R.B. asks from Pikeville, KY on April 20, 2011
18 Year Old Daughter with Some Disibilities Out of Control
my 18 year old daughter has some disibilities,she knows right from wrong but she acts like a 3 year old,I buy her every thing she needs but she is what people would call a trouble maker,she lies and breaks every rule we give her,she doesn't ask for things she demands them,I am her step mom and I have raised her since she was 3,her mom died when she just turned 3 and she never knew her,her dad lives with us but he is no help I am 54 years old and I am at my hanging at the end of the rope.
J.B. answers from Louisville on April 21, 2011
If she has an IEP at school, they should have had a transition plan for her when she turned 18. Vocational Rehabilitation and services to help her become independent, maybe even a group home to live in. I would ask the folks at her school about that. Is the reason she demands things due to her disability? Can she distinguish between needs and wants? If she is 18, you may need to have papers drawn up for guardianship, or else she can get herself into all kinds of financial and legal problems, and you have no power to stop her since she is 18.
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K.H. answers from Huntington on April 21, 2011
R., Are you connected with local MR/DD services? I can't imagine that you are not, but perhaps you are not taking full advantage of what is out there. I'd imagine you are overwhelmed, but there are services that can help. You may need respite so you can get a break, your daughter may need some behavioral therapry to learn how to better cope, and there may come a time when you want to consider a group home setting so she can be more independent. You may want to check out:
Here's a contact for MR/DD services in Kentucky--
Owen Branam, Consumer Liaison
100 Fair Oaks Lane 4E-D Frankfort, KY 40621-0001
Toll Free: (800) 374-9146 Ext. 4458
Best of luck to you.
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K.U. answers from Detroit on April 20, 2011
Maybe the problem is that you keep buying her everything? How have you been disciplining her all these years? Any consequences for poor behavior? What have been your expectations of her? She's been effectively your child for the past 15 years and you say her dad is no help. She's 18 now - she's an adult and legally can live on her own, get a job, and support herself unless her unspecified "disabilities" prevent her from doing so.
Have you considered family counseling?
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E.M. answers from Louisville on April 21, 2011
whats the question? shes 18 time to kick her out. you say she has disabilities, what kind? she sounds like a normal teen to me...