31 And Going Crazy

I had my tubes tied when I was also in my 30s and many of my friends have also. I didn't experience any emotional feelings and we were all relieved to not worry about getting pregnant again. It sounds like you need to talk to a dr. about these feelings especially since it is negatively affecting your daughter and husband. You are the biggest role model your child can see and you must try to handle all situations in the best possible manner for her to learn from you. Have some blood work done and see what's going on inside and also consider the stresses of everyday life. See what you can change and make things easier for you.

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I just had my tubes tied 7 weeks ago when my son was born. I went through alot of the samethings you are describing. My doc put me zoloft. It really helps. I dont like to take medication either but being able to take care of my family is of great importance to me. So I made the discision to take the meds and Im glad I did. Good luck!

H.,
You pose a good question and while i don't have an answer, I'd like to thank you for bringing that to my attention. I had my tubes tied 2 years ago and I have noticed that I'm a bit more emotional as well but I never thought about it having to do with my tubes. Hmmmm, great question.

I take some natural supplements that have helped with feelings like that. I take a supplement called EstrAval. I also take vitamins and minerals. I don't know if you exercise, but the power of a 30 minute walk every day is amazing.

I am glad you are going to the doctor. Tell him or her all of this. It could be the start of an early menopause.

I can't help wondering if you are experiencing grief over no longer being able to have children. Even though I had four children when I went through the procedure, I grieved the loss of that part of my life. It was something I felt obligated to do because my husband at the time wanted no more children. I kicked myself afterwards because of what I went through, that I did it for him and not for me. I had a lot of guilt about it also, since I am Catholic. It affected me deeply. Maybe going to talk to someone about it would help.

It sounds to me as though you are not comfortable with your decision to have your tubes tied. The symptoms you are describing are related to depression -- and it doesn't need to be the kind you have for years. Talk it over with your minister (unless you're Catholic), go to your doctor and ask to speak to a psychologist (they can not prescribe meds but are good listeners), ask about a support group.

Once you are more at ease with this decision you'll be happier. Also, I'd ask about premenopause bloodwork, unless all of your other symptoms are still in good working order.

M.

Tying your tubes can be an extremely challenging issue but not one I think that will make you weepy. The symptoms you are describing are depression. Did you want more kids? Is that a struggle between you and your spouse?

Even if it is, you may need to check your diet. Do you eat anything with polyphenols? Dark chocolate, red wine some vegetables. You may need to detox for a while to get some junk out of your system. Do you drink caffien? Try cutting back on that for three weeks, and see what the fourth week gets you. (The first two are heck but well worth it!)

I am not sure if this will help but there is a product and its not that expensive and you can get it at GNC its called VITEX its a monthly support for women. I have taken it and i have several friends who have taken it and one friend was going to have some surgery so she quit taking it for a month and her and her husband couldnt wait till she started taking it again because she could tell a differnce in her mood swings.

H.,

I had my remaining tube tied in 2006 and ever since then my cycles and monthly moodiness has been very different. I thought I had bad PMS before but now even I dread myself. My family physician warned me this might happen but I didn't think it would be this severe. I don't even feel normal for at least 10 days: crying, screaming, craving Dr. Peppers, angry at nothing, etc. I can literally feel the real me coming back when I see the first drops of blood.

K.

H. I think this is somewhat normal. I am 34 and started experiencing this when I turned 30. I haven't had my tubes tied but I was on BC for nearly 15 years. I took myself off of it and it helped but I was still a little teary eyed. I am now on cymbalta and I love it. It's not like xanax or any of those other "street" drugs. This one just kinda helps to get you through a day. There is no "high" or a "come down" feeling just helps with what ever is going on in your head. I don't have insurance and thank goodness my dr. gives me samples cause he said it is expensive but its a great medicine and not one of those that you can get "addicted" to. Good Luck with your appointment. steffie

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I had my tubes tied 4 years ago after my third child. Since then I have gradually become more and more "depressed". I anger quickly and am not patient like I used to be. I finally went to the dr. and he prescribed Lexapro. It has helped tremendously. I was so against it at first, but after I finally gave in I realized that it is worth being a better mom and wife. I never correlated the tubes being tied with the depression. That is interesting and I am going to check into that. I just always felt like adding that 3rd child to an already hectic life just pushed me over the edge. Now I am handling things much better and Lexapro is not habit-forming. You definitely need to talk with your doctor because the short time we have with our children is way too important to be grumpy through it all. We need to make happy memories every chance we get and we can only fake it for so long. Get the help you and your family deserve!

Have you been reading my diary? I've been an emotional wreck for a year or so myself, along with some other symptoms. I just had a visit with my GYN and found out that while rare, I probably have peri-menopause! She even went so far as to prescribe a mild testostrone cream for me. I'm only 38 for crying out loud! Anyway, I'd love to know what your doctor has to say about all this. Would you mind letting me know? I'm not real crazy about taking a lot of meds either and only end up using it half of the time anyway. We can share "sob" stories if you like...