L.M. asks from Virginia Beach, VA on October 15, 2009
2012 Prediction Has Me Worried
I wish I'd have never heard about this dumb prediction. I'm trying not to let it rattle me, but like many other little ones, mine will turn 11 years old on December 20,2012. It is killing me to think that he may not get to grow up. How do I get passed this? I have a ton of other things going on in my life, great things to be thankful for, and I'm trying to stay focused. But it's always there, nagging me. He talks to me about getting married and having children and I want to cry, I feel as if I've been handed a death sentence.
Please someone offer me some advice, and please be kind..
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Thank you all for your help, and advice. I'm not sure what to say to make myself sound like less of a paranoid woman on the verge of a breakdown. I'm fine, and the only therapy I need is a little midol. Yup, good old pms got the best of me yesterday. I'm not letting this whole prediction thing dominate my world. It bothered me alot yeserday, but I'm passed it. The inspirational messeges you all sent were very kind, and well appreciated.
Thank you all again
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T.B. answers from Norfolk on October 16, 2009
please google more on this. the mayans have commented on this and it's actually the end of an era and the start of something new. I don't want to misquote what I have read. but there is more. Movies are movies. don't take it to heart!
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M.R. answers from Washington DC on October 16, 2009
You should watch the episode that Penn and Teller did on the 2012 Apocalypse on their "BS" show. It is available in 3 parts on YouTube. I'll warn that the language is strong (it's Penn and Teller after all), but the message is clear.... "the 2010 Apocalypse Myth is BS"
~m
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T.C. answers from Washington DC on October 16, 2009
This is the usual silliness. Anybody remember the Harmonic Convergence of 1987? (Also known as the Moronic Convergence, if I recall). Anyway, there's a Washiington Post story today in the STyle section that tells you basically what's going on. And remember: there are enough scary things in the world that are real to waste time worrying about this.
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L.R. answers from Washington DC on October 15, 2009
L., I'd suggest you ask yourself some questions that are bigger than this so-called prediction. There are loads of "end of the world" predictions everywhere, every day. Hasn't happened yet. So ask yourself -- why should this particular one rattle you? Does it come from a belief system or religion or philosophy or culture that you adhere to otherwise? No? Then spend your time enjoying your child. Ask yourself seriously: Why is this a fixation for you to the point that it's affecting your interactions with your child (making you want to cry rather than rejoice when he talks about the future, being unable to get it out of your head, etc.)? Despite all the "great things" you say are in your life, is there something wrong that you haven't named and dealt with yet, that makes you latch onto this prediction and believe the prediction is the cause of your fear when there's something else going on? Has this 2012 thing just replaced other worries you have constantly had--as in, before this, did you have lots of unfounded fears that you'd get sick, your child would get hurt, etc.? Please, for your family's sake, consider talking to a professional about anxiety. And give your son and husband huge hugs today - another day that the world once again did not end.
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B.C. answers from Norfolk on October 15, 2009
Is this about the "Next apocalypse? Mayan year 2012 stirs doomsayers" story?
http://www.usatoday.com/news/world/2009-10-10-2012-apocal...
You know, this calendar was figured out a long time ago. It could be they just calculated it out just so far, and they figured by then someone would buy a new calendar. Seriously, any calendar in your house - how far into the future does it go?
On another note, someones world ends every day of the year. It's not always a bad thing. How can there be room for a future unless some of the past goes past? When cars came along, people thought it was such a great thing because the streets were SO much cleaner (no more manure). 70 years later we're all choking on air pollution, so it's not as clean as they first thought. Still, you don't see a comeback anytime soon for the horses.
You need some perspective, and a sense of humor helps. Some people pray and give all their worries to God and let Him sort it out. More power to them if it works for them. Me, I read sci fi/fantasy. I want complete escapes from reality for my entertainment. "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" (by Douglas Adams) and Disc World books (by Terry Pratchett) - there are some great life philosophies in these books and a wonderful sense of absurdity.
Yesterday is history,
tomorrow is a mystery,
today is a gift - that’s why it is called the present!
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S.M. answers from Washington DC on October 15, 2009
I have anxiety issues, and so I have at moments perseverated on what I recognize as silly and implausible things. I understand your feelings completely and I sympathize. Knowing something is nonesense and letting go of it are two different things.
