10Yr Old Girl

My daughter will be ten in May and I am going through similar things. At the beginning of the school year she was lying and getting in trouble weekly at school. Prior to this year she has been an angel!!! She alternates between acting like a brat and being "doomsday". I swear if you ask her sometimes she would swear that she has the worst life ever!!!! At other times she is so difficult to be around that I feel guilty because I dont want to deal with it at all. All of my friends tell me its a phase that they all go through, but it is sooo difficult. She is doing better but the attitude and drama are still there. Good luck!! Everyone swears this passes.....

welcome to the "tween" years. the between being a kid and being a full fledged teeanager. she will sometimes act the sweet good natured kid you've always known and other times be a total disrespectful, mean little brat. Get used to it. at that age, she is trying to act like an independant teenager, but still doesn't have the maturity level to handle it. plus she heading into the puberty years and her hormones are going to going nuts for a while. just be there for her when she needs you and make sure to enforce the house rules like always no matter how mad she gets.

So sorry to hear that you are having such a diffucult time.

She may be getting ready to have her first period. I had mine at 11 and I know a few girls who had theirs as early as 8 and 9. Her mood swings may simply be hormones combined with the fact that she's in the tween stage.

I would sit and "try" to have a talk with her. If she won't sit with you maybe dad can give it a try. There could be a deeper issue here. Maybe problems with friends? Girls can get pretty nasty at this age what with all those "hormones" running rampid. I used to get picked on too...bad teeth. I had a major additude when it came to my family. Now I feel guilty because I never had the chance to grow up and tell my mom how sorry I am for being a brat. She died when I was 17.

But that's beside the point. I would let her know how you are feeling. She's at an age where she wants to be looked at like an equal not a kid. So approach the situation in a nice way. Don't make her feel like you are attacking her...it's easy to feel ambushed. Deffinately wait until she's in a good mood. The last thing you need is for her to get even more upset.

Good luck! I hope things work out.

Hello M.. My oldest daughter is only 8, but my son just turned 12 yesterday and he goes through this big time. I punish him very effectively. Time outs work great for him, 12 min of sitting on the couch, no tv, no talking, no moving, no closing of the eyes, and no laying down. When I first tried I it thought I was just wasting my time, but I didn't want to fight with him (he was being mean to his little sisters). The other punishment I use is loss of electronics; no video games, no tv, no computer, no MP3 player; absolutly nothing for the rest of the day. His electronics is what he lives for and taking them away for the rest of the day (even if it is only three hours) is a killer for him. I am sure your daughter has something that she would just 'die' if she didn't have for a day, I would find out what that was and start taking that away for the day when she misbehaives (no how sevire the infraction is dictates how long the item is taken away). What ever it is you decide to do, I would definatly NOT ignore the bahavior, it will be worse when she is actually a teen. My SIL is her teens best friend and they share everthing about her school and friend issues (doesn't eliminate the mood swings or the rolling of the eyes) but it has helped my SIL understand more of what is going on in her daughter's social life and circles and expalins alot of the mood swings. Seems like now might be a good time for you and your daughter to start to form that bond with your daughter knowing upfront that you can be her best friend, but you will always be her mother and the one who is in charge. Best of luck!