M.G. asks from Omaha, NE on February 07, 2008
15 Mos. Old Constantly Sick Since Starting Day Care
My 15 months old started daycare 3 months ago and has pretty much been sick ever since. Before he started daycare he was not sick once. Granted, he only had very minimal exposure to other children, so I pretty much expected him to get sick at daycare. Well, he got a cold right away - no big deal. However, after a month in day care he got diarrhea and we had to stay home for 3 days.
Then the new year started of with viral diarrhea, then another cold, which turned into an ear infection. He seemed to be getting better last week and made it a whole week in daycare without mommy having to miss work one day, but on Sunday he came down with a high fever. I took him to the pediatrician on Monday (or 3rd visit already this year!) and she said that his ear infection was not all the way better and must have gotten worse again from the cold. She prescribed a new antibiotic and I was able to go back to work and take him back to daycare yesterday (Wednesday). Today I get a call from the daycare - he's got a rash and they need a note from the doctor saying that it's not contagious. So, I'm going to the pediatrician with him again today and hoping that it's nothing too serious.
I am so tired and frustrated. My poor child has pretty much been sick for the 3 months he's been in daycare. It's a very good daycare, on-site at my place of employment and I am very happy with the caregivers etc, so I don't just want to pull him out...
I just needed to vent and hope that someone can tell me they've been through a similar issue with a child starting daycare. I really hope that there is an end in sight to all the illnesses... I am lucky to have a VERY understanding boss and I do get sick and vacation leave, but I have had to take it faster than I can accumulate it. Considering the loss in pay and doctors bills, I am beginning to worry. Most of all of course I worry about my son being sick all the time.
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Wow - I didn't expect so many responses. Thanks to all of you who understood where I was coming from with my post and gave me supportive and non-judgemental feedback and advice. You ladies are awesome!
My son's rash seems to be from the antibiotic he was on. It's getting better now and his cold seems to be imrpoving as well. On top of everything else, his top molars are coming through, so that wasn't helping the situation.
L.B. answers from Saginaw on February 08, 2008
I had the same situation, only add to the colds and ear infections a bout with pnemonia and pink eye. I pulled him out of day care and found a stay at home mom with a child of her own to take my son too. He's been healthy ever since. I know kids get sick once they start school, but I decided it was better to wait a while until he doesn't put everything in his mouth, he can wash his own hands and blow his own nose until I subject him to all the germs.
T.T. answers from Denver on February 08, 2008
It will end. And actually, all this getting sick is good in the end because it's building up his immune system. Once he starts school, he will probably hardly ever get sick. My son was sick all the time as a baby in daycare, but now that he's 4, he's never sick. Stuffy nose every now and again, but hardly ever. I worked in a daycare for 5 years and the first couple months I was sick all the time, too, but now I hardly ever get sick. By this spring he'll be better. Winter is hard for daycare because you take the kids outside as much and all those kids with all those germs couped up inside is just a breeding ground for sickness, no matter how well the staff cleans and disinfects things. It's frustrating, but in another month or two it will get better. But just think of all the immnunities he's getting! It really will benefit him in the end.
J.M. answers from Eau Claire on February 08, 2008
When I put my son in daycare for the first time at 4 mon old he was constantly sick also. He had six ear infections-till we put tubes in his ears at 9 months old, he had pnemonia, rsv-which we were hospitalized for and lots of colds. Its hard. I made the decision after that year of teaching I would stay home with the kids. It wasn't worth being gone from work all the time and risking his health. I know a lot of people that say it better for them to get the viruses small then they don't miss school but it so hard when they are little and can't tell you what is wrong. My son is in Kindergarten now and my other two kids get there share of illnesses. Hang in there. Hopefully once they go through the first couple months they will be through everything.
