How do you get your 4yr old boy to stop hitting his friends? We have been working on this alot at home and he is improving but still on occasion he will push,hit or choke another child during preschool.
First of all if you havent already done so, ask him why he hits. Then explain to him that you dont hit people, and that if he continues to hit, he can not play with other kids. Tell him that hitting hurts, and that hittng is not how you treat people you love. He may or may not understand, so just let him know that he will have to stay in the house and play all by himself if he still wants to hit.
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You can try telling your son why hitting is bad. It hurts, it makes people sad and makes people not want to be your friend. I tell my 4 year old that when she hits or pushes she totally changes her mind about it when I tell her nobody will want to he her friend. Remember he is testing you and waiting for you to break so be consistant and YOU will win this battle not him.
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How about a little "reward" if he can go to preschool all day without hitting his classmates. I've found that taking things away as punishment doesn't always work. Sometimes a positive spin will do the trick. Good luck!
my son went through the same thing but he was 2 i didnt know about this but my sister inlaw runs a daycare in oakmont and she gave me a referal to the alliance for infants and toddlers i never knew about it its totally free! we had them come out and review our child they do basically every thing from speech to behavioral problems.Her advice to us for the hitting (he only seemed to do it when he was really excited like if we had company he would hit and throw things he was trying to get attention!)she would take his hand if he hit and rub it and say nice we dont hit and repeat it a few times and when he threw something you take them by the hand and walk him over to where he threw the object bend over with him and pick it up and repeat not nice to throw! you have to keep at it with them it worked my son stopped in a week! and has never done it again! if you would like to try it, it worked for me. if you would like to have your child tested they are alliance for infants and children 2801 custer ave pgh pa 15227 ###-###-#### and the web address is afit.ogr they are state funded so its free!
I would recommend trying to praise only good behavior; it would have to be at home and also at school. For very good behavior he does you give him a sticker or something small for every bad behavior you tell him he just lost his chance to get a sticker because of his behavior (be consistent) at the end day you add up all the stickers(you can buy a sticker book) and he gets something special like 15 min extra up at night, what ever he really loves to do but because he is so young it would have to be every night. I had to do this with my son and it worked very well. You will have to tweak this to fit you family.The best thing for a little guy is to let him know you are only going to pay attention to good behavior.
