13 Mth Old Wont Sleep in Own Bed! HELP!

We just decided to co-sleep for a bit longer....... We co-slept until our kids were a little over 18 months and 3 1/2. Then we moved them to a mattress on our floor, and after a few months of that, finally to a room of their own. We all slept better co-sleeping so if that is what works for your family, don't feel like you HAVE to change. In our situation, because we could move 2 of them together, they adjusted much easier. They were not alone.

If you DO want to get her out of your bed, I'm not sure that it will be an easy OR fast adjustment. It sounds like she is quite determined and I personally couldn't last 4 hours with our kids crying. We chose to NOT do cry it out at all........ Of course, our kids have cried from time to time, but we've never done the whole method to get them to be on their own.

Clear your mind. She's not sick any more. She will be happier feeling secure on her own.
Make sure she eats to absolutely full capacity every day (sometimes kids are hungry and you don't know it and they sleep lightly). Afetr 3 days of feeding her extra-it takes time to click with her body that she's more full-begin new routine. Make sure she gets lots of exercise and some sun every day. Make sure her bed routine is solid, so she gets used to the progression of events. Put her in her own bed, in her own room,and walk away.
I don't know the layout of your house or how loudly you can hear her, but she has herself trained to cry a REALLY long time because she's knows you'll eventually come. Don't come. She will not do this more than a week if you never give in (probably 3 nights). Don't focus on the crying, focus on the good you are doing her when she's over this. You helped her form the habit, but it can be broken. It will be harder later. Good luck!

I personally hate the CIO method and know it doesn't work for every child and their personalities. I also believe that a baby crying for longer than an hour is to much. If she is throwing up then that is way to long.
What is your bedtime routine? Is it a constant thing every night? I really like the no cry sleep solution. It does take a while to work, but it's worth it. And ditto to Miranda. My son sleeps better when at 2 am with me, so after his 2 am bottle we cosleep. If we both get sleep then do it.

Have you tried her own bed? Maybe her own bed in your room to start. Try a matress on the floor, you may even have to get down there and sleep next to her if you feel its necessary. Even though I hated it I co-slept with my baby till she was 12 months, then she went into her own bed, and she loved it. I honestly think my daughter wanted her own space and was tired of being in our bed (my boyfriend/her dad is a horrible sleeper and tosses and turns, which causes her to wake up and toss and turn).
I tried the CIO menthod when she was younger and it personally didnt work for us (for a specific reason) so we kept co-sleeping. As soon as she could walk she was in her own bed. Good Luck, hang in there!

my daughter would also puke if she cried for to long so i decided that i would rather have her sleep with us than clean up puke at 2am. she is 2 1/2 now and last night slept in her own bed but many nights she wakes up and comes in our room its not the best but i think its better than the screaming and end result you are still the one washing the sheets and giving abath at 2am. not fun for anyone so if you get more sleep with her in the bed then do it.

My husband and I felt it was important for our son to feel comfortable and happy in his own bed and his own bedroom. At the same time, we understood how much us being there with him helped him do that. So, we stay in his room until he falls asleep (or is comfortably drifting off). And we go to him whenever he cries at night. He's almost two, now. If he wakes up at 1 am and needs a quick change and drink, it's rare for him to not fall back to sleep on his own. On the rare times he does not, one or both us stay in his roo). BOTTOM LINE: It's different for every family; go with your gut; try a few different approachs; and do what works for you. Good luck, Mama!

