V.M. asks from Lakeside, CA on February 15, 2008
10 Year Old Son Pees on the Floor During Bowel Movements.
Since he was about 8, my son has been peeing on the floor whenever he has a BM. He completely disrobes whether at home or not because he's afraid of getting pee on his clothes and shoes. I've gone in with him and so has my husband to try to tell him how he should "tuck it down". That didn't work. He either says "it's" not big enough or he says pee will get on his testicles and fingers. I've told him to use tissue. Sometimes he pees first, then sits down but nothing ever lasts. I've tried talking to him, taking him to the Dr, punishing him, making him mop it up 5 times and then rinsing 5 times. Nothing seems mto work. I've never heard of this type of problem. We're at our wits end. He doesn't have any "special needs" or medical conditions. From the ages of 3 to 8 there was no problem. There are some times when he doesn't do it but those times are far and few between.
So What Happened?™
OK, so I know it's been awhile. The peeing on the floor has STOPPED!!! I had him number all of his video games very thoughtfully in the order in which he likes them. Then surprised him by telling him that each week he went without peeing on the floor, I would give him back a game, BUT IN THE REVERSE ORDER! BUT, if he peed on the floor, I would take them all back and start again from the beginning! He really fussed and moaned about this really ALOT, but that was the deal. I may have had to start over once at the beginning, but can't be sure. He earned them all back and it hasn't been a problem ever since. He still does disrobe completely. And he still does take forever. We're working on those things. Praise God, no more pee on the floor!
More Answers
J.K. answers from San Diego on February 16, 2008
I wouldn't go to the effort to accommodate him on this one at all. He is 10 years old and definitely old enough to figure it out. I say be firm and be a mom. Take away his favorite priveledge, figure out what really means something to him. Does he play a sport or like video games. Find something big and stick to it. And definitely make him clean it up, every time! Suggest he lean forward when he goes too, that should rotate his body so that it points down if he's not willing to touch it. Any chance dad or big brother would actually sit and show him?
Having two boys myself, I know how lazy they can be. At 4 my one twin was potty trained and the other not, at least not to a point where I could trust him and it was simply because he was lazy and didn't care. So I had to figure out what he did care about. Turned out, it was his toys. And I offered him a choice, toys or diapers. He picked toys and didn't have another accident!
-J. (mom of 8 yr old twin boys and 6 yr old daughter)
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M.R. answers from Los Angeles on February 16, 2008
I used a potty top made just for little boys and I had my son sit to go potty until he could better control the whole thing. It really helped. MR
G.H. answers from Los Angeles on February 15, 2008
This is somewhat of a new one to me as well. My middle son also disrobed prior to his BM's and it lasted a couple of years, maybe 6-9 or 7-10 y.o. My only suggestion is to see if you can place some type of "splash guard" on your toilet seat (like the ones on potty training toilet seats). I don't know if it would be too small for him, but they have those seats that you put on top of your regular seat so that a toddler doesn't feel like he's falling in. Good Luck!
A.V. answers from Grand Junction on February 15, 2008
I agree with getting a splash guard of some sort. You might also look at the seats made for old folks to see if they have an adapter of some sort. I don't even know if they make such a thing otherwise maybe see a counselor I know you said he doesn't have special needs but maybe it is something psychological when he has a bm that he pees. Good Luck
A.N. answers from San Diego on February 18, 2008
If this has happened every day for the last 2 years and he is distressed about it and get punished and it still doesn't stop I really feel like your doctor may have missed something.
Actually i was joking about this very topic the other day with adult friends! How on Earth do men PREVENT themselves letting it all go at once? Think about it.
As a woman. We sit down and whatever waste is available comes out ... I certainly don't choose between the two!
Men have to, it would seem.
If he needs to pee then sit he males a mess?
if he needs to sit then pee he makes a mess!
Have the doctor test him more and BTW test his pelvic floor muscles too (or you do it with him stopping streams of urine). It might show lack of control he can learn.
Good luck!
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