K.P. answers from Boise on February 08, 2008
In the words of Dr. Laura, with whom I agree, daycares are are really "Day Orphanages," and no amount of money could convince me to drop the babies that came out of my body at one of these places. Sadly, I only agree with a couple of the ladies who responded. I can't believe that so many mothers "love" the daycares that they send their kids to! Were I you in this situation, I would take a look at my baby's sweet little snotty face, and never return him to one of those places again. If I had to play all day with my kids, and work at night to pay the bills, that's what I would do. I hope you give this more serious thought than just how clean the daycare is. You were given a child to take care of and love. Do you really think the people at that place love your child? Your baby boy needs a mommy to play with him and teach him, not people who have several other babies to feed, clean and give attention to. I can't imagine missing the cute, funny, amazing things my kids do and say every day. I can guarantee that if you were home with your boy, he would be happier and healthier, and so would you.
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R.H. answers from Lincoln on February 08, 2008
Is your job worth this much to you? I realize I don't know your entire situation, but I would be struggling to put my child through all that for the sake of money. If you have a husband that is working, or there would be a way for you to work from home, I would get my little guy out of daycare asap! Have you ever written a list of the pros and cons of working outside you home? Just a thought - write down everything, emotional, financial, etc. and weigh it out to see if the money from the job is even enough to justify the sick days, dr. visits, etc. Sorry if this is blunt. I'm not trying to be mean, but if I woke up in your situation, I'd leave the job and get my baby home! I'm a stay-home mom w/ 2 boys, and I have a part time business I work from home. email me if you'd like to learn more about it! ____@____.com
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M.V. answers from Iowa City on February 08, 2008
Welcome to workig outside of the home. Children are germ spreaders. That's why kids get sick so easily. They are constantly sharing their toys and everything else. Plus in a daycare setting, children that are together every day will start to catch each other's germs, colds, flus, creaping crud, etc. It's all part of growing up. Unless your baby is losing weight at an alarming rate, refusing to eat AT ALL, and your pediatrician is getting worried, I would just chalk it up to working outside the home. There is really no more you can do, other than find a private caregiver that only has a couple of kids in their care, or ask a family member or friend to babysit for you. On the upside, the more germs your child is exposed to now, the stronger his immune system will be as a grown man. You stated before going to work, your son was hardly ever around other kids and was never sick. I would say that lack of contact with other small children has finally caught up with him. I would not worry. If you are concerned, talk to your doctor, and unless he/she says to get your child out of that daycare, I think he is just fine. Maybe you could see if the caregivers are washing their hands according to state codes and if they are sterilizing everything from supplies to toys everyday. I worked in a daycare before becoming a mother and we were required by state code to wash our hands after changing diapers, wiping noses, etc. We were also required to sterilize toys and supplies daily to help prevent the spread of germs. Some kids just have stronger immunities than others. Plus with your older child being age 10, there is not a whole lot of germ sharing going on at home between children. I'm sure your baby boy is just fine.
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S.S. answers from Eau Claire on February 08, 2008
Wow! What a range of responses on this one!!
I have been there, and I know you are probably as emotionally and physically exhausted as your sick little one! Both my kids were sick with different things:
My daughter, now almost 7, had constant ear infections and rashes. She also had RSV and several bouts of bronchiolitis. At age 2 1/2 or so, she was diagnosed with excema, age 3(ish) a severe allergy to mold, at 6 with TONS of allergies - some food, most environmetal (grass, and trees to name the biggest offenders). She was tested at 3 for all the same things and came back negative except for the mold. How frustrating to find out 3 years later that she really was allergic to all those things and had to suffer for no reason! We tried chiropractic care since she was about 18 months, for her, it didn't make the difference in ear infections. The tubes and getting older did.
My son, 2 1/2 has been sick with everything in the book since he had his first ear infection at 4 days old! He has had RSV at least 3 times, Rotovirus and Influenza at the same time when he was 8 months old... non-stop ear infections, and was diagnosed with asthma about a year ago. Getting the asthma under control made a big difference with him, but the biggest difference was made for him by chiropractic care. He had literally had non-stop ear infections for 10 months in a row (even with tubes). We started seeing the chiropractor last January. We went once a week until May when different circumstances made us miss 2-3 weeks. He didn't have a single ear infection that whole time, but as soon as we missed a few appt., he got a REALLY bad one (his whole face swelled up)... we have been going every other week for quite a while, and he has done awesome! His asthma has been easier to control, he's only had a couple ear infections (usually with a bad cold), he's also been sick in general way less! I think whoever said 2 was the magic number, was definately right for him... We did end up having to have his tonsils taken out, because they started swelling and he had sleep apnea...
