L.D. asks from Keyser, WV on September 03, 2009
16 Year Old Daughter Issues - Keyser,WV
my 16 year old daughter does not practice good hygiene, has very few friends, and does not like to socialize. Prefers to sit in room and draw pictures of cats most of the time. She has become disinterested in school as well. Should I be concerned? She has always been quiet and shy but seems to be getting worse.
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K.L. answers from Washington DC on September 08, 2009
Sounds like depression. What you describe is more than ordinary teenage angst and moodiness. Get her some help!
S.W. answers from Norfolk on September 04, 2009
Short answer, yes, be concerned! Get her some help now, much easier now than later.
Good luck to you, the teen years can be really rough for everyone.
B.C. answers from Norfolk on September 04, 2009
It's hard to tell. Could be depression. Could be typical teenage brooding. Is she gifted and bored with school going to slowly too keep her interest? Hygiene and personal maintenance are not optional. She doesn't need to have a manicure/pedicure done every week, but clean and well maintained are the minimal basics. She likes drawing? Get her involved in drawing classes. Take her to art museums. It's a great way to meet people and if she's a budding talent she's got a great graphical artist career in her future. Not everyone likes heaps of socializing, but it's no good to be a recluse either. It's ok to march to the tune of a different drummer. A physical would not hurt to rule out medical issues. It can be difficult to find your niche.
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S.H. answers from Washington DC on September 04, 2009
Find a good counselor who specializes in teenagers. Even if the counselor says everything is just fine, it will have been worth the money just to reassure you :)
T.W. answers from Washington DC on September 04, 2009
Doing nothing is the worse thing possible. I know teens are a bit much but just being there and listening is a big deal. Start with going out to places she likes,maybe something to do art or other things that interest her. If you can't get her to open up get her help!! You never know. I think it is better to do anything than nothing.
A.F. answers from Washington DC on September 04, 2009
something is wrong. Call your doctor and get suggestions for help soon. AF
A.S. answers from Washington DC on September 04, 2009
Hello, I agree you should talk to her and get her some help. It do sounds like depression, My son went thru that also, his hygiene was not good and it lasted for a while, but sometimes it don't get better, it will get worst. Please take some time with just you and she and have a girl talk, listen but don't point fingers. Good Luck and please keep me posted.
M.C. answers from Washington DC on September 03, 2009
Hmmm. I would start with the hygene issue, and then worry about the socialization issue. Maybe there is a guy that she likes that's in to grunge...
B.B. answers from Salt Lake City on September 03, 2009
I know that poor hygiene, disinterest in life, and non-social behavior are very strong indicators of depression. Has she always been like this? If these are new personality changes, you should get help for her ASAP. The worse the depression gets, the more she will lose interest in keeping up her looks, her health, her body. My son suffered with this. I thought he was bored or just fighting with friends... Turns out he was severely depressed. He got help, both therapy and meds. He's a new kid. He just left for college, he likes his roommates, socializes, brings the guys out to wakesurf... He's engaged in life and loving it. Please get her some help.
A.K. answers from Richmond on September 04, 2009
You definitely should be concerned. Your daughter seems to have issues of low self-esteem and looks like she's given up on herself. You need to find her either a good therapist or an activity where she'll feel valuable. She seems to like cats, why don;t you start her doing some volunteering at SPCA/ Instead of drawing cats she can really start helping the cats that need her. Also low interest in school can lead to low chances with getting good education, which< I think> is very important for any child's future.