12 Yo Daughters Best Friend Says Shes Pregnant

If this is your daughter's best friend, definately contact her parents. Try to get to the root. I wouldn't let it lie. A 12 yo girl being preg is no joke. Good luck & God bless!

Are you friends with her parents? Might make it easier to approach the mother if you are. If you do not know the parents, Id call the school counselor and talk to her about it. Chances are, if she is pregnant, the school nurse and counselor know about it already- or at least should. If she is just crying out for attention, they should still know.

Call her parents I would!

I agree with others that you should definitely have a good talk with your daughter. But, to answer your question, absolutely YES, I would contact her parents! As parents I feel it is always best to put other parents in the loop. (If it had been your daughter I am sure you would want her friend's parents to contact you.) But regardless, as a parent it is only right to contact the parents!

At this age, girls especially can be very cruel to each other. I would not involve yourself with the other girls parents as this could cause problems for your daughter. She might be labeled a snitch or a trouble maker by her peers. I would do my best to keep her name out of anything you do. I would however, definitely talk to the guidance counselor. Call her anonymously and let her know that you have heard some very unsettling information about another student and would like to report it. And then let her handle it from there.

Hope this helps.

Hi Greengirl!
WOW!! Can you imagine being pregnant at 12?? I say let it lie for now. But being so young she may not show for a while. But it could be a good life lesson for your daughter. If this girl is truely pregnant, your daughter will see all the struggles that go along with being pregnant so young. Maybe it's a good time to have that mother-daughter talk about what not to do (without lecturing). Remind her of all the things this girl will have to give up & miss out on (let alone the whole physical thing).
Good luck!

Well you should move easy on it because maybe she is telling the truth and her parents do know,if they haven't said anything they maybe trying to keep it under wraps for whatever reason.it's never easy to deal with being a young parent for the child or her parents(i was a young parent)so please be careful.

There is a ton of good advice here, so I can only add so much.

If you know the girl's parents, even just a little, contact them. Face-to-face might be better than over the phone. If you don't know the parents, call the school counselor.

Secondly, if this girl is pregnant, someone broke the law. All states have "Age of Consent" laws, and I'm pretty sure that 12 is well below the state's age of consent.

If this girl is not pregnant, this is a very loud scream for attention. She needs professional help either way.

I believ without a doubt you should contact the girls parents - just thnk of it in this way - How would you feel if a parent knew something about your daughter that you did not - that is as significant as this? Best of luck - I hope thi sgirl is not pregnant - that is absolutely frightening!

could you have the girl over one day or night for a sleep over? maybe ask her if she can feel the baby move or if shes had any mornng sicknes. dont drill her but make light conversation over it as if you were talking to your friend over lunch about her newly found pregnancy. if your daughter was sworn to secrecy then have you daughter ask these questions herself. see how she acts at your house that night and if you then see that something is amiss including the fact that she is indead pregnant, call the folks. i would just state your concern that you want to keep lies from spreading and wanted to confirm the pregnancy with them. then if they say it's true, offer your help (dont say your sorry) and say you will do whateveer they ask or seem best for their daughter that you can.

You seem to have the right idea about calling the other girl's parents. Not only for confirmation, but as you said, there could be a serious issue; even more than just a cry for attention.
I'd praise your daughter for keeping you in the loop; and being willing to speak on such a private subject.
L.

let the parents know. wouldn't you want a phone call? i know i would.

Hi G.,

Do what you think is best.

How is this situation affecting your relationship with your 12 year old daughter?

It is not about the pregnant girl but your ability to listen to your daughter's feelings about what she heard from her friend. Ask her how she feels about learning that her friend is pregnant.

That is the real issue.

Hope this helps you to refocus your attention. Good luck. D.

You are correct to be a litte skeptical. However, do you have a good relationship with the parents? If you do, I would try to speak with the parents(mother) to see if they actually know about the situation. Depending on the answers you recieve from the parents, should determine how you would like to proceed with your daughter. At 12 years old, to me , she is still a child and needs guidance. I pray that she is lying.

How well do you know the parents? Unless they are complete strangers, I would give them a call. If you are hesitant, or do not know them at all, I would suggest a call to the school guidance counselor, and let them handle it. N. B.

Hello G.,

I think it would be a good rule of thumb to speak with her parents. If she is lying then her parent will be aware of her cry for help. If she is pregnant, then her parents will be aware of her cry for help. Either way you should sit down and talk to your daughter candidly about her friend and how she feels about the situation.

Good Luck!