You could continue to co-sleep if that is something you feel comfortable with. However, if you really want her to sleep on her own, I think the only way to do it now is the CIO method. I know you said you've already tried it and she cried for an insanely long time. I'm so sorry that she is such a poor sleeper. I know how draining that can be. When we were breaking my daughter of her night time feedings, she would cry for up to 3 hours at a time. This went on for about 2 months before she stopped waking up at night. We would put her in her crib (in her own room) and close the door. When she would wake up, we would go in there to console her (never picking her up) and then wait for about 45 minutes before returning. I actually think it would have gone faster if we had just not gone in there at all but that's very hard to do when your baby is crying so hard. Because your baby throws up and gets so upset, I would try going in there about every 30 minutes or so. It will take many nights, but hopefully she will start to understand that bed time means bed time in her own room. But remember, if you give in, even for one night, that starts all the work over again. I had to remind myself each night what I was in for and resolve that I wouldn't back down no matter what. Good luck and I hope this helps! And if this just doesn't sound like something you feel you want to do, co-sleep for a while longer! =)

I understand your goal is to get some sleep, not to torture yourself and the kid, right?
Here is the stories to compare:

Mom#1: At bed time puts her baby in a crib, attemps to free herself from child grabbing her arms and sobbing, walkes out of the room, closes the door. Baby escalates her sobbing, mom hears everything but refuses to budge. That goes on for 45 min.
Mom is a nervous wreak from listening to all that crying, hears the sounds of vomiting from the room, enters the room, cleans and changes the baby, remouves and changes the bedding. That takes 20 min.
Baby calmes down somewhat, because mom is here and the baby thinks she is here to stay. Mom leaves the room again, baby picks up the crying fit. Crying for 60 min, falls asleep from exaustion.
Mom falls asleep 15 min later because she is exausted too but feels really bad about all that crying and not exactly sure that baby calmed down for good.
2.5 hours later, baby wakes up and realises it's all alone, starts crying again, louder this time because it had some rest...Mom cannot sleep, listens to crying but refuses to give in and go to see the baby. Crying goes on and on for 50 min. Mom realises that baby may be hungry (because it vomited earlier) goes in, feeds the bay, baby falls asleep in mom's arms. Feeding took 20 min. The moment mom wants to lay the child down, it starts to cry... Mom#1 exausted by all this desides "you will sleep alone, I need some rest too!" Leaved the baby alone, until she hers the vomiting sound 30 min later....Cleaning and changing routine all over again....takes 20 min....then crying again for 1 hour before falling asleep, exausted mom falls asleep 10 min after the baby.....In 3 hours... mom hears the loud wail, looks at her bedside clock - it is morning. She is beyound exausted! Total time spent in "childcare" all night- 5 hours!

Mom#2: Lays in bed next to baby, talking or singing, baby nestles against the mom and asleep in 20 min. Mom gently puts the baby into her own bed, baby wakes up and starts to protest. Mom hugs the baby and rocks her a little bit more, to show the baby it is safe, she is there. Baby drifts off to sleep, mom waits a bit and put the baby in her bed again. This time the baby is deeply asleep and stays in bed. That takes 10 min, mom gets in her bed and asleep immediately because she know that her baby is safe asleep and she is not worked up with any negative emotions. Baby wakes up in a middle of the night, mom tries to comfort her by petting her back (the crib is next to bed, so mom does not have to get up), baby is fussy, mom picks her up immediately, not letting her get too awake and scared. Baby calmes down fast in mother's arms, goes back to sleep. The whole insident takes about 10 min, mom goes back to sleep in 5 min, bacause she never was fully awake to begin with. Baby sleeps till morning and wakes up at the same time with the baby and Mom #1. Mom #2 spent 45 min doing "childcare".

Deside for yourself. Patience and love can do wonders. And remember you can only change yourself, you cannot change another person, no matter how hard you try or how small that person may be.....

Good luck.

i sleep with my daughters crib against our bed with the side rail taken off. she rolls in and out of bed throughout the night. if i want the space i just wait until she is sleeeping and then put her in there. i love how people always say kids are better off on their own yet they complain when their significant others are out of town and they have to sleep alone. no one wants to sleep alone. all the research shows that secure kids are happiest. some kids are completely fine sleeping alone. but many arent and there is nothing wrong with that. each kid is different some need to be parented at night as well. if you want to stick with the bed idea make it clear to her she can sleep in the need you made or the crib in her room. she will get it and her crying next to you isnt the same as her CIO . Good luck and i hope you have no more health issues with your little one!