2 Nd Baby Shower

totally ok! i am usually against 2nd showers, unless the baby is SEVERAL years later, or there are MORE babies! let your friends shower you and God Bless your family!

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Hi J.,
It may seem like a baby shower is for the mom-to-be, but it is actually for the baby. And EVERY new baby deserves their own shower if someone cares to give it. And with now expecting triplets, just think how much more there is to appreciate.
R. B.

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J. -

Well, my opinion is biased, because I have two and a half year old triplets. Believe me, unless money is not an issue for you, you will need as much stuff given to you as you can get. And this is not selfish, especially if your friends are keen on helping. Take their help. Even if you don't want stuff, they can give you the gift of promising to help when the babies come. Or buying you diapers and formula. Having triplets is such a huge expense, especially in the first year. Fortunately, you will have some hand me downs from your first, but it will not be nearly enough.

My husband and I moved to Michigan from Californina, because we literally couldn't afford to live there.

Dana

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Triplets!? I think it's appropriate. I mean, if 1 or more of them are boys then you will have SOME stuff...but I know I wouldn't have enough for TRIPLETS! Besides, you're going to need two extra's of alot of things! Beds, bouncy seat or any other accessory you like to use. If you use a stroller, you'll need a different option for that as well!

In my opinion, totally appropriate. I too wouldn't necessarily think of a second shower when the first child is only 2. BUT, that is if the mom is expecting just ONE! Not THREE!

Good luck with your pregnancy. I hope everyone is healthy and happy!

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I was said due to your extenuating circumstances that it is appropriate. You will need all the help you can get with triplets.

I think it is completely appropriate with triplets on the way. My friend was in a similiar situation but with twins so we throw her a "bear" necessities party. It was to get her stocked up on the basics, diapers, wipes, onsies (and of course people got her other stuff). We had a ball and it was completely different from her first shower.

I think if your friends and family want to do it, then it's fine with me. I see no problem with it. If I got invited to a second baby shower for someone, I wouldn't feel glad to be invited. Especially if you are having 3, you are going to need lots of stuff. I say "go for it!"

Go for it!!! Let anyone who wants to help, do so. You may not need this now, but after those sweeties are born you will look back and appreciate it. Good Luck!!!!

Congratulations! Every situation is different, but i agree with the other moms. I like the idea of a bare essentials party. You'll definitely want to stock up. Your friends and family want to bless you and your growing family, so I say let them. Enjoy and don't worry. Good luck and God Bless!

i would say normally you don't have a shower for your 2nd, but you might be an exception becasue you are having triplets and you will probly need all the help you can get. if your friends are throwing it and it was thier idea go with it.

I'd say with triplets, you have a good excuse for that second shower. Allow your friends to bless you. It'll bless them too! And please take care of yourself!

I do not think that second baby showers so close together are appropriate however expecting triplets is a bit different =) Feel it out with friends and family who will be attending and make sure they're not offended. If most people seem to be okay with it I would go for it. You will definitely need the help!!

It is TOTALLY appropriate. You will need all the help you can get with triplets (My triplets will be 7 the end of June). Lets put it this way...when my triplets were in diapers, drinking formula and eating babyfood $100 a week was that alone on my grocrey bill. I know it is hard to accept help, but when you are pregnant with multiples you need to swallow your pride and accept the help that is offered (to remain sane). Here is a link with information about your local mothers of multiples group in your area. I have belonged to my group since I was 4 months pregnant with my triplets and they were such a big help to me.
http://www.momotc.org/local%20clubs/st%20clair.shtml

BTW, if your doctor hasn't already discussed it with you, they will want you to stop working around 20 weeks. I did data entry and was told I needed to stop working. Good luck and if you have any questions, feel free to email me. ____@____.com

Honey, take all the help you can get! Having triplets means that you don't have everything you need, and you have friends that want to help you out. Accept! A few years ago we looked up the ettiquette on second showers, and it said it was acceptable to have one if A) your first child was way older, like 10, where you were starting all over again. and B) if you were having multiples. I totally agree, and it isn't like you asked them to throw you one, they realise you need the help, and are willing...take advantage of it!

If I were you, I would welcome a baby shower! The gear that you will need (especially for 3!) can get overwhelming, and if you friends and family that would like to help you out...let them!
Good luck!

Many people have multiple showers, usually some from family, maybe some from work or church, of from a place you just moved away from... People are wanting to show their love and support and lets face it, we women love buying gifts and baby stuff!

It sounds like its a second shower from the same people and you feel uncomfortable accepting more gifts from them. I'd say go for it. They realize that with triplets you'll need more then the average mommy and are wanting to help you out. It isn't selfish or greedy on your part, you just have very generous friends. I think it would be hurtful to them for you to refuse. You're going to need the support of all these ladies once babies are here, so go with the flow! :)

Best wishes!

In your situation, a second shower is a nice added touch and kind of a necessity. I am sure friends and family would agree with this. I know someone who had quadruplets. They joined a nationwide group to acquire things that they needed multiples of. In fact, a stroller had travelled across country with different families to their home in Traverse City, MI. They also had a local shower because they needed multiples of things. They already had 2 sons, 2 and 4 at the time. ENJOY!!!

I'm not a fan of a second baby shower, but you are having triplets and your friends a offering. You are lucky to have such great friends! I would only invite very close friends and family.

I usually do not agree with a 2nd baby shower but since you are have triplets it is completly appropriate!!
A friend of mine had a 2 yearold and then trips and they had a shower!

