2 Year Old NOT Happy at Church Sunday School

Updated on February 13, 2007
A.T. asks from Laurel, MS
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Hey everyone - this is my first post. I have a 2 year old daughter and we have started going to church on a very regular basis in the last 3 months. So, she goes to Sunday School and then Extended Care. (2 hrs total) - she is NOT happy about going. To begin with, she was absolutely fine with it. Now, she's not happy even before we get there. She is usually okay once we get her there, but she's never happy about going and the last few times when we pick her up, she's in tears. A girlfriend of mine checked in on her this weekend and said that she was sobbing because they had changed her diaper. I've talked to the ladies and I personally know half of them - so, I don't believe that she's being "neglected" in any way. Now, I will say that I am a stay at home mother and we are involved in a bunch of activities together - but they are "together". This is the ONLY activity that she does without me. Can anyone give me some suggestions on how to approach her - to make this a happier experience for her. I just don't want her NOT wanting to go to church - we are very serious about raising her in a Christian home and i want her experience to be a happy and healthy one.

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So What Happened?

Hi Everyone! This Sunday was indeed a bit easier. We sang songs and talked about church throughout the week. We let her choose a special toy to take. We got to church - my husband took her in (she's less dramatic w/ him). She did cry, but a lady came up to us right as we turned the corner to say, she wasn't crying anymore. We were going to leave after SS, thinking maybe just starting for an hour would help a bit, but when we got there, she was happily putting together a puzzle - so, they told us to go ahead and go to worship service. When we picked her up, she was a little weepy, but nothing like the time before and the ladies said that she talked to them much more than she has in the past and when we got in the car she told me all about her SS lesson(we take home material) - when we asked her did she have fun, she said yes. Which had definitely not been the answer in some time! I do think helping bring something gave her some security. And I think letting her pick what it is each week for a while, will give her something exciting to do. And I am sure time will help too - i guess we just have to be patient and flexible at all times! (say what?) Thanks for your help! ;)

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R.

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Just a couple of thoughts - usually it's that separation anxiety. All 3 of my kids did that & my 2 yr old still does unless one of the ladies involves him in an activity he loves right away - play dough, car on the tracks, playing with balls, etc., but they were/are fine after a few minutes - just trying you or testing you. if you know she is well cared for & doesn't keep crying, she will be fine. I think she'd do that anywhere, not just Sunday School. Hang in there, it's typically a season & this too shall pass! :)

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J.J.

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mine was the same for awhile leaving her in a new place for a long time 10 mins seems to be too long without mama! ha
but i would suggest changing her diaper or pull up before you arrive at the church and ask the the staff to please come get you if she seems to have a poopy diaper - also since you know some of the ladies in there maybe you can set up a play day at your house or mc d's or there house so she gets use to either the teacher or other kids that might attend that also have stay at home moms. im in the moms club and would love to give you more information if yould like you can e-mail me back at ____@____.com hope this will help keep going let her know that its ok you will be back , maybe take a toy or blanket from home so she will feel secure ! good luck !

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R.C.

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You can try getting your husband to take her in the room instead of you. My husband took my now 6 year old to day care when I started working again. She was about 2 1/2 at the time. She would cry and cling to me when I took her, but always went right in when he took her.

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T.

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She is normal. Both my kids went through this phase when they first started Mom's Day Out. Just keep talking about all the good parts of it. Maybe she could take a special stuffed animal or something with her to help her feel more secure. Does she have any good friends that are in the class too? That might also help. Keep taking her though or you will regret it later. She has to learn to separate from you at some point so if you don't do it now you will just have to go through it later. Good luck.

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L.M.

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I'm not sure how to make it a happier experience for her, but what I can tell you is that I sort of went through the same thing recently with my daughter. She started a parent's day out and this would be the first time she was without me, so I dreaded the first day. Well, it was fine, she couldn't get rid of me fast enough. Then all of the sudden, two months later, she no longer wanted to go to "school". She would tell me over the weekends how she did not want to go back to school the following week. I had to leave her with her teacher screaming and crying...that about killed me. It only happened about 3 or four times and then she stopped being so upset and began to enjoy it again. Not sure what happened exactly though. I started talking to her about it and being very positive about the whole school thing and meeting new friends, etc. I just guessed it to be her shyness. Maybe she wasn't sure how to socialize and make new friends (she's VERY shy) and felt left out, I really don't know. I talked to her teachers and they seemed to think she was doing fine. And then again, perhaps being away from me finally caught up to her.

I'd just keep talking to her about Sunday School, stay positive and pray about it. She'll eventually work through it.

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M.B.

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Hi,
My daughter did the same thing too. But like the other lady said, I kept her going and within a few weeks she was back to loving it. Everytime i would drop her off in her class I would act all excited and happy, and eventually she went back to normal. Hope you find a great solution.

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S.G.

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I am a stay at home mother of three and my youngest is 2. We havebeen active in church since all of my children have been born, and I can tell you that they have ALL gone through what your daughter is going through. My youngest girl, 2, loves the kids in her class. One in particular. So, to make it easier on her I let her know in advance that she is going to see her that day and sing songs about Jesus. It will get better, there are days when she doesn't want to leave her class!! Remarkable~ Since she is a very BIG Mommie's girl. Just keep taking her. She'll soon love it. Sister in Christ-S.

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H.R.

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Hi A.. My children used to be the same way going to the church nursery. I think it was because they were not used to the people keeping the nursery. When they started having the same person keep nursery every Sunday, my children started enjoying going. They can't wait to go to church now. They absolutley love it. They may have different helpers come in sometimes, but there are 2 ladies that are in there every sunday.

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