G.W. asks from Puyallup, WA on September 19, 2008
1 1/2 Year Old Refuses to Give up Bottle
I have a stubborn strong willed independant 1 1/2 y.o. who refuses to give up her bottle. I have pretty much gotten it down to only a bottle at nap times and bed time. The thing is she will drink water and juice from her sippy cup, but if I put milk in it she will throw and refuse to drink. To add to that she will not drink her milk cold it was to be warmed just a little bit. I have tried having her throw her bottles away and telling her she's a big girl. But then she just wont drink any milk and I can't have that she still needs all the vitamins and nutrients from the milk. I need a way to get her to give up that bottle and swithch to her sippy cup full-time.
So What Happened?™
Well now we have to try even harder to get this accomplished sooner I was just going to take it the slower route but now I found out Ava has to get tubes in her ears and the doctor wants her off the bottle prior to surgery which is in two weeks.The doctor said the bottles could be a contributing factor to the re-occuring ear infections and that the bottles could also make the tubes fall out prematurley
N.S. answers from Portland on September 22, 2008
I don't know if this will help, but you could try to cut the bottle nipples and show her that it is "broken". That is how I broke my daughter off of binki's. Hope this helps.
J.C. answers from Anchorage on September 22, 2008
I have seen some people saying to just let her have the bottle at bed time, but unless it is filled with plain water a baby should never have a bottle at bed time, it will rot her incoming teeth. My boys gave up the bottle at about 13 or 14 months, because once they proved they could use a sippy, all the bottles disappeared. And they did not get any juice or the such until they drank their milk.
C.M. answers from Bellingham on September 21, 2008
I wouldn't worry about it. All children will give up the bottle eventually on there own. My 17-month old still takes a bottle at nap and bedtime and I have decided not to sweat it. I have worried way too much over issues in the past where he has not reached certain so-called "milestones" at the appropriate time. He has always come around in his own time and usually when I am least expecting it. Every child is different and has different needs. Remember that there is such a wide range of "normal"
My son takes such comfort in his two ten-minute sessions with the bottle (he has never had any desire for a stuffed animal, blanket or other comfort object, by the way) that I have decided not to make a battle out of the bottle. I just brush his teeth quickly afterwards.
My mom told me that my brother had a bottle until he was 3 and now he is a perfectly normal adult with healthy teeth.
Good luck whatever you decide!
J.H. answers from Portland on September 19, 2008
I just went through alittle of the same thing with my 15 month twin boys. My first 2kids were super easy. But these guys werent so easy at all. But it has been a week now since any bottles. Yeah! First I picked a quick date just to go cold turkey. My boys didnt really like the sippy cups much at well. So I just kept trying different ones. We now have about 10 different kinds. The one they finally liked was the one with the soft spout(soft like a bottle) I think its Munchkin brand. Anyway i just always have that avail for them. I put juice, water , or milk in them. When they got fussy or wanted the bottle I would offer them the cup.When they got mad I would try something different,for me the boys really love to dance so I would turn the music on and dance with them. It was really hard at times but I just kept offering other things of comfort, snacks, and trying to take their attention off the bottle. It was also helpful for me to pick days when I would be with them most of the day. So I could give them comfort. We also did music at night when it was bed time,with the cup full of water. We are still doing that now and its working. I amnot a fan of cry it out, but this time was harder than last time, but I really feel not giving in was an important part of this. Good luck and hope this was helpful to you.
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J.V. answers from Seattle on September 20, 2008
It sound to me like you are giving your daughter way too much control. Children do not need a bottle after 12 months. especially since she drinks fron a sippy cup fine. I have 5 children and weaned them all at 12 months with no problem. Just remove all the bottles from her. get rid of them all from the house so you don't slip up. She will not doubt throw a fit, mine did but it only lasts a day or so and when she realizes that they are gone she will be fine with the sippy. Also don't worry about the milk thing she can get the vitamins in alot of different ways from other foods. Be strong and don't give in. that is the key or she will then know how better to manipualte you to get what she wants. good luck
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R.S. answers from Seattle on September 19, 2008
I think there is too much pressure from doctors and peers to get rid of the bottle at such an early age. Babies need that comfort and at 1 1/2 they still are so young. My 3 boys were all around 2 1/2 when they gave up their bottle in the morning and at bedtime. They also loved it warmed up. Now they are 8, 7 and 5 and are doing just fine although they had the bottle a little longer than the doctor said they should. Good luck!
