C.J.
I have to kick in my 2 cents. any early child care program worth their salt WOULD NOT kick a child of 3 out of a program. They sound ill equipped to manage the situation and not very skilled in early childhood development.
I would definately take her to a different program that works with families to foster solutions.
My 2 yo was a biter/hit the teacher in the face (yikes!) and I thought that he would get "kicked out" the director said NO! that does not do the child or you any good. so we worked together to find solution and their guidance and support acutally gave me things to do at home to deter the issues.
My suggestion, find a quality program that has been trained at director and teacher level in development and behavior modifcation techniques.
good luck!