My mother was divorced and it was just 3 of us ladies..
My mom made us some deals and promises.
"If we treated her with respect, she would do the same with us."
"If we appreciated what we did for each other, it was going to make us closer and make our home a lot nicer. . "
If we "promised to always tell he the truth, she would not be mad, she may be disappointed or her feelings hurt, but she would never be mad.". She has kept this promise to this day.
She also would not tolerate sass talk.
She would say, "you seem upset, I think you should go to your room and calm down."
"I am sorry you seem so frustrated, do you want to tell me what is going on, or would you like to think about it so we can talk later?"
Just let your daughter know you are "doing your best. You are proud of her, but it really is not appreciated when she criticizes" you. That you "notice she is not perfect, but you try your best to not make hurtful comments."
Also "IF she is really concerned about your driving, maybe she needs to consider the alternative.. She will not get to travel to these out of town games."