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K.S. answers from Seattle on September 19, 2008
We give our daughter rice milk. It is somewhat like water. She loves it! You can try that and see. :) I agree with picking and choosing the battles too. My daughter at 13 months just quit, the defiance for her came later. LOL Now she is almost 3 and very independent. It will happen in time. With our daughter we told her the bottle went night night. We still do this with TV when we are turning it off. It was helpful and she understood that bottle time was finished. :)
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M.B. answers from Seattle on September 19, 2008
We as parents need to pick and choose our battles. You need to ask yourself the following question: Is it really worth the tantrums to get rid of her bottles? If the answer is yes, then go through the power struggle to get rid of them for good. If the answer is no, let her keep the bottles. If you then decide to let her keep the bottles, after you put her to bed the night before her 2nd birthday take every bottle in the house and make them disappear. About a month before her 2nd birthday I'd start talking with her and warning her that they're gonna go to the bottle fairy for babies/into the garbage/away (whatever you decide).
Another thing: until the age of 2 young children need the extra fat in milk/formula for brain growth and development. They get the vitamins and nutrients from other foods. This is the information that my MIL gave me when I was pregnant with my oldest, and reminded me of with my youngest. She has a degree in early childhood education.
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J.C. answers from Seattle on September 20, 2008
Truly- it sounds to me as though you've done a stunning job already--- if she gets slightly warm milk when she's lying down-- is that really a problem??? -- I would say you've already accomplished so MUCH --- she's only 18 months old -. Unless your pediatrician says there's a huge downside for HER ( is she having lots of ear infections? - is she allergic?)_ if there's no big medical problem --- couldn't she have another few months to come to a state of balance herself???
I retired a year ago as a preschool teacher for Northshore schools - and many many of my 3 year olds were given bottles in bed ( and I thought past 3 was TOOOO old - but they hadn't asked, so I didn't offer my lovely advice unless asked lololol) the one rule we had was '''''School is not for bottles - '''' unless there was a medical necessity - and in some cases - there was- . Think of all the transitions she's had to weather in 18 months - birth, day-care- walking - eating solid food, - some rudimentary structure ( which is the skeleton of discipline ) and limiting her ( obviously) beloved bottle to bed-times -- that's a LOT --- if there's no reason medically for this particular child - I really encourage you to give her more time.
I'd also encourage you to have her help you make some some smoothies ( really heavy on the milk ) as part of her bed-time ritual- and you and Dad sit down and drink with her - some delicious smoothy that she helped you make- from a straw, perhaps??? --- and then as time goes on- she may enjoy that ritual so much- that the bottle gets a little blah- becasue you can RELY - she wants to be like you and Dad- and you guys DON'T drink from bottles - ( if you carry around water bottles- - give her one just like yours)
Many Blessings, you're doing a fabulous job -
dont put so many demands on yourself
A.M. answers from Eugene on September 22, 2008
For some reason there is such a stigma with the bottle, your daughter is only 18 months, I wouldnt worry so much about it...my daughter was almost 2 when I got serious about her giving up the milk in the bottle habit, and that was only because we were going to be traveling in Central America and I didnt want to be in a situation where i had to find her milk (from sources I didnt know and trust) or refrigeration if we didnt have it...so that was my concern! I started about a month before we left for our trip and basically it didnt happen overnight, but it was a gradual process that involved some distraction towards other bedtime things, ie. reading stories, singing a song, just getting her mind on other things, even if she asked for the bottle. We would just simply say "not tonight" and then change the subject--she protested a bit at first, but after a few minutes, she would be distracted enough to move onto something else...bedtime did take a bit longer as the bottle always soothed her, and she has NEVER drank cow's milk since giving up the bottle...just no interest whatsoever. But she does get plenty of calcium and the other vitamins in milk from other sources of dairy as well as fortified soy and almond milks. I was very surprised at how easily she did give up the bottle because she was pretty addicted to the bedtime one too...and she is a very strong willed little Taurus...so give it some time, try some of the other good suggestions, and dont feel pressured by society or your pediatrician if it is not right for your child...she'll give it up when she's ready!
K.S. answers from Yakima on September 20, 2008
This may sound like torture, but, just throw the bottle away.
I had a similar issue with my oldest and I told him that he was big, I was the "mommy and I make the rules", and that we were not going to have the bottle any more. She'll come around! Until she does come around start to give her cereal with milk, cottage cheese, string cheese or anything that is dairy in a different form and if you are really worried consider introducing a daily vitamin. She'll get all the fats and nutrients she needs.
Also, she'll have a pediatrician appointment at 2, you can talk to the doctor about it. They've heard it all, and may be a parent with a similar experience, and often times have terrific advice.