T.R. asks from Mission Viejo, CA on August 23, 2007
10 Month Old Waking up in Middle of Night
My 10 month old recently started waking up in the middle of the night crying. There doesnt seem to be anything wrong with him he just wants to be held. As soon as I pick him up he stops crying and will close his eyes but the minute I lay him back down he starts crying again. The first few times I rocked him back to sleep then layed him down but it seems like it is getting to be a habit and it is very exhausting. The last two times I went in and layed him down then let him cry thinking he would eventualy fall asleep on his own but after about 20 minutes of screaming I gave in again. What do I do? I can't keep getting up with him. It sometimes takes up to 30 or 40 minutes to get him back to sleep when I sit with him. By the time he goes to sleep I am awake and it takes me another 20 minutes to get to sleep. I am exhausted! I will try anything to break this cycle.
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T.F. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
I got tired of getting up and down constantly too when my baby was that age. I found that we both slept better together. I researched about co-sleeping and found Dr. Sears and never went back!
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp
J.P. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
T.,
my baby did that when she was about 10 months. What I did was instead of going in there as soon as I heard her crying, i would let her cry for a bit.. she started putting herself back to sleep. If the cry got bad or if it was about 10 minutes, I would go in there and give her lovin or whatever she needed but now she sleeps through the night. The other thing is I don't usually put her down on her back. I never could get her to sleep that way, she would always wake right up as soon as i would put her down. I started putting her down on her side and that worked for me that way if she did start to wake up i could just pat her on her butt for a little bit and rock her back to sleep.
Hope this helps.
~J.
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T.R. answers from San Diego on August 24, 2007
This happened to me too! What ended up being the case was that my son was getting two more teeth. I would try baby orajel (if you can get it in his mouth without too much fuss). That always seem to work for my son and he eventually settled back down and I was able to lay him back down in his crib without fuss. You can also try a little motrin or tylenol before bedtime, this might help him sleep through the pain. Either that or maybe he's having a little growth spurt.
Good luck.
R.N. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
T.,
I know how frustrating it can be, since i myself went through that. My son was 9 months when he started getting up, and he would not cry, he just didn't want to go to bed and of course for me being my first child i thought it was better to give him the attention he was asking for, but my husband didn't agree and suggested that we put him in bed and close the door and let him cry to sleep, so we did and despite my disagreement i have to tell you that it worked, i would check him 10 minutes after and he would be sleeping on the floor by the door, it took only days for him to get used to his room....good luck!
S.H. answers from Honolulu on August 23, 2007
Like the other respondent said, but also, my Pediatrician said that at different age stages and levels of emotional development & growth... they also go through degrees of 'separation anxiety'... where even when they are sleeping, they will sometimes wake up and 'look' for you and want you close by etc. It can start at around 6+ months old. Again, this is a stage and it passes, and then off and on again it may rouse. And sometimes there is just no rhyme or reason as to why they may get up... who knows why. Sleep is not static and even we adults have trouble with it at times. But, it's a stage. It will calm down... and other phases may occur. Yes, it's tiring to have to get up all night.. but well, it will pass, and that's the way it is with a baby. SOMETIMES... the baby may just be truly hungry... and needs to feed. My baby is this way during his growth spurts.. I know that (according to his pattern) that if he can't go back to sleep on his own (which he usually can), then he is simply hungry. I will give him a bottle and he will totally guzzled it down in a few seconds, the entire bottle. Then, he goes back to sleep. At other times, he has gas. Then he goes back to sleep. For my baby... he has a 'transition object', a stuffed cow that he sleeps with, and it's his cuddle object.. and it really helps him to sleep.
Good luck!
~Susan
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G.S. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
You might want to consider that he might be teething. My 23-month-old got one of his lateral incisors a little before 10 months, but all babies are on their own schedule, and some teeth hurt more than others when coming in. Here are a few things you can try at bedtime:
Hyland teething tablets
Valerian Super Calm (by Herbs for Kids)
Tylenol (if you think he is in pain)
You can purchase lots of holistic stuff at www.iherbs.com. They have cheap and fast shipping. I use them all the time. Also, Mother's Market and Henry's have lots of things, too, but they are more expensive in most cases.
As far as the waking up...I know it is hard, but you may have to use the Ferber Method. Here are some links:
http://www.professorshouse.com/family/children/the-ferber...
http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified...
I used this for all of my kids. However, I varied the time in between comforts to semi-random times b/c my kids learned to have an internal timeclock...instead of 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes I did 5, 8, 12, 20, etc.
The main problem you are looking at is that you are training your 10-month-old to wake up and get mommy's comfort in the middle of the night. It will be hard for the first week, but then you will be pleasantly surprised/shocked at the results of your consistency. The first night will be torture for you. It will get worse before it gets better. But I believe you are doing both you and your baby a favor in the long-run by helping both of you to get a good night's sleep. Best wishes!
F.O. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
Have you had is ears checked? I know that sounds funny, but my youngest son was the same way. When they lay down the pressure intensifies, hence the crying. When they are upright the ear canal in stabablized so it feels better. Might be something to look into, at least you'd know otherwise.
Best of luck. I know it's no fun to have sleepless nights:)
K.F. answers from Los Angeles on August 23, 2007
I went thru the same thing. Still not sure if it was the teething. It passed, and it will for you too. I actually have been going through it with my 17 month old just recently again. She screams and cries after being down for an hour or two, and sometimes I even have to take her out of her room to calm her, which is very unsual for her. She wants to be held and rocked, and I lay her down, and she cries again. Normally she goes right down and sleeps thru the night. Some nights I think it's the "night terrors", and some nights I think there's no real reason, other than restlessness on her part. I wish I had an answer, but I don't think there is one. I never let my baby cry more than 10-15 minutes - I can't. Again.... this too shall pass.
K.
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J.F. answers from San Diego on August 24, 2007
Hi T.,
I am a new mom to a two month old so I hope this might help. My daughter was having the same problem with crying and when picked up she would stop. It got to the point where I would have to hold her for hours just so I could get some peace. She was diagnosed with GERD (reflux) She doesn't like to be flat on her back and when it is acting up she wants to be held as you mentioned that your child seems to like. If you want to know any more signs that my daughter had/has with her GERD, let me know. Until then, I hope you are getting some rest!
G.M. answers from Los Angeles on August 24, 2007
well, it is true it could be that your child is teething or it could be something else. If you want, you can talk to your peds doctor to see what he or she say. But one thing you may have to do is either give your child shorter naps to see if that works or when your child wakes up take them into bed with you. Some people may say don't do that while others say they did. I have two children and my first born I did not have to do that while my second one I had no choice. I feel it depends on the child. Each child is different and some things may work for one child while others may not. So these are some things you may want to think about and just see which one works for the both of you! good luck
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