My point is, that every child is going to respond differently to different treatments. Also, there may be underlying health issues that may not even show up on tests for a couple years (i.e. allergies). It sounds like the rash may be an allergic reaction to the antibiotic. My son had been on Cefzil several times, then all the sudden started developing rashes afterwards - we discovered he's allergic!
As for the child care debate going on, I am a preschool teacher, and it hurts me to hear people leading to the idea that child care providers don't care about the children in their care. Even though they wear me out, I see the 30 children in my classroom almost as my own!
I will also have you know, that in my experience, most infant rooms have at least one teacher that is almost OCD about cleaning. I wouldn't worry about that - honest!
Hang in there, it will get better!!! Try what you need to to help your child (and you) get through this tough time! This has been the worst winter for illnesses that I have seen, let's all hope and pray that it's over soon!!
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B.T. answers from Salt Lake City on February 08, 2008
I see that you have a lot of different responses. My mother-in-law owns a Daycare, and the kids just get sick around this time of year. Last year my son was 13 months old and he was sick more often then he is this year. It could be the age, but I also agree with the ones that say to check the daycare, and possibly switch. Don't let the SAHM's guilt you into trying to quit your job if you are not able to. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to SAHM.(Not saying that staying home is a bad thing at all. There is an obivious advantage to it) Just because you work doesn't mean you don't care about your child's well-being as much as they do. Anyway, it frustrates me when people get so opinionated on here, and don't know the whole situation. I hope your son feels better and I am sure by next month it will all be gone. Even kids that stay home can get sick from the grocery store or anywhere and it can turn into an ear infection.
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M.S. answers from Sioux Falls on February 08, 2008
I would have the daycare checked out, but to let you know I am the mother of 4, 15 dd,12 dd, 3 ds and dd and one on the way and with my older two they only got sick once in a while, it was rare that they got sick and they both have perfect attenance from school since they started at ages of 3. This is what I have learned from everything. Our homes are TOOO CLEAN, the the babies come home from the hospital. Like the rest of their bodies, their immune system is inmature as well and we have kept the home so clean that their system can't get a work out to get stronger. I am not saying live in a fithly home. But some people clean every day using atibatctial cleaners on everything. They even use it on their body soaps as well. How can our kids develope a strong immune system if we keep everything too clean. I still do wipe my kitchen counters off once a week with bleach, but during the rest of the week just normal soap and water. I do however clean my cutting boards with a strong cleaner since we have no idea what is in the food we prep. I vacume my floors 2 times a week, the floors get swept everyday in the kitchen and bathroom, and the bathroom, gets bleached twice a week. If you ever worry about kids picking stuff off the floor when they drop it and put it in their mouth, there was a study done at either Texas A&M or University of Texas that basicly said that the 10 second rule is safe. That for a lot of food items, it takes about 20 seconds for germs to attach. So what I am saying is that the day care may not be as clean as we hope, but the kids immune system is not as strong as it could be and needs a little work out and in the end your child will get over it, will take some time.
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K.S. answers from Salt Lake City on February 08, 2008
I spoke to the pharmacist today while picking up an Rx for my husband's pnemonia, and she said RSV is rampant this year. Your son might have gotten it from his daycare. Also, I am just curious. Do you have to show immunization records in order to get into your employer-sponsored daycare? That might also have something to do with why your son is sick all the time. Make sure other kids in the daycare are immunized, and that your son is up-to-date on his shots as well. Hang in there!
S.W. answers from Grand Rapids on February 12, 2008
Check if daycare has a plant, pet that they could be allergic too. If they use sitters bibs check the soap. What about the milk? Sometimes something at that house could cause it. My son 2 has an asthma attack everytime we go visit my mom turned out it was a plant she had... good luck. If all esle fails switch daycared.