C.W. asks from Cleveland, TN on August 02, 2010
2 Qs...Bouncers And Teddy Bears.
SOOOO.... 2 questions...
1~ My DD is 3 months old. Is this too young to get her a bouncer? I want to get one of those activity bouncers...She can sit on her own (she needs help getting there... but once she's sitting she is good.) and has excellent head control... She also loves to "stand" for up to 5 minutes at a time. (she is standing on her own, just uses us for balance. lol) She has a floor gym that she likes... but she gets MAD if she is laying down too long. She wants to be sitting or standing. We put her in her bouncy chair, but she only likes that if she is sleepy... I think she would be fine with a bouncer, but hubby thinks she is too young...
2~ I also let her fall asleep with a teddy. (small one... think size 2 diaper...) I understand the risk of SIDS with stuffed animals in the crib, but she loves to wrap her arms around it and fall asleep. So, I let her have it, then I steal it from her after she falls asleep. :) My aunt found out about it and the way she carries on, Im trying to suffocate my child in her sleep, and I am going to be winning the worst mother of the year award any day now. Am I really so wrong for letting my baby fall asleep with her teddy? It makes her happy, she falls asleep easier with it, and I DO take it from her within 5 minutes of her falling asleep... most of the time it rolls away from her before I get to it anyway!
R.G. answers from Dallas on August 02, 2010
I can't believe your 3 month old is sitting and standing!?!? If she's really sitting up that well, even before they're sitting up well, they can go in a bouncer/exersaucer for short periods of time. They'll just lean up against the side if they need to. They just shouldn't be in there a long time. As for the stuffed animal...unless she just HAS to have it to go to sleep, I'd quit. Imagine how you'd feel if something horrible were to happen...even if the stuffed animal weren't to blame, you'd just never know. But that's just me and I'm a bit paranoid about that kind of thing.
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J.R. answers from Miami on August 02, 2010
I would check out the American Pediatric Association Website www.aap.org in terms of recommendations regarding bouncers etc. My sister in law is a physical therapist, and she was a bit skeptical about their benefits, and more concerned about their negative impact on growth and development. I am not an expert, but I would research thoroughly at what month it is OK to use and/or would ask my dr.
Same for the teddy issue...check out the APA website.
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P.M. answers from Portland on August 02, 2010
Here's a good summary of concerns I've heard about bouncers and your baby's development: http://www.ich.ucl.ac.uk/gosh_families/advice_and_support...
In summary, it's probably too early and could alter her normal physical development. But if you're really eager to try it out, very short, supervised periods probably won't hurt her.
As for the teddy bear, it sounds like you are also supervising that situation quite satisfactorily. SIDS deaths occur when babies are in their deep-sleep cycle. The first 20 minutes of sleep are usually light, and having a teddy during this time shouldn't pose a risk.
You might ask your aunt to find some documentation for you on the danger of SIDS during the period of light sleep that babies go through to reach deep sleep. If she finds and reads the available evidence for herself, it will probably reassure her better than just hearing you tell her it's okay.
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C.S. answers from Austin on August 03, 2010
My babe started actually enjoying her jumper around 4 months. She is 6 mo now and usually only lasts about 20 minutes at a time in it. She is like your babe in that vshe gets restless in her play gym. I think anything they are doing they just wanna either situp or crawl or walk so bad, they get so frustrated doing the same thing too long. So while I say she's probably ready I can't say you will get too much use out of it. We don't, but every baby is different;) As for the teddy bear, I say as long as you take it away once she's asleep its fine. When she was about 4 months and rolling over in her crib my babe would start crying at night if she rolled on her tummy and was having a hard time holding up her tired head....so just keep an eye out for the time being!
L.G. answers from Austin on August 03, 2010
Ask your pediatrician, then whenever you get unsolicited advice you can say, "Wow, that is interesting, but my pediatrician says...." That way it reassures them that you are not the worst mother of the year because you listen to an expert. I often would use my pediatrician as an excuse even when I didn't ask him something just to keep my well-meaning MIL from telling me to do things she did umpteen years ago. Just smile and remind yourself it is because they love your baby that they offer the advice. I often forgot that when I was a brand new mom.
C.P. answers from Houston on August 03, 2010
I don't think she is too young for a bouncer. She isn't going to push and bounce if it hurts. If your husband is VERY against a bouncer, then let her sit up in a walker.
Tell your aunt she can't come over and see the baby if she is going to question your parenting so severly. You are active and aware, question yourself, search for answers, ask advice, and it is up to you to make your informed decision. If your aunt is much older than you, her experience comes from a different generation, and it is quite likely that medical research has carried on without her. At the very least, it is controversial with educated and experienced experts on both sides of the fence. Your aunt needs to let you be the parent of your babies and respect your choices.
M.R. answers from Rochester on August 02, 2010
I have known 3 month olds who were fine in a saucer--you can fold a blanket to help her "fill out" the seat since she is younger.
Ignore the aunt. I sleep my children on their sides as infants because the back scares me and used *gasp* a blanket (halfway up, not to the chin) in an antique bassinet. I think my MIL loves me because I'm NOT insane and obsessed with safety trends--a child that cannot even turn over is not going to get stuck in the bars of a bassinet. :) Tell the aunt that when she has her next child she can keep the stuffed animals away. In the meantime, you are going to continue to raise your daughter. (I know snarky things are easier to think than say, but again, ignore her at least.)
C.C. answers from Beaumont on August 03, 2010
It's none of your aunt's business.