I am not a therapist, but I can tell you what I have learned from therapy. The more credence you give this thought pattern, the harder it is to overcome. Don't research it, don't go online, don't ask people to indulge your worry. You need to make a decision if you want to spend time feeling sad and afraid or do you want to enjoy your son? Anyone of us could be hit by a bus tomorrow - you can't let the fear dominate your thoughts. Your fear will influence your family one way or the other. You don't want to let fear have power over you. Sometimes it helps to spend a few minutes everyday sitting wiht the "bad" thoughts - set a timer if you need to - cry, worry, whatever. It gets it out of your system. But don't give it anymore attention than that. Sit with the fear in a very deliberate way, rather than letting it creep in hear and there and ruin your day. After a few days, you truly feel it is a waste of your time.
If your son came to you with this story, what would you tell him? What would you want him to think or feel? Well, he wants you to be happy too!! Go enjoy your wonderful child.
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E.K. answers from Washington DC on October 16, 2009
God said throw your troubles on him, worry about today, tomorrow has it's own problems. I personally believe that God won't let me down and that there will be eternal life on an earthly paradise. So again, I say tomorrow has worries sufficitent for itself, live today and be happy when you wake up for one more fun filled joyous day!
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K.F. answers from Washington DC on October 16, 2009
L., I know you know it does no good worrying about the future - what will be will be - and worrying now only takes away from your present. Honestly, if the world ends, no one will know the difference because we won't be around to worry about it. Try to take advantage of the life you have NOW and don't ruin it by worry. Also - not sure if you believe in God or the Bible, but here are 3 thoughts that may be of some comfort:
1. God says we don't know the time or date of his return and that we cannot foresee the future...only He knows what is in store. Nostradamus is not God.
2. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline."
3. If you live for God today, there is no fear of the after life - it will be far better than this world, so really, it would be better for us if this world did end...Paul says in Philippians 1:21, "For to me, to live is Christ but to die is gain." Basically he is saying that Christ means everything to him in this life, but when he dies he'll have even more. We should all have a similar attitude. This life is hard enough without having to worry about things we don't know for sure. Focus on raising your son to be a good person so that if the world DOESN'T end in 2012, he will be a better addition to the extended world.
I know this may not help, especially if this is an irrational fear, but please take time to pray about it and maybe get some books on dealing with anxiety and worry, etc. Good luck - hope this helps though!
p.s. one more thought - Tons of people in the Bible even have said they are living in the end times...and look at how long we have lasted so far....time is not the same on earth as it is in heaven, so 'end times' does not mean 2 years away - it is probably centuries...and they worried for nothing....but like I said, no one knows when the world will end...
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D.C. answers from Richmond on October 16, 2009
I recently saw an article from a "Mayan Elder" who was like "If one more person asks me about this I'm going to..." He said, which this is all a result of the "Mayan Calendar" which is set to "end" in 2012, that it's not the "end of the world" just the end of their "cyclical" calendar. Granted the calendar has run like forever, he said it doesn't signal the "end of the world" just the end of that "cycle"....We decide through our thoughts and actions what our future holds.
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T.B. answers from Norfolk on October 16, 2009
please google more on this. the mayans have commented on this and it's actually the end of an era and the start of something new. I don't want to misquote what I have read. but there is more. Movies are movies. don't take it to heart!
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M.B. answers from Washington DC on October 15, 2009
Just like another mom asked you... why does THIS prediction bother you?
The event that stands out for me that I thought was COMPLETE nonsense was Y2K... remember THAT? EVERYone was (seemingly) very worried! NOTHING happened! And that one seemed more plausible than this crazy nonsense. There were WAY more believers in that than in the 2012 prediction, anyway. Knowing that may help you.
On a deep note, life is about living it to the fullest EVERY day. Anything can happen at any time. There doesn't need to be a prediction in place for the world to end. Will the world ever "end"? Does that matter more than making the time you have now special? Fixating on theories? I hope not. I'm Christian, and it definitely helps put my mind at ease on these issues. But, whether you are religious or not, focus on getting accomplished what you believe you are here on this earth to accomplish. Get happy. Enjoy this beautiful earth. Enjoy the fall colors, the fascinating stormy skies, the warmth of the sun, the joy of children, the kindness of others, The tastiness of food, the comfort of your bed and so on... The small things in life are the most profound because these things we see/hear/touch etc., every day. Live life and take what is handed to you.
About your son, prediction or not, raise him the way you think he should be raised. That is all you can do.
Also, BE CAREFUL: the way this prediction seems to be affecting you (can only tell by the way you "sound" in the request), seems like it IS a death sentence metaphorically speaking. It has gotten ahold of you and your thoughts! BANISH IT AWAY! There is NO GOOD in fretting about this, true or not! You were not intended to be in living in fear!
My thoughts and prayers go out to you, and I (along with other mothers I am SURE OF IT), look forward to hearing a positive outcome with your thoughts on this.
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