September 17, 2008,
J.E. asks from Orlando, FL on September 15, 2008
3 Yr Old Food Ideas
My son will be 3 in Dec. and is not wanting to eat dinner. I was wondering if anyone had some dinner suggestions that worked for their kids (that maybe my husband and I could eat as well)? I do not want to prepare a meal especially for him as I feel he is old enough now to understand we eat as a family and I don't want him to get too spoiled :). We are down to turkey dogs, spagetti, peanut butter/jelly, and chicken nuggets (though he will still eat just about any kind of fruit!).
Thank you so much!!
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K.L. answers from Jacksonville on September 15, 2008
We eat lots of different things... and yes, we do it all together. I put frozen veggies in organic mac and cheese that I prepare in a lowfat way, so it doesn't affect the adults too much. My daughter loves hummus, avocado, tuna helper (again with extra frozen veggies added in), lasagna, shrimp cooked on the grill, baked or grilled sweet potatoes, scrambled eggs, pad thai, chicken curry, veggie fried rice, ground turkey mini tacos or burrito roll-ups - I put vegetarian refried beans in, a little cheese and some of the ground turkey with the taco seasoning - pizza (we usually buy frozen "supreme" to get some veggies bit she likes plain cheese too). She also loves lowfat cottage cheese, yogurt, peanut butter or cream cheese on cinnamon raison mini bagels or bread. Rachel Ray has some great kid ideas on her Web site too, that include good veggies or chicken sausage. She really eats a lot of things and seeing Mommy eat them with her, totally helps. I never cook another meal for her ever and have been super calm from the first time she said she didn't want it. I tell her she has to sit with us while we eat... and that she can make the choice to go to bed without dinner if she wants to, but that she will not be allowed anything other than milk if she leaves the table without eating. I also am a huge fan of puree-ing veggies and cheese into mashed potatoes to get more protein and good stuff into something they like.
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V.B. answers from Jacksonville on September 15, 2008
Without knowing what he refuses, it is wide open to suggestions.. so be prepared for the list you're gonna get from all of us moms out here... LOL
You're right to consider that you don't want to spoil by making a "special" dinner for him. What I have always tried to do is just be sure that there is ONE thing on the plate that I know they will eat. Then let them have a bite of everything else. At least try one bite of one new thing.. then can eat/not eat from their plate whatever they want/don't.
At 3 yrs old, he should be asking for permission to be excused when he is done, so don't mention anything about what is on his plate until he has asked to be excused/or if he can be done. Then let him know that he needs to eat "one bite of ___", then he can get down.
You might try preparing things differently. Our kids always have liked grilled meats. You just have to cut it up before putting it on their plate. Grilled chicken or steak, our son even (yes at that age) liked grilled salmon! Or smoke some pork and do pulled pork with BarBQ sauce. You can nuke (steam) cut of zuchinni or yellow squash add a dash of Lawry's seasoned salt and pat of butter for some "different" veggies. They also preferred corn on the cob, rather than cut off the cob (they got to use those "special" corn-holders!).
Have you made a Pizza? What kid doesn't like that? Make half like you guys like it (don't forget the mushrooms!), and half how he'll eat it.. Buy one of those pre-made crusts and a jar of Ragu Pizza Quick, some mozz.cheese and go for it! (My husband LOVES it). Let olives be a side dish one night (our kids LOVE black and green olives). Peel and slice up a cucumber or wash some romaine lettuce leaves or baby carrots and let him dip them in some ranch dressing. My kids are MUCH more likely to eat a RAW veg than a cooked one. Will he eat a grilled cheese sandwich? You could put some ham in yours and serve with soup and oyster crackers (our kids like putting the crackers in their bowl).
Another thing we do with our kids is make chef salads... but put all his salad on a plate, without things touching.. a pile of lettuce, a pile of shredded or cubed cheese, some olives, cucumber slices, little ham rolls, turkey rolls, a slice of boiled egg, etc. then some ranch dressing to dip it all in...
What about quesadillas... just cook the chicken and cut it up into small pieces, then throw a tortilla on a pan, spread with some cheese, add the chicken pieces, fold and flip, (you can add peppers and onions or whatever to you and your husband's), let him dip it in sour cream...
Will he eat rice? You could crock pot some chicken and rice...
Our daughter actually began eating steamed broccoli at about that age. Just cut the tops off, rinse, put them in a bowl with some water, sprinkle some salt, and nuke for 5 min. (covered with wax paper). Then stir a pat of butter, or use a dash of lemon juice and stir.. At many restaurants you can get steamed broccoli with their kids' meal (as an alternative to fries).
Just a few ideas... best of luck.. now that mine are older, I STILL struggle with what to cook for dinner! We're always on the go and everything takes so LONG...
P.M. answers from Jacksonville on September 16, 2008
My son turned 3 in August and we encountered this same thing a couple of months ago. We tried a few things that have worked for us. We have decided not to force him to eat (as was done to both my husband & I growing up).
