A.G. asks from Menasha, WI on April 14, 2008
3 Year Old Still in Pull Ups at Night
My daughter will be 4 years old this Sept. and I can't seam to put her to bed without a pull up. I have tried to tell her before she goes to sleep that she has her undies on but she still wets the bed. How do I make it so she is fully potty trained?
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T.L. answers from Minneapolis on April 15, 2008
Hi A.
with both my son and daughter the way we night trained was they slept with nothing on there bottoms. so my daughter wore her night gown and my son would sleep in his night shirt. It worked great for us. I discovered it by accident my son would pull is diaper off before he fell a sleep and wake up dry in the morning but the nights he left it on he would be wet so I just stopped putting a diaper on at night and he never had another accident. Good Luck :)T.
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M.K. answers from Minneapolis on April 19, 2008
Just to let you know, there are lots of kids your daughter's age who still pee while they sleep. My daughter was completely DAY potty trained at 2years 2 months, which I hear is early. But now she's 1 month from being four and she still wears a pull-up at night. She simply sleeps through her "peeing." So I guess she's older than your daughter. My advice would be not to worry about it. Most of my friends' kids stopped needing a pull-up around 5 or 6. I have noticed lately that the amount in her pull-up is less and in the morning she runs to the bathroom to pee which she didn't a few months ago. It'll eventually happen.
Good luck with baby number 2.
S.S. answers from Milwaukee on April 19, 2008
My son if four and still wears pull-ups to bed...but he's just starting to be dry regularly. Some tips I read that have helped him is to give him a high-fat snack before bed such as peanut butter toast or crackers or cheese. And to let him have a drink or so before bed (dehydrated people go to the bathroom more frequently so you don't want them dehydrated before bed). And then we wake him to go to the bathroom before we go to bed. And so far he's been dry every morning we've worked on this using these techniques. But remember that each child is different...and develop in their own time. I wish you the best!
R.K. answers from Appleton on April 15, 2008
My daughter wet the bed for several years after she was potty trained. It turned out that she had an allergy to artificial flavors and colors. If she ate or drank anything with artificial colors or flavors she would wet the bed. If not she was fine. I saw a doctor on a talk show and she urged parents to become their own detectives. Take foods out if their diet snd add them back one at a time to see what is causing the problem. It works with behavior issues and a lot of issues. It could be anything from dairy to wheat -to artiicial flavors and colors. Keep trying.
L.B. answers from Sioux Falls on April 15, 2008
Its normal for kids to not get the night time part right away. My son is 8 and still has problems in that area. I was told by his doctor that its a maturity factor and that eventually he will learn to get up in the night. She probably just sleeps so hard that she doesnt realize that she has to go. Give her time, if she is 6 and still doing so, then it could be a medical problem. Good Luck!
C.O. answers from Minneapolis on April 15, 2008
My almost 4 year old has been daytime and naptime potty trained for a year but still wears pull ups at night. We talk to him about staying dry at night and he really wants to. We give him a sticker when he does stay dry. I think it's a matter of their bladders being ready to stay dry all night.
A.S. answers from Minneapolis on April 15, 2008
We had the same problem with our 3,almost 4 year old, too. She started to insist on wearing underwear to bed (she has a big sister and that was a motivator). We make her go potty before bed and that seems to have significantly reduced the accidents. We've only had a couple of accidents in the last 3 months and usually a result of someone forgetting to make her go potty first (my husband)-it's now a habit for her and she's doing great.
Don't be too worried about it though-a lot of children have a hard time making it all night without an accident and it's totally normal. I have an almost 6 year old niece who still has to wear a pull-up. I have another niece that wore one well into her 5th year too. Every child is different.
As a side note, my older daughter was waking up dry since about 2 years of age-there is no rhyme or reason-they are all on their own schedule.
R.C. answers from Sioux City on April 15, 2008
You can't "make it" so that she is potty trained, and I think you are expecting too much. As many others have said, night-time bladder control is commonly a problem well into school years, and your little girl is only 3! I actually remember how I finished "potty training" myself, and I could give you a couple of tips, but I think she's just too young.
Just for contrast, both my younger kids were totally dry through the night at eighteen months, but my daughter wasn't potty-trained until 4 1/2, and my son, about 2 months older than your daughter still has "accidents" pretty regularly (including wetting the bed right before getting up in the morning.)
B.H. answers from Minneapolis on April 15, 2008
That is so common to have a child in pull ups at bedtime even into like 10 years old. It's a physical problem they can't help or control.
If that is the ONLY time she's in a pullup or has accidents than that's good and you'll have to wait for her to outgrow it.
My daughter had a sleepover last summer and a 6yr.old girl was still in pullups the mother and I made it discrete so the other girls wouldn't know.
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