4-Year-old Overacheiver

Hi A.
I don't know where you live, or what you situation is financially, but I do know that there are 2 wonderful private schools for gifted kids in the Denver/Boulder area. One is The Logan School for Creative Learning http://www.theloganschool.org/
and the other is Rocky Mountain School for the Gifted and Creative
www.rms.org
They both seem to be able to keep kids challenged and working at their own level, without expecting them to behave older than they are.
Good Luck.
-J.

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First, I would definitely advise not to hold her back in her learning. I had an uncle who was reading encyclopedia's at age 3 and comprehending the material as well. My grandmother did not let him skip any grades either because of some of the same issues you mentioned. When he was in middle school, he got so bored with the classes that he started taking drugs and drinking alot. He was just frustrated and needed an outlet I guess, so he turned the wrong direction. The drugs and alchohol really messed him up. He is now in his 40's and can barely read at all and has LOT'S of social issues; especially with the law. It would be like your average adult sitting in a classroom everyday while someone was teaching them the ABC's and 123's. You would already know it all and just get bored and irritated real fast. Not to say that what happened to my uncle will happen to your daughter,(those were different times), but I would definately cater to her individual "special" needs. If she is more advanced, I would go for it and see how far it takes her. As far as home-schooling, you should check out COVA(Colorado Virtual Academy). They are a public charter home-schooling program. The classes are internet based and you would have an overseeing teacher to help you. They will give her some sort of comprehension test and then place here accordingly. Her teacher, and other parents, organize social events with students in her "class" as well and on a regular basis. That way she can interact with other kids and not miss out on any social skills. They even have talent shows and things like that. The curriculum is really easy to follow and they teachers are very helpful. All the materials are free; they even pay for your internet connection. They will let you borrow a computer to use for her if you choose. My son attended COVA last year. We already had 2 computers, but borrowed one anyway just for him to use for schooling. The only reason he isn't attending now is because we are moving out of Colorado and they do not offer the program where we are going. I'm hoping to find one similar to it though. Ok, sorry to have "talked" your ear off, but thought you should really check out COVA. Just type in COVA or K12 in your search engine and it should come right up. They'll have a website you can browse around in and an 800 # to call for info. Hope this helps and good luck to you; and your daughter. Take care.

R.

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Homeschool and don't look back!

I can give you advice (I hope) from your daughter's perspective, though not from the parental perspective, but first I want to address the issue of social opportunities.

First of all, I have become convinced that school is a pretty terrible place to learn social skills, and it's even more so for kids who are fairly outside the norm in some way or another. (More on that later from my own experience)

Secondly, from what I have seen of LDS churches, there should be plenty of opportunity for social activity there. They're pretty active churches, it seems to me. You can also join a support group that meets regularly.

Ok, on to my experience in school. I was also brighter than average, and advanced for my age. I learned how to read at four, though I don't know if I was doing second-grade reading and math. Kindergarten was ok for me, because it was mostly playtime, but 1st grade suddenly became excruciatingly boring. I checked out mentally. Fortunately my parents put me in an accelerated private school, and taught me things at home, and I am eternally grateful that they did both of those things. I have often wished they would have just homeschooled me. I would have learned more, wasted less time going over stuff I had known for years, and it would have been better socially as well. I was shy, and I did better in a situation with fewer people around that I could get to know well (the private school was smaller than the public one), and I think I would have done even better if I were homeschooled.

My son who is five years old sounds a lot like your daughter. I homeschooling him in COVA(Colorado Vitual Academy) It is a public homeschool program it can be found all over the nation.www.k12.com He is in K. He started in 1st grade math this sem. and we flew through the curriculum so fast that we are starting 2nd grade this next semester . He also has been reading for sometime now and is in 1st grade Phonics and Lang Arts. The program has so many social outlets it's not even a concern. What I love about the program is you go at their pace fast or slow and they can move up a grade at 80% complete. The curriculum has objectives that you follow and it give you guidelines and you are able to find your childs strengths and weaknesses and shape the curriculum around the way they learn. K12 also has a gifted and talented program which is called GATE. Hope this gives you some ideas to check out! Blessings

Hi A.,

It sounds like she needs something to create a balance in her life. Get her involved in sports, dance, crafts... something that she enjoys and allows her to interact with other children.

T.

A.,
I know exactly how you feel, my now seven year old son is exactly the same way and I went through all of those decisions myself. He taught himself to read and do math all on his own before preschool and is constantly learning and absorbing everything he hears. Teachers told me to move him up at least a grade, but I know that socially he wouldn't do well - and I was a year ahead when I went to school and I know how hard it was to go through middle school and high school being so much younger than my peers. In kindergarten, it became very hard to get him to go to school because he hated it and was constantly bored - not to mention that his teacher told him when she would ask a question "Not you Dylan, I know you know the answer", so he just stopped participating all together.

