2Nd Opinion or Nervous 1St Time Mom

Your dr. should compliment your style as a mother. I would switch after what you shared. But, I tend to be very tough on Dr.'s I love mine and wouldn't switch for anything. In fact I recently moved to Olathe and still drive to the Plaza to see him, just because we is that great. Find somebody you trust, and trust a lot, somebody who will work with you and trust your judgement as the mother (your gut is the best tool for a dr. to follow). Be protective - it's your right as the mother, Dr.'s are not all knowing and most have control issues and hate to be questioned - this is not acceptable in our day and age. So, find soemebody who you love. Empower yourself. Hope that helps....

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If you are uncomfortable with your doctor - CHANGE. It is so important for you and your children's doctor to be on the same page. You know what is best for your child, and you need a doctor who is willing to listen to your concerns, and not treat you like you are stupid!!!! My advice - get a different doctor!!!!!!!!!

A mother's instincts are nothing to be taken lightly. Any doctor who will not listen to you should be kicked to the curb especially when you have seen other doctors who are so very concerned about your child. Bronchiolitis can very quickly become a very serious condition in a child so young and a doctor who just blows it off as nothing is not someone that you need to be taking your child to. You are paying this doctor to take care of your children, help you understand what is wrong with them, and resolve any concerns that you have. If he is not doing these things, then get a different doctor not just a second oppinion. Remember, you know your child better then anyone and you will know better then any doctor, who only sees your child occasionally, if something is not right. I hope the little guy feels better soon.

In this instance I would not say our are being a nervouse nelly and I would definately find a new peditrician! I would ask the doctors at Children's who they recommend becuase that doctor would be more likely work with Children's on treating your son.
Personally, I would rather be overly cautious than not when it comes to caring for my children. I can't tell you how many times I called the nurse with a million questions at my ped's office when my son was first born and they were always so nice about it. You want a doctor you are comfortable with and can discuss anything (and I mean anything) with. I have a boy and 2 girls and it's unbeliveable all the different concerns you will have as they get older. No one knows your child better then you so stay on those doctors and nurses if you think there is something wrong. Most of the time you will probably be right. Best of luck and I hope your son gets better soon!

J.,
I believe I'd change doctors. Sometimes you have to do what your gut tells you. You are the mom, you have the right to do this. Your reservations about him must be real, or you wouldn't be writing this question. The reason they took him without vitals they can tell he has labored breathing from seeing his chest moving, how fast he is breathing, he was obvious to a trained eye, labored breathing, If you watch between the rib cages, they will suck in when he takes air in, like if you sucked the air out of a balloon and it went flat, well, don't ever doubt yourself as a mom, it's okay. You were right, always listen to your own gut feelings, your his mom and thats what moms do. keep up the good work.
D. E.

I am a twin myself so I know the challenges you have ahead. Always use your mother's intuition to solve your anxieties. I don't think you can ever be an over-worried mom. Seek the second opinion whenever in doubt.

I don't think you're being an overly nervous mom. If I were you I'd be getting a different pediatrician. I'd probably give your current pedi an earful while I was at it too. Bring him back to Children's Mercy, and then get yourself a new pedi. Maybe they can recommend someone for you?

Good luck and I hope you're little guy feels better soon!

You did the right thing on taking in on your instints. My oldest with through with almost the same ordeal ped. telling us it was just a cold, my third doctor I took him to finale sent us to CM and after several allergy testing we where able to take control of what was taking him by control. He is now 8 and enjoys his sports with no further problems until he becomes ill. I pray that your little one will soon out grow asthma it is a very hard and scary thing to have to go through.
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A.

I would get another pediatrician. I honestly wouldn't trust a doctor who doesn't seem concerned about breathing issues. My son had early onset asthma and we were told he could have ended up a SIDS baby if I hadn't been so vigilent! As moms, we have to be our childrens' greatest advocates. And as my husband pointed out one time, for every graduating class of MDs, someone had to graduate at the bottom of the class! Sounds like your pediatrician might be one of them!

Def. Find another doctor, I was pushed around about ear infections for six months and I finally bucked up and told them I am the mother not THEM!. My daughter when she was 8 months old was in the hospital for 3 days due to bronchialitis. she did not have is as bad as your son, but it is never good. It is an extremely serious condition. Some children have gotten pneumonia or worse. I would say that you need to take him to child. mercy (I always go to south, I hate downtown) and find another doctor. I never cared if is was "nervous" you can't ever be too sure! Good Luck!

Being a mom of a premature baby, I would get a second opinon. They are more likely to get things than a child that wasn't born premature. It sounds like you may need a new ped. This one doesn't seem to have the time he needs to give you child the proper attention.

First, you need to contact children's mercy and see about bringing him back there, and explaining what your doctor has been saying. Then, you need to get a new pediatrician, someone who's not in the same group.

J. -

Absolutely time for new doctor. Take your kiddo back to Children's in the meantime for treatment, and even ask whom they would recommend that would be a good primary care physician and be able to specialize in respiratory/allergy/asthma. There are some who do it all. Or perhaps he would be a good candidate for other clinics they have. You are doing exactly what you should. Congrats, and keep fighting for your sons. They need you to do exactly what you are doing. :) Go mommy!
I wish I had a good doc to recommend but I'm not real thrilled with mine, been checking around to figure out who likes theirs. Take care, best wishes...

if your pediatrician is being dismissive (and it sounds like he is) you should definitly get a different one. i don't think you are being over dramatic about your son's illness's. no one knows your kids better than you. if you think something is wrong it probably is. trust your gut.

If you feel your Dr. is not showing enough concern by all means seek a second or third opinion, you do not have to stay with a Dr. who is not hearing you!!! Try on a Dr. until you find the right fit. Asthma is serious and should be approached as such. Better to be overly nuerotic than sorry!!

Just based on what you have told us, I would find a different pediatrician. Yes kids get sick, but when you have CM doctor telling you your child is sick and needs to be seen for 5 days....hint, hint. Good luck. Hope they get well.

I would look for another doctor. I would also get several other opinions of necessary. You can not be to careful with little guys. If you are doubting your doctor then I would go to someone you have faith in. Mothers know their babies and you can tell when something is not right. Follow your gut feeling!!! Usually we are right. You pay doctors and there office staff plenty of money to wait on you. USE IT!!! Call anytime you have a question or concern. Even if you just asked the question. They can get over it. There are no stupid quesitions when it comes to our kids.