M.C. asks from Fairfax, VA on February 19, 2009
1 Year Old Son Clearing High Chair of Food
My son just turned 1 last week. HE has started "swiping" his food off the high chair tray after only eating a little bit. Not only is it a HUGE mess with every meal I am worried he is not eating enough. I tell him a very firm NO as soon as I see him do it but he still goes right on and does it with joy I might add. HE is very independent and throws a fit when I try to feed him myself. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop? Im so tired of cleaning a whole meal out of the floor at each meal time.
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K.H. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
I really enjoyed being a mom except for the high chair and floor cleaning after meals. Spinach on the floor and high chair had me in tears one day, wishing that I was back in an office. That said, I can see how throwing the food on the floor could be really funny from a little boy perspective, especially if Mom has a huge reaction. Kids understand so much more than they can verbalize back. So I would tell him that he cannot have his plate anymore because he made a mess. And that when he practices keeping food on the tray, he can have more. Then let him have a very small portion. He may like having a spoon or even a kid size fork and a tiny cup with a ounce of liquid. Just give him a little bit at a time. He won't starve but he may fuss and be mad at the loss of his big game. Don't give a snack later unless he sits back in the high chair. You might want to eat off a cute kid plate and let him know that he can have one too if he learns to eat neatly.
Also, toddlers really enjoy cleaning up - sometimes too much and will make a mess just to clean it. But try giving him a wipe or a well-wrung sponge so he can pick up after himself. He could sweep crumbs into a dust pan too.
Good luck and have fun with him.
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S.M. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
He WILL grow out of it. I don't think that any mom gets away with not doing the floor thing. The other moms already gave you the same advice I would give - less food on the table at a time, when the food REALLY starts to fly, just take him down. He is finished. In my house, my oldest was failure to thrive from the time she came to us at 15mos. If she didn't eat what we considered an adequate amount of food by the end of the day, we gave her a pediasure before bed (brush the teeth after). No one wants a hungry baby waking up at 2-3am...They are packed with vitamins and abt 200calories.
Good luck. New and equally fun things to follow...
S.
M.B. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
When we feed our 11-month old we just give him one or two bite-sized servings of food at a time on his tray-- couple of peas, pinch of rice, lump of liverwurst (he loves liverwurst!)... We don't put food in his mouth but let him pick it up and eat it himself (or if it's something like oatmeal, hand him the spoon). When the food or the spoon start going over the side, then we know he doesn't want any more!
K.L. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
I would say get used to it. Now he is doing it for fun, but later when he starts to use utensils he will still drop food everywhere by accident. I finally put down a large plastic mat (the kind we use under office chairs) to make clean-up easier. Having children means having a mess. :)
K.H. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
I really enjoyed being a mom except for the high chair and floor cleaning after meals. Spinach on the floor and high chair had me in tears one day, wishing that I was back in an office. That said, I can see how throwing the food on the floor could be really funny from a little boy perspective, especially if Mom has a huge reaction. Kids understand so much more than they can verbalize back. So I would tell him that he cannot have his plate anymore because he made a mess. And that when he practices keeping food on the tray, he can have more. Then let him have a very small portion. He may like having a spoon or even a kid size fork and a tiny cup with a ounce of liquid. Just give him a little bit at a time. He won't starve but he may fuss and be mad at the loss of his big game. Don't give a snack later unless he sits back in the high chair. You might want to eat off a cute kid plate and let him know that he can have one too if he learns to eat neatly.
Also, toddlers really enjoy cleaning up - sometimes too much and will make a mess just to clean it. But try giving him a wipe or a well-wrung sponge so he can pick up after himself. He could sweep crumbs into a dust pan too.
Good luck and have fun with him.
C.M. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
Hi. You might want to try what we do, which is to put just a couple pieces of food on our son's tray at a time. As he gets older, he'll do well eating when he's hungry, but as soon as he's feeling full, he'll play with his food and throw it down for the dog to eat. We're not believers in cleaning one's plate, so if he's satisfied, he's done with his meal. His weight and heights are great, so we know he's getting enough. We also supplement with healthy snacks between meals. Hope this help.
J.B. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
hey M.! my daughter does this all the time, although now at 18 months she's starting to outgrow it. I only give her a little bit of food at a time (two pieces of something) and more when she's done. it's definitely more time consuming for me to do that, but it's better than cleaning the floor! Also, i talk to her a lot when she's eating, and ask her to hand me her plate when she's done- which hallelujah she's starting to do! :) hang in there, it'll get better!
E.K. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
All of my kids(3) did this, it's normal. It's the continuation of the drop the toys from the stroller game, how many times will Mommy do this. He will eat when he's hungry, until then put a shower curtain on the floor under and around the eating area. He is old enuf now to help you clean up some of his mess. HAve fun, it will end soon enough.
A.F. answers from Washington DC on February 20, 2009
Try giving him only a few bites of food at a time. He is playing a game with his foods. AF
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