Wow! You have a very smart little girl! It is very clear who is the boss here! Please note that I am not trying to be judgmental, but just offer advice. First of all you are NOT consistent. By all the things that you have tried, how long did you stick with them? Probably not very long. However, I think that no matter what you do, unless you stick with it (for longer than a week or even a month) she knows that if she sticks it out, SHE WILL WIN! Let's remember that you are the Mommy and she is just the child. What you say goes. No ifs, and or buts. I would maybe start with one group of toys at a time (just books, or just dolls, or just blocks) and say "Elizabeth, I need you to pick up the dolls and put them away." If she says no, or acts like she doesn't know where they belong, again you repeat, "Elizabeth, I need you to pick up the dolls and put them away." You DO NOT need to have a conversation about them because frankly that just wastes time and she KNOWS it! You don't need to explain WHY she needs to put them away or WHERE they go, she ALREADY knows! The 3rd time I would say, "Elizabeth, I need you to pick up the dolls and put them away or I am going to take them away." If she says, "Fine, take them." THEN DO IT! Don't give them back until she learns to pick up ALL her toys. The next time she thinks she is going to call your bluff, start with the blocks. Warn her twice and then take them. DO NOT give them back until she learns to pick up her toys. YOU didn't make the mess, YOU weren't the one playing with them. Make 3 your magic number. You shouldn't have to tell her 5 or more times to do something. You say she is ONLY 3 1/2, but a very SMART 3 1/2 it sounds like. Once she realizes that you really aren't going to give back the dolls, then the blocks (and hopefully not much more than that!!) she'll know that there are now rules to keeping her room clean. If you think she has too much to clean up for a 3 year old, then TAKE OUT SOME OF THE STUFF!!! Seriously, if you have to clear a path to get to her bed, there is too much stuff! (ONLY MY OPINION!) Do you have storage problems? We just bought one of the "steel" looking shelving units from WalMart for under $40 I think. You can easily girl it up with ribbons, paint, stickers, etc. You must be consistent whatever you do. She knows that if she calls your bluff, she wins. For the sake of her future as a tidy/organized person I think you should set boundaries. My 4 & 8 year old neices are absolute piglets! But so are my sister and brother in law! They leave their clothes everywhere and their toys. Puzzles are missing pieces, as well as games. How they play with anything is beyond me! Also, don't ever make an "empty threat". For example, "If you don't pick up your toys, I'm going to throw them away." If you're not planning on throwing them away, don't say it! It just reinforces that you NEVER MEAN what you say! Anyway, this was just one mommy's opinion. Please let us know what happens with your shining star!