S.R. asks from Easton, MD on April 17, 2007
11 Month Old Not Doing Well in Child Care.
My 11 month old just started going to a new day care provider. This is our 3rd provider since August. The other two felt he was too needy. I don't know what to do. He apparently cries and wants to be held a good portion of the day. At home, he plays on his own most of time and wants to be held when he is getting tired. He is crawling so I can't understand why he isn't exploring and playing at child care like he does at home. I called today to see how it was going and the provider said he is very demanding. This doesn't sound good. Any suggestions? We can't afford to stay at home with him although that is what I would prefer. I've considered hiring a nanny but again this is too expensive. Help!
C.J. answers from Harrisburg on April 17, 2007
I do agree with Alan. I am also an In Home Care provider, and I have a set schedule with the children. The parents and I are on the same page when it comes to eating, nap time (which is the same time for all the children), play time, movie time, outside time, ect... It has to work for both. I am no pro,and we all have challenges that we all must face and deal with, but she(Daycare provider) is working for you! It does take time for any child to adjust esp an 11 month old. How long have you stuck it out at each place? I advise that the parents drop in whenever they want, and some have even dropped in to take there kids to lunch with them or to have lunch at my house. I think it is great. We play school, where they actually learn. We paint, color, make crafts,ect....Structure is very important!!!!I am not licenses, but I also do not take anymore children then I am allowed, and I also do not overload myself or the other children. I am very careful about my day. I plan everything....but dont think things dont change,.....cause they do.I wish you lived closer to me, I would love the oppotunity to care for your child. I live in PA.
If you dont mind me asking....is she licensed? How many children does she have at one time? How much is she charging you?How many hours a day is she careing for your child?Nannies are not necessarily that much more expensive...check them out.
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K.L. answers from Washington DC on April 17, 2007
I agree with Alan, it does take a couple week for a child to adjust. Some children go through a stranger/separation anxiety a couple times within the first 18 mos of life. I watched my niece a couple days a week, plus saw her at least once on the weekend throughout her first year, but around her first birthday she would cry when my sister-in-law would leave and she would be clingy with me for an hour or so after that.
How L. have you been leaving him in each of the daycares? Are these licensed providers that are following regulations? Those regulations are made so a provider isn't stretched too far to properly care for each child.
I strongly recommend dropping in unannounced to see what the situation is at the daycare. Providers are completely able to put on an "act" at drop off and pick up times but you can't really tell how they are unless you pay a surprise visit.
I wish you luck!
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S.B. answers from Richmond on September 14, 2007
I do not know where you live,I am in Powhatan Va. and would love a child to care for. I have one grandson with me daily that is 19 months old. Children are needy and that is fine at his age. I love them! If you live nearby give me a call.
or email me
C.B. answers from Washington DC on April 17, 2007
I had a similer problem with a day care provider in Crofton. Her name is Donna. She would restrain the kids & leave the babies in a room by themselves. It turns out that my kids did nto have what they needed inthe way of "instruction". They did not know their colors or other basic info they should have gotten from their licensed day care experience. there is SO much more that she did with those kids. If you are with Donna FIRE HER IMMEDIATELY!!!
J.B. answers from Washington DC on April 26, 2008
Hello! My name is J.. I was wondering where your located at?
J.P. answers from Washington DC on May 27, 2007
You might want to try and look for a Nanny Share arrangement in your home. It's more affordable than paying for a Nanny yourself and perhaps your child would do much better staying at home and being in familiar surroundings.
K.W. answers from Richmond on January 11, 2008
Hello my name is K.! I live in sandston. I am a sahm of 3 boys... 5, 3, and 4 months. I love children and cant stand for them to be mistreated. If im not too late please call me ###-###-#### or ###-###-####!! Thanks a bunch, or if you know anyone looking tell them about me!! I have very affordable rates, and will provide breakfast, lunch, and snacks, available monday through saturday!