July 14, 2008,
S.H. asks from Dallas, TX on July 03, 2008
2 Year Old Hits His Head on the Floor.
I have a two year old who gets frustrated (like many toddlers) but he hits his head on the floor, or wall, or table to get attention, usually after I have disciplined him. If I scold him for it, he continues and I'm afraid he is really hurting himself! Sometimes he ends up hitting his head harder than he intended to and it is very painful to watch. Is this a common problem? Should I take him to a doctor? Perhaps a helmet? Please help!
So What Happened?™
I appreciate all of the responses to my request. I actually did take Jack to the doctor and he said "no, he isn't autistic, he's just two." I've found the less I acknowledge the bad behavior, the less it happens, (as many of you had advised). I'm sure he will be moving on to bigger and better things. I am grateful that there are so many moms out there willing to take the time to share their experiences with me.
Thank you again,
S. & Jack
J.H. answers from Amarillo on July 11, 2008
If possible ignore him, or at least make him think you are when he does this, so he won't think this is an attention getter. Pay a lot of attention and praise him when he does someting good or plays nice etc.
C.R. answers from Dallas on July 03, 2008
Your problem is your reaction to what he is doing. I used to be a preschool teacher and I can remember a child in my class that used to do this (hurt himself) and try to distract the whole class when he got in trouble. It was easy for me to not give him any attention but not for my class. I had to remove him from class each time he would do it. After a while he learned that it didn't get him anything and he stopped. Kids are VERY quick at learning what works and what doesn't. Sounds like his plan of you backing off so he won't hurt himself is getting to you and might be working. As for it being painful to watch, don't watch and see if he finds something else to do. Self inflicted pain to manipulate others is not something you want him to grow up learning to do. Try your hardest to just ignore the behavior and stay focused on the offense and discipline. Hang in there mom, kids can be very creative!
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G.A. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
My son hit his head on the floor too just a faze and will stop evenually. Nothing you can do. He will learn. G. W
A.S. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
A young child banging his head could mean many different things. It could be a coping mechanism for him to deal with his anger. My oldest son would do it on his bed during nap or night time....drove me nuts! But it was his way to relax, and he is a wonderful kid who is in the Talented and Gifted program now.
But for some children, it can be a sign of a medical problem like autism or ADHD. So I would definately bring it to the doctor's attention to rule out any medical problems.
S.A. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
This is normal. They don't know how else to express their frustration,I found what worked for us was to try to ignore it but sometimes it was hard. Other times I would talk softly and try to help him with what he was having dificulty with. Don't worry it dosen't last forever.
A.B. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
I've not dealt with this w/mine, but read about it. I read all Love and Logic books like a crazy person once mine were 2 or so lol...and their advice is to sort of comment on it rather than getting frustrated yourself. For example, the next time this happens you'd say something like, "Wow, I bet that hurts", but without concern or any emotion. It's exactly like you said "to get attention" so I'd just not get worked up about it since that's what he wants. I'd imagine this is normal as nothing seems "weird" when you have a 2 year old...they are pretty much capable of all sorts of strange things, huh?!
N.W. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
J.L. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
This is a normal way for a toddler to get their frustrations out. My oldest son did it when he was young. My ped. said to make sure he was a safe place; like carpet instead of tile, and walk away and ignore it completely. He was done doing it within a week once he stopped getting a responce from me.
It's hard to go through, but it is normal and it is a phase that will pass.
L.R. answers from Dallas on July 04, 2008
My son went through a phase of hitting his head on the floor when he was mad or frustrated. My Pediatrician said that is one reason kids come with such thick skulls. He said it is normal and not to worry--as long as it isn't excessive or lasts abnormally long. My son grew out of that phase within a few months.