2 1/2 Yo Throwing Things

My Daughter use to throw too. what i did was get a box or clothes basket put it where she could see it but couldnt get to it. and when ever she threw a toy or miss used a toy she imediatly had to put the TOY in the time out box. where it stayed for the rest of the day. the next day we stated the day emptying all of the toys out of the time out box. her toy throwing days didnt last much longer. :)
FOOD, since she is an independent girl (like my daughter) tell her that if she cant be a big girl and handle feeding herself or using the big girl cup them mommy will have to feed her and give her a sippy cup. good luck!

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I would have to say it sounds to me like an age appropriate (haha) reaction. My son did the same types of things and I was told it was due mostly to frustration at that age to not being able to have the control they want and to be able to fully communicate what they are feeling yet. It sounds like you are doing your best to stem the reactions and teach her more appropriate ways to respond. Keep up the good work, and yes, it will pass...eventually:)

Yes, part of it is the age and the inability to handle frustration. But that doesn't mean that you should let even one throwing session go unaddressed. A hard and fast rule in our house has always been, "You throw it, you lose it." No exceptions. Try it and I'll bet within one week the throwing will decrease greatly if not stop altogether.

Good luck!!

My son started throwing things when he was about 3 years old and it lasted about a year. I found that he did it when he was trying to communicate something he was wanting and I either didn't hear him or couldn't understand him, so he would get frustrated and throw something. I started paying close attention to him when he was eating and when I could tell he was getting irritated I would tell him to ask me for help. That solved everything!

My daughter went through a small issue with this but we stopped it early. She had to pick it up. She was not happy and she had to stay their until she picked it up and put it down nicely and apologized. Be firm, consistent, and remain calm with her knowing you will not relent.

Good luck

Well K. they don't call it terrible two's for nothing.... Yes she is looking for independence however this should not come from being defiant.

Hold her cup when she wants a drink. don't give it to her. Take that power away until she appreciates it.
Keep her snack and food (meals) where she can see it but it's out of reach so she has to ask for it.
" Your lunch is here when your hungry..there will not be another lunch..AND stick to it.. if she throws it don't keep replacing it and bringing it back to her and or refilling her cup.
Slow down Mom...and don't worry. You will prob only have to put her meals up a few day's she'll get the picture. Keep your words minimul to her and be matter of fact.
If she has to miss a meal it wont hurt her.
She is very smart and she's working you for attention.
Tootles

This may be normal but not exceptable behavior. I would very sternly tell her know and make her help clean up the mess. Also, if she throws her food then she is done she doesn't get any more until next meal. You have to show her she doesn't get anything by acting out. There was a time I was unable to take my daughter out to restaurants because she wouldn't listen. This to will pass but for now stay strong and don't give in to her bad behavior.

It is a phase. My son is at the same place. They are testing their boundaries. It is really hard, but try and stand your ground. It really will pass. At least it did with my older 2! Good luck!

This is all totally normal. My daughter is 2 and tends to throw things as well.
They need help learning how to express their feelings verbally. Also they are learning that they are independent human beings and figuring out how to deal with this newfound independence.

With things like the milk incident... This may be a dumb question, but did you ask her if she wanted milk beforehand?
When she is throwing things that she doesn't want, is anyone asking her if she wants them, or just giving them to her?

If so, then I would say it is just part of this wonderful 2 y/o phase and yes it will pass, but you have to keep telling her it's not okay. If not, try asking her if she would like (whatever food or item) before giving it to her and you'll likely see an end to the throwing because she feels more in control of her world.