15 Year Old with Seperation Anxiety

Hi C.,

I really believe that you should sit down and talk to her. I think that was she is suffering from is fear of loosing you. Could be to your boyfriend (figuratively) or to tragedy (literally). I have been there! I was very clingy with my own mom who I lost in 2002. But I remember a specific time when my mother took me to see Bambi in the movie theatre. I was so distraught at the scene where Bambi's mother dies, that she had to carry me out in hysterics. Just sit down and talk to her maybe she just needs a little reassurance.

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I know how u feel, I am a single mom fo 4 and they are so protectiveof me. I think that they are afraid of loseing us,to someone else. I spend all my time with them and I don't date because of that. Write back.

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Hay Celest,
This is true, 15 year olds do tend to seporate from their parents. However whenever there is a change in your life or if they are going through a change in their own life in away, they may or may not be ready for,this may be the cause of her clingyness. I remember when my daughter began to cling on to me, it was because i had someone in mylife that she was uncomfortable with i had to have a sit down to findout from her what and why she felt that way.another thing C. what ever we are going through our daughters experience it too. I like to try to put them first because they'er our children are our future. One more thing that you haveto look for is if something happend to her and she may be afraid to to tell you but want you around to prevent it from happening again, i am not saying that something did but just always be aware.

About me i am a divorsed mother of three daughters, 16,10,and 6 a recent graduate of the College of New Rochell who recieved a BA in Psycology my profession is family services and i just recently moved to V.A.
C. I hope that I was able to help you.

Sincerely
J.

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Sounds a bit like the way I acted when my mom met her new husband. My mom and dad split when I was a baby and I lived with my mom and saw my dad but my mom met my stepdad when I was 17. I was upset that she spent her time with him instead of me. I acted out somewhat, nothing crazy but I stayed out late, made new friends from the bad crowd, never really got into trouble. Why don't you just talk to her? SHe is at a really tough age right now. She needs you to be there for her and to know that she is your priority and that you would drop everything for her. If she does not want to see her friends, maybe something happened with them? Have you asked her? Keep the lines of communication open. If you can't talk now and she does not come to you to talk you may never be able to get that back.