Anyway, coming to the solution I found - I don't know where you are located, but in my area they opened a new charter school that uses the Core Knowledge Program that tests each student in each subject at the beginning of the year and they are grouped with students at their level for that subject - regardless of their actual grade (the charter school does not cost anything to you monetarily). They also implicate History and Science classes that keeps him very interested. He absolutely loves going to school now and is challenged to live up to his potential. It has been wonderful for us and I am so thankful to have found it. If you would like to know more - e-mail me at ____@____.com this helps!

I am not sure what to do about her raising her hand and not giving the other children a chance to respond. You may be able to start teaching her taking turns and letting others answer, too.

I was a "gifted" child in Kindergarten. I was reading around the age of four. Myself and one other girl were the "smartest" in the class. I had to learn to wait to let a few other kids answer first. If they were wrong, then the teacher would call on me. What worked for me and the other child was extra reading or meorizing of poem, etc. after I finished my regular work, I read more books or helped the teacher with extra things in the classroom. Also, the other girl that I stated above lived in the same neighborhood as I did which made it easier for her and I to do the extra homework together.

I think we tend to focus too much on "fitting in" and being popular. The reality is that everyone, at some point or another, does not fit in and this can be what motivates us to go beyond our boundaries and to grow. I skipped 2 years of school and decided to study abroad for a few years, mostly because I didn't "fit in" California. Best thing I have ever done, and suprisingly, I found great friends all over the world. I will never "fit in" with the kids in the school I went to in California and truth be told, it really doesn't matter. I'm not only more financially successful, I feel I'm more emotionally successful since I don't need to derive my sense of worth by what other people think of me. I tend to feel that no matter what you do, you'll be placed in some sort of box in school or even work and the best lesson one can get is to find the strength to break out of the box. So encourage your child to continue to learn. She will find her place on her own. If worse comes to worse, she can always move to Silicon Valley where kids growing up with social issues because of intelligence are the norm--not the exception. :)

I have a 3 year old who sounds very similar to your daughter. He is very smart and has always been way ahead of the other kids his age. He loves preschool though, and is very social. Are you planning to send your daughter to public school? I would reccommend sending her to a private school where she can have the opportunity to be properly challenged and stimulated. I think a kid that smart needs the proper environment in order to thrive. I would send her to a private school or homeschool her. I understand your concern with social life if she is homeschooled. I struggled with the same thing and decided against homeschool. Have you ever heard of a private school called Challenger. It is in Orem, you should look into it. Good luck!

Hi, A.,

First, congratulations on having such an advanced child. My child is an only as well and she is behind a bit socially also.

Have you looked into a private preschool setting that may encourage the children that are ahead? Is that a resource you can use? I would go onto Google and look for special programs in the area - I know there is a Goddard School in Colorado springs that I would highly recommend, but I don't know if that's feasible for you - are you in the Springs area or closer to Pueblo?

you need to enroll your daughter in a program for accelerated children. I recommend a privte school, challenger has a good program you should check out when they enroll. I would not recommend home schooling for an only child, she needs social interaction. I would also recommend a sport or dancing or something else where she interacts with children. Her entire life cannot be about school and learning she needs interaction with other kids if she is going to balance herself.

A.-
I too have had this same problem with both of my older 2 girls. I am a preschool teacher and faced this problem with many of my students. As a teacher there is not much else to do but encourage them to read, I seperated them into a seperate group and read the bob series. But as a mom I faced great challanges at the public school. My girls now are in 4th and 2nd grade and my 4th grader stopped reading because it was too easy and she got bored. I could see my 2nd grader going in the same direction so we researched and found a charter school in our neighborhood(and it's free!). The charter school we go to does the Core Knowledge program which is excellent for excelled learners. They seperate the kids for math, spelling and reading into their own levels of learning. My 2nd grader is in the 5th grade reading program and loves it and my 4th grader is enjoying reading again. Their are a lot of LDS members that attend there and we had a wonderful Christmas program that public schools aren't allowed to have. Our director is not LDS but still a very good christian man. This might be a very good option for you to look at. You can do research online for State of Utah public charter schools and find one in your area. If your daughter is attending kindergarten next year, now is the time to research and find a school because they all have small enrollments because they focus on small teacher/student ratios. Hope this helps. I know from experience that it cures the boredem fear. If you'd like more information you can e-mail me at ____@____.com