving them cereal; others say it never made a difference for them. My only advice is to try and make sure your bedtime ritual is consistent...example: bath, bottle, story, bed...make it the same every night so she knows what to expect. A book that really helped me was "Secrets of the Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg. Even though my first didn't sleep all the way, she had a very structured routine. It was every night at 2 am, she ate a bottle, went right back to bed. I slept-walked through it most nights!! Other moms on here will give you other good advice too. Be sure whatever methods you try, that you try them for a good week at least. Then, switch to something else if it's not working.
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Good luck - I know how frustrating this can be!!!
A.C. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
By 6 months she is big enough to cry it out (unless she was a born premature or has other health problems). If she is sleeping 5 hours then the docs consider that sleeping through the night. I wasn't brave enough to try letting mine cry it out until she was 12 months old. It only took us one night- boy I wish I had tried sooner!5 months is probably old enough. Make sure you have a regular bed time routine and you can get her attached to a toy or blankie to help comfort her while you are gone.
T.B. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
My daughter was four months old when we did the "cry it out" or Ferber Method and it worked wonders. Just like the book said 2-3 days and she was sleeping through the night, now she was not breastfeed, she was bottlefed. Also we did not just let her cry and cry till she fell asleep, we closly followed what the book said. I know some parents do not believe in this method, feel that it is cruel. I am not in that category. What I felt was cruel is that she was not getting the quality of sleep she was needing, therefore she was a cranky baby and quite frankly I was a cranky mama. It was something that I needed to do for both her and I, I needed to be a better mother to her and I wasn't at that time on just a couple of hours of sleep. I do not feel that it has damaged my daughter in anyway and she is two now. I like you was exhausted, my sweet little girl was getting up almost every hour on the hour, mama wasn't sleeping. Something to look into, like I said it isn't for everyone, it worked for us!!
You will get through this, I promise!!
Good Luck!
S.W. answers from Amarillo on July 07, 2008
Can you change your routine so that you feed your baby a little earlier for bed and nurse before you go to bed at night? This might give you a few more hours of sleep. Can you nurse her without her waking completely up so that she will go back to sleep easily? Or change the diaper and then the feeding something that will make it easier on both? The key as others have mentioned is a routine. How is your diet? Are you eating the proper nurishment? If you are eating low fat and skim milk you may need to change to regular milk. Eat lots of veggies and things and take the vitamins. Try these things out and make a journal so you know what you might have to change to get extra sleep. Good luck to you. The other S.
D.S. answers from Dallas on July 07, 2008
No it is not too early. Just be sure to time it just right. Your a mommy and you can now know what type of crying is important to get up for her. She is at that age now that she knows if she cries you will come to her rescue but then in order to get sleep you will have to grit and bear it. It will be hard it was for me but it paid off in the end.
L.R. answers from Dallas on July 06, 2008
my daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was 11 months and my son (7 months) still doesn't sleep through the night he wakes 1- 5 times... depending on what went on during the day, how much he ate during the day, if he is teething (right now he is)... even my daughter wakes regularly, but around 11 months she quit needing us to solve her night time issuse about 90% of the time... there are still occasions where she still needs us, poop accident, doesn't feel good, etc... I have to admit even I don't sleep through the night most nights... never have and I'm 32. Breastfed babies need to eat more often than bottle babies. I personally think 5 months is too early, but thats my opinion so take it for what it is worth. I just resigned myself to the fact early on with my daughter that I'd be up more than if I gave her a bottle... I never let her cry herself to sleep... it just didn't feel right. Some may say I broke lots of the rules about getting kids to sleep on their own... I just had to believe that if it took me nursing, rocking, wearing her to bed to help her I would do it... she didn't need assistance every night, but most... for a long time, but despite what they say she didn't have trouble teaching herself how to fall asleep when she was ready. We did establish a night time routine early on... we started diming the house lights about 30 mins before bed. We read a book, feed the fish and watch them eat then say good night to them and turn their light off, we say good night to our toys as we put them away, then go to her room say good night to her favorite animals on her shelves, to her monkey lamp and turn on her twilight turtle (it is a night light that stays on for 45 min... we found that most nightlights kept her awake if she woke up later) then we would turn on her FP Ocean wonders Aquarium and we sing alon with it as we put her in bed with her taggie and tell her night night... she would watch the aquarium and fall asleep. It didn't work EVERY time, but it worked more and more over time... now we just ask her if she wants to go to bed and if she is tired (she normally is around 8pm) now she will walk to her room and get in her bed. So When the books say not to nurse to bed that it is a bad habit, I totally disagree... I did that with my daughter for most of the first year along with our routine... over time she out grew it.
With my son I keep him in the arms reach co-sleeper and feed him or snuggle him when he wakes up. It doesn't disrupt my sleep near as much and truth be told I sleep better with him next to me. I do not believe that it prevents them like I said before from learning to settle themselves when they are ready... I know from experience with my daughter... she isn't 2 and most of the time she will settle herself. I believe that by responding to them early in life they have developed a sense of security that the cry it out method doesn't provide and as a result have more self confidence and more trust in us.
My best advise is listen to you heart.
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