3 Years Old Only Having Chocolate Biscuits and Lots of Freshmilk

It's been said again and again...and it IS STILL valid advice:

"Kids will eat when they are hungry."

That said, if the offending foods are not available, then when she's hungry enough, she'll eat what you offer.

Good luck!

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Stop giving her the cookies, cake and milk and let her get hungry. Then serve her small portions of a large vaiety of foods. She will eat if she is hungry. See what she will eat, and be sure to include those items with each meal, but also keep serving new foods for her to try. Don't reintroduce sweets until she is eating a more balanced diet, and then only give them after meals. Give water to drink with meals, and milk at snack time and bed time. She will not let herself starve, but of course she will choose to eat dessert instead of dinner if that is an option. Also, if you send her to a pre-school where they serve a lunch she will likely start to try new foods she sees the other children enjoy. I liked to take my picky boys to the buffet restaurant once in a while and found they would usually discover something new they would eat when we were there.

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Assuming that this is a serious question, I'm going to give you a serious answer.

Stop offering her the unhealthy junk. I wouldn't worry about her not eating buns, bread, noodles, rice, sausages, pizza, hotdogs or juice. Don't offer her that stuff. It's not healthy anyway. DON'T GIVE HER THE BISCUITS OR BUTTER CAKE. She will not starve herself. Continue to offer her fresh fruit and veggies. Try preparing them in different ways, steamed veggies, roasted veggies and fresh fruit cup up into bite size peices. Offer her unprocessed lean meats and cheeses, again prepared different ways. When she is really hungry, she will eat. I've never heard of a three year old who starved themselves because mommy wouldn't give them junk food.

On Monday, I would consider giving a call to the pediatrician. Only eating certain foods could be a sign of a bigger issue then a picky eater. There could be gluten allergy and milk allergy which causes the child to crave the foods which cause the allergy. Until then, stop, simply STOP giving into her junk food requests. Also, don't allow her to fill up on milk. Only give it in AM and PM, not at meal time. She needs to get some vitamins and minerals in her system from some healthy foods.

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I think a lot of moms make the mistake of giving their children "anything" they will eat because as moms, we are worried about our kids being hungry.

However, this is a dangerous trap to fall into.
Kids really won't starve, and in my opinion, I'd rather have my kid go a day with nothing than have chocolate biscuits.

You just have to switch things up. Water and milk certainly aren't hurting anything, but your child needs a well rounded diet and you just have to keep introducing things that are healthy. If your child doesn't want to eat them, don't fall back on sweets just to be able to feel like at least they've eaten SOMETHING.

Take your daughter to the market with you. Let her pick out some things from the produce section and let her help you prepare them. Encourage her to try tasting them. It might spark an interest in different types of fruits and veggies.

You can make "sundaes" out of yogurt, bananas, berries and a little whipped cream on top. This can be served for breakfast or as a dessert. But, you have to offer healthy things and like I said, don't fall back on bad habits. The longer they persist, the harder it is to break that habit.

You are not the first mom to say, "My kid will only eat.......".
I'm not being judgemental, but it's usually the case that it's all they will eat because they've been allowed to do that.

The produce section is an amazing place. There are so many different colors and textures to things. Sampling things can be a learning experience in and of itself.

I encourage you to ditch the biscuits. Introduce smoothies. Borrow a juicer and let your little one help make juice. Sometimes when little ones are involved in preparation, they are much more likely to taste things.

Make what you make. If she won't eat it, don't offer anything other than a light snack like grapes and melon in between the next meal. Make what you make and encourage her to try it. If she won't eat it, there is no plan B until the next meal, etc.

Don't cave. That's the main thing.
Hang in there.

Just my opinion.

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Here is how you nip this in the bud. No more buying or making any biscuits or cake.

It's that simple, S..

You have created a monster by allowing this child to dictate what you offer for meals.

The foods you mention, buns, breads, noodles, rice, are all starches. They aren't very nutritious for your daughter. Hot dogs, sausages, pizza - all very fattening and not very nutritious. Eggs and fruit ARE good for her.

Juices are usually full of sugar. Cheese is good up to a point but can cause constipation.

You need to research better meals for you and your family. Cook those. Don't buy or make any more cakes or biscuits of any kind. Put nutritious food on her plate. If she screams that she doesn't want it, take her down from her high chair and tell her that if she doesn't want to eat, she doesn't have to. Put saran wrap over her plate and put it in the frig. When she comes back later begging for food, take it out of the refrigerator and tell her that THIS is what she can have. She will pitch a fit, but you ignore her.