Hi I had twins 3 1/2 years after I had my first child. I did have a second baby shower. It's like having your first all over again you need everything. None of my friends or family were upset by it. With triplets you will need so much more. Good luck.

thye give them names like rain storms or something. But I have heard of them. Me being in some ways I would say no to it but knowing your having triplets and probably will need more than what you have saved from the 2 year old ya I would be ok with it. Cuz if you have a boy and 2 girls your gonna need clothes for both and stuff. So I would except and enjoy all the gracious gifts.

I'm in the same boat, almost- I'm pregnant with twins, have a 2.5 year old and a 18 month old. I was a little unsure of whether to go ahead with a 2nd shower (didn't have for for the 2nd child) but, after all of my friends insisting, I have decided to go ahead. The way we have decided to handle it is to basically have a diaper party. We have registered for several boxes of each size as well as wipes and laundry soap. We figured if a lot of diapers were purchased for us that would allow us some money to buy the additional equipment we need. Good Luck!!
By the way- have you joined a multiple mom group yet? I just did and have already found it useful.

If friends are offering, by all means accept! In your circumstance, it is totally appropriate!

I think it is totally OK when the pregnancy involves multiples. If you are still feeling a little strange about it, only invite your closest family and friends who are the ones least likely to care about it being "tacky" and anxious to help you out in any way possible. Good luck!

If they want to throw you one...let them! Esp. with triplets.

Go for it :-)
Espically w/ three little ones on the way!!
We just threw a baby "sprinkle" for a friend as a second shower, only invited close friends and family, you can find little poems or sayings for the invites on-line. Super cute :-) No one will have an issue with it!!!

Have fun and congrats!!!

Hi J.,
This would be totally up to you and your friends/family but I think it is appropriate. I can tell you what we do in our family - if you have your children close together then for the 2nd, 3rd etc we only throw a small shower no registry etc and people tend to bring small gifts, outfits, diapers etc. However if someone is having their 2nd, 3rd etc well after their previous children 5/6 years we tend to agree that they need another shower because they may not have all the baby stuff anymore. I would think you would fall into that category - you are pregnant with triplets so you are not stocked with things you need for three babies.

God bless!

L.

did you go to the grand rapids twins club two weekends ago? if not, that's a real shame. you have to look them up on the web and get involved.
why would you even ask such a question?
why not?
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i have heard that a baby shower for each child is starting to become more popular. I really hope that if i had a boy next that i get a shower, as I have NOTHING for a boy. Since you are having triplets, i could see people wanting to give you things again as now you need 3 of everything, and that will get pricey for you.

If you aren't totally comfortable with getting a lot more things, maybe just ask her to do it as a lunch get together, no gifts are needed, but if someone wants to, ask them to bring you giftcards. every mom can use those to buy what they need, or buy diapers.

Not directly related to the shower thing but have you joined a moms of multiples group? They will be able to help with loads of questions and support for you! Our group has lots of triplet moms - we meet the third Thursday of the month at 7.30pm at Trinity Lutheran on M59 and Hayes in Utica - Northern Macomb Mothers of Multiples. Hopefully see you there soon, with or without your 22 month old! Good luck with the pregnancy!!

I would normally say a 2nd baby shower is inappropriate, but this is a completely different situation. You are pregnant with triplets and everyone will understand, especially those with children. I say you should let your friends throw one, you are going to need triple of everything.

J., hey if you got freinds and they want to give you a shower, why tell them not to, thats just kinda rude , they obviously feel its ok, so i would go for it, just be greatful and send out thank you notes afterwards, and just be greatful for good freinds, and a wonderful time, enjoy D. s

Hi J.,
I just wanted to say that I see absolutely nothing wrong with you having a second baby shower so close to your first. I'm sure you still have stuff from your first, but let's face it, what you have for one baby is not going to be sufficient for three babies and I think it's great that your friends care enough to see that and are willing to help you out. I say go for it and enjoy it!!!

K. :)

Since you are having triplets I think you definitely need a shower. You definitely won't have enough items from the first shower to come close to what you need and I think most people will understand that. Best of luck and have fun with your shower!!

When I had my daughter, some friends threw me a small shower. It was just close friends and family. I already had the "big" stuff from the first shower so really all I needed/wanted was girly type stuff.

Since you're having triplets I would definitely go ahead and have the shower, especially since people are offering to do it for you. You're going to need a ton of help with 3 infants so you might as well get used to people doing things for you now!

Hey J.......I'd welcome the idea!! Celebrate these new lives! :)

Typically you get a baby shower for your first child and that is it. However, I have seen it done if there is a large age gap in the children. For example, my daughters kindergarten teacher had a son that was five, they didn't plan on any other children so got rid of his stuff. Surprise, they find themselves pregnant. She did do the shower rounds a second time. I would also think that being pregnant with triplets would be a special circumstance. After all, you have the stuff for one, but you need to triple that before those babies were born. I would say that for you, it would be acceptable to have shower(s) again - after all, it can only help.

Triplets! Of course you get a shower. Let them love on you...Party on!

Hi J.,

I would say that you should have the 2nd baby shower, this is different. I understand the fact that you don't want to or feel like since you already had one. I felt the same way when I had my 2nd baby and that was almost 5 years after my first. But then 2 years after I had my second I had twins and my friends kept bugging me about having a baby shower because I needed a whole new set of everything. I never really caved in, but they gave me one anyway and it was a big help! And being that you work you could also do a party where everyone brings you a meal that you can freeze for after the babies are born, because you are going to be busy busy! I hope you have a lot of help, and someone that can take your older one, that was the biggest help to us was having our 2 year old when the babies were little, easier to take naps with the twins as well as get housework done. But think of all the stuff that you are going to need for 3, having friends a family help will be a BIG help, as well as people like to by for twins and triplets, it's fun to them:o)
Good Luck with those babies!