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10 Mo Old Sensitive to Touch with Her Hands

I have noticed that my daughter "flinches" or pulls away every time I touch her hands. I am a bit concerned. She will use her hands to touch my face, or reach out to me, but if anyone initiates the touch towards her hands then she gets irritated. She won't even let me grab her hands. Has anyone ever seen this type of behavior? I am working along with a physical therapist to help her roll over, crawl, etc. and some of the exercises require us holding her hands. It makes it even more difficult. Is it a preemie thing? Sensitivity? Sensory problem?



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Hey everybody! Thanks so much for the "detailed" and excellent advice. I think it's a combo of vision, prematurity, and just the way my daughter is. She has new baby glasses but they won't stay on while trying to do PT. (so FRUSTRATING on top of everything else :-) I think I need an OT for sure. I'm trying not to stress about it. In the past few days I have been encouraging Brayden to put her hands in her baby food, but she won't even do that. It's gonna take a lot of time.. I can tell. Thanks again.

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Hi B.. It sounds like it could be more of a sensory integration issue. I would have her evaluated by a good occupational therapist. Both of my sons had similar issues and working with an occupational therapist really helped. You may also want her evaluated by Child Find where they can do an overall analysis.
J. F.

My 16 month old daughter does the same kind of thing. She also has a couple other wierd behaviors like not liking to be upside down and hating kisses. She just started occupational therapy for sensory issues. Although not a problem for my daughter, weak muscle tone is common in children with sensory issues. There are wonderful and informative web sites about sensory processing disorder. Hope this helps. Good luck!

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Well I dont really have much advice to you on the touching hands issue, actually is was the part about you that caught my attention. It appears to me you have an amazing love for your daughter and go through some tough times to get to spend the time with her that you want.
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You might want to mention this to your doctor and keep an eye out for her development.


It could be a sensory processing issue. Since you are working with a PT, you could ask for a referral to an OT who deals with sensory issues. My son is sensory defensive and has sensory processing disorder (he also has autism) and he was sensory defensive of his hands and face. It took a little effort but he'll happily hold hands now. He's gotten much better about the facial defensiveness but sometimes he'll still freak out when we brush his teeth or he gets his hair cut. But he's 99% better than he was 2 years ago (he's 4 now). If she does have some sensory issues going, there is a huge amount that you can do to help her. There is a book called "The Out of Sync Child" and you can get it at amazon.com or just about anywhere. It is a good resource but I don't know how concerned you'd really need to be with a 10 month old. Your PT may be able to help you decide if she needs an evaluation.


This sounds like something called "tactile defensiveness" and it can be part of some signs and symptoms of sensory issues. This is a very common sign or symptom of sensory issues. I am a PT and a mom of a 31 weeker and we have been dealing with this. Are you receiving PT via Early Intervention? If you are, I would contact your DDD representative or case manager and he or she can arrange for an Occupational Therapy evaluation. There are surveys and "tests" that they can do to evaluate this. Don't be discouraged if you will be dealing with this. It can be managed successfully. Does she like bear hugs? Prior to touching her hands, try applying deep pressure to her via bear hugs. Sometimes deep pressure helps individuals with this in organizing themselves and allows them to interpret this sensation appropriately. In tactile defensiveness, or any other sensory issues, the child receives the sensory input and misinterprets it. Sometimes children respond to light touch as painful or aggressive, instead of how it should be. I would also talk to your PT and ask about possible joint compressions through the upper extremities (arms) prior to work requiring her hands. That pressure may help "organize" her as the deep pressure (bear hugs) may.

Hi B.,
It sounds like your wonderful Brayden has some sensory preferences. I think they can be common in premature babies. There are some activities that you can do with her to encourage touch. Offer her lots of variety such as clean plastic butter tubs (fill with some beans for noise), different fabric textures, warm soapy water in a bowl, fingerpaint with baby food (yep, it works). The best video I have seen to offer ideas is Goof Juice-MY SKY.
Find it on-line. It sells in several different web stores. If you make the activity look really fun and different, she will eventually be drawn to it. If you like my ideas, write me back.
S. P.
Mother of 5
Early Ed. Teacher/writer

It is not uncommon for preemies to be sensitive to touch. Ask your physical therapist about deep pressure and what kinds of things you can do to work her out of this stage.

M. from Colorado Springs

I agree with Marla M. I would definetly get her an appointment to get her eyes checked.

Could be a number of things. Did you breast feed? Notice anything then? You might try letting Brayden "see" that you are about to touch her before you do so. . .try this slowly at first and then graduate toward normal touching. It may not be a sign of sensory issues such as occur with autism spectrum disorders or asperger's syndrome.
It could be a stage of "independence" that she is going through. . . the "I want to do it myself first!" stage. . ??
Have you consulted with the physical therapist on this behavior? You know her best. Consider it within her behavior range as a whole.

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