1. He now eats a large lunch. I make that a hearty meal with lots of veggies & protein.
2. We offer him what we are having for dinner. If he's hungry enough he'll munch on it, if not then he won't.
3. We use fruit as our "dessert". He gets no fruit if he doesn't eat a good portion of veggies & meat/ protein. This will sometimes tempt him to eat some.
We have days where he's back to the old eating ways where he eats hearty lunches & dinners. We also have those days where he picks at dinner. He's still growing & seems quite healthy, so I am trying to go more with the "flow".
L.O. answers from Miami on September 17, 2008
It's just a phase...this is the age that most go through the "picky Eater" stage.
T.R. answers from Orlando on September 16, 2008
I think three is that age where kids start showing their independence and wanting to make the decisions on everything. Including what they eat. It is a control thing, and truly annoying! lol I did a couple of things to help us in this situation.
1. I have some sesame street shows recorded that are about food. One of them is specifically about trying something new everyday. So we made a game of it, so he would try something new. I never got to wild so I knew he would like the things he tried.
2. I let him "help" me at the grocery store in selecting foods. I also got online and went into food sites with pics to help us decide a menu for the week. He enjoys being part of the decision making. Then when helping with the cooking he feels more in control. So when we sit down to have a meal he eats it because it was "made by him"! The way we discovered this was one day he really needed some mommy time, so I had him help me make scrambled eggs and fruit for breakfast. I had him blow on the eggs, then tap each side. Then he says "abbracadabra!" and I crack the egg. For the fruit I gave him a "bubba cutter" which is a plastic fork and allowed him to cut it into pieces. For a week all he wanted to eat was eggs and fruit, it hit me then that the reason he wanted to eat it was because he got to make it.
3. I stopped having the things he only wanted to eat in the house. For a while it was pizza, I would let him look in the freezer and fridge to see that we do not have any. There were more than a few temper tantrums, but then he would have to pick something from what was available. (this is for lunches, not dinners).
We had a lot of trouble with this because we do not have the opportunity to eat as a family that often with my husbands schedule. Also I had been on bedrest for nearly my whole pg and now a new babe. You know how it is. Our meals may not always be pretty, and sometimes they take a lot longer to prepare. But he gets so much satisgaction and pride out of helping that it is all worth it!
C.K. answers from Miami on September 16, 2008
Have you heard of Jessica Seinfeld's book called Deceptivley Delicious? Go to this site http://www.deceptivelydelicious.com/site/ and see some of her recipes there where you combinepureed vegetables into the entree and you know your child is getting healthy food. I have 2 boys ages 4 and 2 and a husband who is not big on vegetables. I can tell you from the one of the pickiest vegetable eaters, my husband has loved everything I made no matter what I hid in there. Pureing the vegetables isn't that hard, Jessica tell you she spends an hour Sunday night with Jerry in the kitchen doing the vegetables. I bought frozen vegetables that steamed inthe bag, then put them in a food processor, baged and froze them. Do put the bags in a container in the freezer as some vegetables leak over time (red peppers for example).
She has a great spaghetti pie that is made with brocolli in the meatballs and i think cottage cheese in the spaghetti sauce. You would never know it. There is also a chicken nugget recipe, mac and cheese, all the things kids love to eat. She has created breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner recipes for you. It's really a great idea.
Good luck and hope it helps!
T.S. answers from Panama City on September 16, 2008
Try the little meals like
Dinty Moore Beef Stew
Ramen Chicken noodle soup (just don't add too much water)
Hormel Lasagna with shredded cheese on top
toddler meals like
rice with carrots and peas
Also try meatloaf with chicken broth and spaghetti sauce and onions and egg and either ritz crackers or Chicken in a biscuit crackers crushed up.
Mac and Cheese is also a favorite with my kids
I also slice smoked sausage with cheese pieces, fry them in the skillet quickly, then place a stick pretzel in each of them.
We also wrap together, sliced turkey, cheese and pretzel sticks.
You can mix cooked ground beef with cooked mac and cheese and italian diced tomatoes for a great casserole dish, just top with shredded cheese and bake together for 10 minutes.
Little individual pizzas are good too.
my kids love all of these things and then some.
M.H. answers from Gainesville on September 15, 2008
My 3YO is the same way. I asked the doctor about it at his annual check-up last month, and he said not to worry, that they are learning a more mature way of how to respond to appetite cues, and learning to be in control of their eating habits. He said not to push it one way or the other - just make sure you offer him healthy foods at meal times and let him choose how much he eats (which with my son is sometimes NONE). For me it was frustrating becasue I felt like I was wasting food, so I start with a very small amount on his plate and if he eats it - great, he will ask for more if still hungry.
My son loves broiled or grilled fish. I know that is odd for most kids, but it can't hurt to try. The doctor actually thought my son misunderstood the question when he asked him what his favorite food was (I guess most kids say french fries).