She will act awful to try to get the biscuits and cake. You just ignore it.

She will not starve. She will try to get you to give her milk to fill her up. You give her water instead. You tell her that she can have milk after she eats.

It might sound mean, but you have to change the dynamics here that you have messed up in the first place. This is how you do it.

Do not fuss at her. Do not try to cajol her into eating. Do not pay attention to her food or her when she is in the high chair. As soon as she starts fighting with you, take her out of the high chair.

You really need better ideas of food to feed your family. That list you have in your post is not good for any of you.

D.

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I highly doubt this is a real post because the effect of such a diet would have been reported to DFS by her pediatrician a long time ago.

Oh my, are we really so ready to claim we are better than those that call troll that we would ask why would someone think this is a fake post? Three years old eating nothing but milk and cookies? I am actually not even sure a child could survive a month without suffering from malnutrition with that diet!! Three years!! Come on folks can we employ just a bit of common sense? I promise it doesn't hurt! If this was a true story she would be asking child protective services that question, not us!

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If this is a real post/question.... , The best solution is not to keep the bad foods in the house. That way there is nothing like that for her to eat.

do not even purchase them..

Keep the healthy foods in the house and keep offering them to your child.

children do not like large portions, so use small plates and small bowls.. if she eats great, if not, no big deal, but no snacks..

Eventually she will learn to try things..

You are the parent, you provide the food, just become strong and quit letting your child rule the meals.

Children will not starve/. When they are hungry they will eat.

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I have a very skinny picky eater and there were days when I was happy if she wanted a cookie. We saw a nutritionist who told me that it is the parent's duty to put healthy foods in front of the child and the child's duty to decide how much to eat of it. My daughter would sit down at all 3 meals with us and eat some of everything, but just not enough. She was put on PediaSure and we switched to Carnation Instant Breakfast in 2% chocolate milk after some years since it was sooo much cheaper. There were days where she just had 3 of those little bottles and 5 cheerios and a 2 crackers. So start with showing her what others eat by having everyone sit down (at least for dinner) and not making special meals for her. Just a variety of things. If with a true, healthy variety of various textures she does not come up with anything she likes to eat, then either add Pediasure or ask your pediatrician to see a nutritionist. My daughter likes things that have a tougher texture, so no mushy blue berries only rock hard ones, no overcooked pasta only al dente, she likes watermelon close to the rind, she likes toast not soft bread, etc. But your child cannot live on chocolate biscuits. PS: I remember from introducing new foods to infants that it takes at least 3 times to try something, even if they turn up their nose the first time, try it again. Maybe go back to baby food if she ate that?

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Whether or not this is a "real" question, the advice given may be seen by others, and may prove to be valuable to them.

As others have said, stop giving in to what she wants to eat. YOU determine the good foods to eat.

Offer her healthy meals.... notice what she WILL eat. Fruits, veggies, small amounts of meat, a small amount of a carb (bread, potato, rice, pasta).

If she doesn't want to eat, don't sit there and plead and beg, or offer treats if she will eat... just let her get down and play, and wait until the NEXT meal before you offer anything else. Don't follow her around all day trying to get her to eat.

Don't get emotional about it. Just offer her small amounts of a variety of healthy foods.

Don't let her fill up on milk between meals... offer her a small glass of milk (4-6 ounces, maybe) at each meal, and that is all.

When she gets hungry, she WILL eat.

That being said, I know there are children with sensory issues and only want certain types of textures.... if you feel there are oral sensory issues, contact a developmental pediatrician for an evaluation. Occupational Therapy and Physical Therapy (and eating therapy) can make a BIG difference in her life, AND in yours.

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sounds like you need to put away the chocolate cookies/biscuits and cake and start putting out fruits and veggies and good for you food. if thats all thats offered thats what she will eat.

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Why would this not be a real post? Lots of people are first time moms or from other countries. Why the put down Sarah D.? She obviously knows it's not right, she wants help. My answer is let's assume this child is not special needs....you can try to cut down on what she loves or stay firm and not give her those treats until she at least eats some of the healthy food that you know she needs. You can be really hard core and just not give it to her at all. You need to do what you know is right in your heart. The diet she has right now is pretty bad as you know. If she has other issues, reach out for additional help/.

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Great first question.....

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Who provides your child with food and drink? He will not starve, you set the diet and your child will change his.

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I have to wonder why you started offering those choices. Though with that diet she would have other healthy issues as there is very low nutrition value here.
Only offer healthy choices. There many other things food wise you are missing

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